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After 25 years of closeted crossdressing, I finally went out in public fully dressed. I went shopping and still haven't come down from cloud 9. Even though I suspect a few of the people I encountered knew my secret, no one said a thing. For full details please check out my blog and see me in my brand new outfits.
http://sissyalyssa.posterous.com/# (http://sissyalyssa.posterous.com/#)
Please comment.
I've been so motivated by the stories I've read here, that I finally had the courage to take that next step myself. I'm so glad I did. Today was awesome. Just better than I ever imagined. There were definitely some tense moments, but that just added to experience.
I'm so grateful this site exists. It is because the people who visit here are so inviting, friendly, and most all supportive that today was possible for me. So from the bottom of my heart THANK YOU. :icon_flower: :icon_flower: :-* :-*
I am glad you had a nice day out. Wishing you many more nice days out. Thank you for sharing that with us. :)
~Hugs~
Mrs Erocse
So glad you had a great time. And remember the first one is the difficult one. So get those shoppin shoes aready
Hugs
Cindy
Quote from: CindyJames on November 30, 2010, 10:27:14 PM
So get those shoppin shoes aready.
Hugs
Cindy
Yes, yes, yes! Get good shopping shoes. They are very important to great days out. :)
Doc Martin used to make these kick ass steel-toed Mary Janes. There were cute and they hurt. Awesome combination.
A comfy pair of heels and an unlimited credit card. My kind of heaven. ;D
cdalyssa
Well done. Had a look at the photos on your site. You look smart.
Really pleased for you and full of admiration.
Bravo Alyssa!
You and your new outfits look great.
I wish I had the self confidence to even think of going shopping alone as Susan; just the thought of doing all you described in you blog frightens me.
Susan
Congratulations!!
Spacial, Thanks for looking at my pictures and for the very kind words. I agonized for days about even starting that blog. I want to be more active online with my femme persona, but have been so nervous that someone I don't want to see it, might see it. But joining this site and Twitter & some other transgender social sites, I found that I was only hurting myself by succumbing to my fears. Now, I'm coming out of my shell and not letting my fears control me. Even though we haven't met, you have been a very inspirational person for me, so thank you again. :-* :-* :-*
Susan, thank you for the kind words. I have faith you will one day go shopping without giving it a second thought. I was saying those exact words you said to me, to so many other ladies who've ventured out in public, just weeks ago. The courage those ladies showed me was so inspiring, that I was able to take that huge step out my front door and face my fear head on. It was so worth it. Good luck in facing yours.
Thank you to everyone else for saying such lovely words. I'm still weeping with happy tears. You are the most inspirational community this gurl is honored to know. :-* :-* :angel: :angel:
I remember my first time out shopping whiled CD'ed. It was a blast.
On a related note, most bio-females I know hate being called "ma'ma." While I was out shopping, I was called "ma'am" left and right and it was great!
Congratulations!
Congratulations! The feeling is so good, isn't it? The best thing is that you get to try all the cool stuff on so you can see how it looks without imagining.
The only thing I feel a little embarrassed about buying as a man is underwear, so I try to stock up when dressed!
I read your blog and I think you are super brave going into a place full of construction workers. They are the only people who make me feel a bit uncomfortable when I am out at the mall. Then again, big groups of men like that make me a bit self-conscious as a man too!
Congratulations! I hope you have many more wonderful shopping experiences. :) As for your outfits, the teal-blue top and black leggings look great on you. Keep up the style! :)
Well done Alyssa, I would love so much to go out shopping during the day like you did.
Very inspirational....kisses and hugs,
Rebecca xx
Way to go girl.
Alyssa I still remember my first outing.
OMG I was on cloud 9 for a couple weeks
Always hang on to those happy memories.
Jillieann
Quote from: Rebecca.R on December 07, 2010, 04:01:22 AM
Well done Alyssa, I would love so much to go out shopping during the day like you did.
Very inspirational....kisses and hugs,
Rebecca xx
You can do it Rebecca. It just takes that first step through the door. If your avatar is anything to go by you will have no problems at all. You look very cute and feminine.
Try it girl, go buy Rebecca a Christmas present
Cindy
Awesome, I bet you felt so great while out and about :police:
Congratulations! I remember how terrifying that first time was, then how exciting and wonderful. As others have said, once you get out your first time, the rest is easier. Enjoy.
If you wanna read about my first time, you can find it here:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,10208.msg73285.html#msg73285 (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,10208.msg73285.html#msg73285)
Again, congrats!
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I was going to post this separately but I thought it would fit here.
I was out for dinner last night with sister in law (Jen) and I think I attracted a pervert. In the middle of Glenelg, a big tourist area. A older guy followed us around, I was warned by a few shop keepers that I was being trailed. I managed to confront him in front of a security guard at a jewelry store." When I confronted him about following me he replied that I was the most gorgeous woman in the world I felt quite ill.
He then walked quickly away away.
Still, I was in the busiest area in Adelaide for 3-4 hours, had dinner, ordered the dinner (still not happy about the voice) but waiters won't say boo.
I noticed a few people looking at me, no probs probably fancy me. I am after all, in heels I'm about 6 foot, 65 kilos, a cute brunette with legs that go for ever. The only reason I say that is because Jen said so, when I asked why she thought guys looked at me it. She is short and gorgeous.
But I didn't like this fellow.
Oh well
Never get put off, no one else seemed to notice, the shop people who cautioned me that I was being followed would never have bothered telling a guy ::). And the security guard woke up when we confronted the person, and looked to be concerned for us, and in fact stood by us until the fellow disappeared. And all he said was, are you ladies OK?
Cindy
Nice feeling isn't it. :)
Congrats and I'm very proud of you. Hopefully there will be many more exciting adventures.
I proud of you one more that goes out and says is amazing!!!
i am not still passing the barrier of going to public areas full of people, maybe soon......
have a happy 2011 heeling year!!!!!!!!
Quote from: Veronica Morph on December 29, 2010, 01:34:27 AM
I proud of you one more that goes out and says is amazing!!!
i am not still passing the barrier of going to public areas full of people, maybe soon......
have a happy 2011 heeling year!!!!!!!!
OK Veronica,
Why not?
You have a heap of sisters to help if you wish. And New Year resolutions are coming up ;D
Cindy
Congrats, "ALL JOURNEYS START WITH A FIRST STEP" I hope you enjoy more of them in the future. I still remember my first foray too. Such a great feeling!
Did some Christmas shopping last week (dressed) and planning to do the same, bargain hunting in the Sales with my girlfriend/partner, next week...
LL&R
Maebh
It should be a small thing, but it really isn't ,is it?
I'm envious of you right now, but congrat's.
Wow! That is so Fantastic!! I am ecstatic for you and everyone else that has the courage to make themselves happy!! I finally did my first trip downtown with friends, went to a dance club.... got carded(wow!! I'm 44) ..... had women asking me how I made walking in heels so easy... :D
I hope that feeling for you never wears off!! Loved your pics too! Great shots!!
Congratulations I wish I could have been dressed and with you and dressed. I really envy you. Hage a great day.
What a great experience - it only gets easier.
I am envious. This has to be a big accomplishment and one of my goals. If one can accept their self, I think one will have the confidence to blend in with everyday people. I could never pass but I don't believe that is the point. Yes it would be easier, but there is so much more.
Samantha
;) Alyssa, after about five times , it gets so darned easy, yer going to the Grocery store , to church, to run a postal errand , heck, yer a almost full timer then . I know cause I did just that !!!!!!!!!! :o ellen
Alyssa dear, Try grocery shopping. It is fun. I personally can NOT shop for clothes, jewelry or shoes while enfemme. There is no way my income can support my desires. OMG! I NEED every pair of heels I see. "If the shoe fits, buy a pair in in every color." You may now be a "Shopaholic."
Did someone say shopping?
I'm more than ready. ;D
congrats. When I first went out dressed i was scared to death but the next time was fun.
QuoteWhen I first went out dressed i was scared to death but the next time was fun.
And the next time, and the next time and the next time ... ;)
Once you start your hooked.
And before you know it you will want to go fully time and so hate to go back to a gender neutral or guy mode.
Quote from: Jillieann on August 14, 2011, 03:23:14 PM
And the next time, and the next time and the next time ... ;)
Once you start your hooked.
And before you know it you will want to go fully time and so hate to go back to a gender neutral or guy mode.
Jillieann, I already correspond with someone here in my city who is going through a similar situation . He/ now fast becoming a She . As such, she is experiencing a world that was closed to her and "SHE" is also realizing that the Drugs she once depended upon are no longer required and a whole NEW WORLD is at her feet ! ;D ellen
So I'm going to be silly and respond directly to the title.
So...if you finally went shopping fully dressed how did you get away with forgetting a shoe or maybe even your trousers? I try to make sure I'm dressed all the way before stepping outside, I don't want to forget something important such as my shirt.
QuoteI don't want to forget something important such as my shirt.
Oh my goodness no.
:o
Once I could go outside without a shirt but not with these girls. ;)
I wish i had the courage to go out but am still a closet dresser
I wasn't courageous, I was petrified and almost didn't go.
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What is the worst that could happen to you caseyaustralia?
And will it be the end of the world for you?
If not what do you have to loose?
Just be safe about it. If you have a friend that will go with you that is great.
I didn't so just went to the mall during the day when there were lots of people around.
That way I didn't stand out so much.
Good luck to you.
Hi Casey,
Australia is a very easy place to go out. People are very relaxed. I've never had so much as a boo. I'm in Adelaide SA and I know girls in Perth, Melbourne, Sydney, Brisbane, and soon Hobart, and no one has ever said they have had a problem. Just takes the first time.
Cindy
Congratulations on your shopping trip I am truely happy for you. Maybe one day I will have the courage to go out shopping en femme as you did. You and so many other sisters here provide inspiration to those of us who are afraid to take this first step. Maybe one day I can take this step as well.
Quote from: Cindy James on December 29, 2010, 01:50:18 AM
OK Veronica,
Why not?
You have a heap of sisters to help if you wish. And New Year resolutions are coming up ;D
Cindy
I was reading back this thread and have to update my status...i did it too one month ago going out on daytime and where all the people goes, hundred of people on the central plaza and main toursitic areas where i live, crazy i felt magic and very scared but i did it, i will post the whole staory on a different thread, and after that outing i did other two in the evneing also to busy streets, i loved it.
That's great Veronica.
I so love being treated as the women I am and I am sure you do too.
Even thou I'm not into guys I love there holding doors and checking me out.
And I so love that I am in the women circle. They often smile and talked to me .
Oh yes they often check me out from head to toe.
Just like you would check out the competition.
Just love it.
You go girl go.