On Oct 28, I was suppose to start HRT, but because I had to go through a few blood work I'm not going to be officially starting until Nov 18th. I am very excited. I feel as though I have been waiting my whole life for this. Because I will be starting HRT soon, I told my mom since I feel she needed to know. I pretty much came out to her all over again. Sat down, had a good heart to heart talk and in the end she said...
"Whatever you do, whatever makes you feel the most comfortable, do it."
And she had said this before...but like before she suddenly has a change in her emotions in regards to transitioning and completely flips. She just walked into my room and said...
"I want you to rethink this...I mean who knows? You're young now, you're not thinking straight, what if you regret doing this later on?"
and now suddenly she wants to meet my HRT doctor and think I should continue therapy with my psychologist (and mind you, before she DID NOT WANT ME TO GO SEE A PSYCHOLOGIST AT ALL...she think they're all BS).
I don't care if she wants to meet my HRT doctor or whatever, I'm going to go through with HRT on Nov 18th. I have decided this a long time ago that I'm going to be doing this for me, not for anyone else. That this is my life.
But what do you guys think? Should I let her come up with me on the 18th to meet my doctor, or whatever? Because I'm not too comfortable with that. I'll be more than happy to explain stuff to her, but I'm not comfortable with her trying to meet my doctor and then trying to control my life. Btw I don't know if it matters but I'm 21 years of age.
My advice would be not to have your mom meet your doc. Sounds like she's having second thoughts. It doesn't sound like that meeting would go well at all. Honestly, I'd just tell her what you said in your post, that her coming along would make you feel uncomfortable. And end it there. I wouldn't go into any more detail than that. Sometimes the less said the better.
Thanks Jen for the reply and advice. That's what I was thinking and what I'm going to do. Thanks a lot! :)
Hate to say this, but such mood swings tend to indicate other problems.
She seems a bit unstable right now, so mich be best keeping her out of the loop.
Sounds like my mom. Good intentions coupled with extreme mood swings and general instability. The best you can do is to counter with extreme stability - be level-headed, kind yet firm, and consistent. Keep stating the same facts, in a calm voice, regardless of her mood. When she gets too emotional to listen, tell her you'll talk about it later.
Having her meet the doctor would probably be a good idea. This will help to make it clear that you're not the only one who thinks you have GID, that it is a medical diagnosis, that you're being seen by a competent professional, and that this is real. The more you can do to show her you're serious and familiarize her with the situation, the better. People are less fearful of things they're familiar with.
Like you said, you're 21, do it if you know it will make you happier person.