When it starts to seem like transition will begin now, no matter what. When you just can't bring yourself to pose as female anymore, and just find yourself slipping naturally into the male role, and really liking it. When it all just seems inevitable, and you know you're going to be a lot happier.
I've been putting off transition for at least 10 years. Didn't want to deal with the hassle. Didn't want to be more of a freak than I already am. But I don't think I can put it off any longer. I can't keep pretending to be something I'm not (and really suck at even pretending to be). I need to stop hiding from the world and fooling myself. Here I am in a very trans-friendly city. What better time and place to start transitioning?
I've been in contact with a therapist who works with trans people. I think I'm really going to go through with this.
Go for it, Jimmy P. ;)
Seriously though, that's awesome. And good luck to you in your transition. You deserve to be true to yourself.
Good luck!
(you will be much happier)
Good luck man!
Good luck! I think about waiting to make sure it's the right choice for me, but I can't imagine waiting 10 years!
that first step is one of the hardest! you can do it :)
Good luck! 4 years was my breaking point, can't even imagine what 10 would be like. When it's that important to you, transition helps, a lot.
At any rate, you won't know until you go.
Good luck!
If you can't stand it anymore, you have to do something. Go for it. What's the worst that can happen--you'll find out that you can be happy the way you are, or you'll find out that you can be happy if you change...you'll probably run into some challenges on the way, but it's better than putting yourself on hold for another decade.
Good for you! Good luck! 8)
It's difficult and scary once you realize this. Your whole world will change. However, it's freeing at the same time.
There will be very hard times ahead, it's unavoidable. But, once you get to the point you're at there's no choices left. Good luck- you can do it! :)
Thanks, everyone. I had been trying to hold out until a better time, but I guess there really is no "good time to transition" and I might as well go for it now, when I have nothing to lose. It's not so intimidating when I keep in mind that it's just one step at a time. Starting therapy does not equate to starting T tomorrow. I know I'll be happier after transition. It's just a matter of getting through everything in between.
Erocse and I are wishing you the best. :) In our mind you are already there.
~Hugs~
Erocse & Patty
Alex, I think I am with you in finally starting ... I have been delaying it for years as well....and went through a period of if I just had top surgery then I would be okay...but I finally have taken the plunge and going to become who I was meant to be....if you need someone to be scared with I will gladly step up ... I have attended two transgender meetings - still working on setting my first therapy apt.
Quote from: Alexmakenoise on December 10, 2010, 10:54:59 AMIt's just a matter of getting through everything in between.
We all know what you mean. It's tough. We're all here for you.
Rob, how did the meetings go? I am going to start going to one nearby, but I'm sort of afraid that it's going to be a really small group of all mid/post transition guys.
Good luck man! longer the wait, better the satisfaction in the end.
Quote from: Lee on December 10, 2010, 01:19:59 PM
Rob, how did the meetings go? I am going to start going to one nearby, but I'm sort of afraid that it's going to be a really small group of all mid/post transition guys.
It went well but I was the youngest person there at 39 ... but in our community we have another program that works with youth ... 25 and younger & we have a therapist who runs group for her clients and that is age range 20-40 ... so there is options.
I enjoyed the group. Everyone takes you at face value. Funny thing at the last group one of the older woman said "girl I so can help you look more feminine ... I can get you passing for a woman" I laughed.
Quote from: Rob on December 12, 2010, 10:13:16 PM
Funny thing at the last group one of the older woman said "girl I so can help you look more feminine ... I can get you passing for a woman" I laughed.
That's really funny. I'm glad it went well.
I can relate to that turning point Alex. I am awaiting a therapist's appointment myself. One way or another we will get sorted out. Best foot forward an all that.
Dude, YES! You are NOT alone! I just hit that time too, and man, it feels freaking amazing!
Finally beginning to identify with the right gender, getting excited for the future events that are going to occur, like being able to go SHIRTLESS places. And being called "Sir"!
And of course, SIDEBURNS.
I'm right alongside you, bro, transitioning into the wonderful, manly world of body hair and picking up chicks with terrible pick-up lines. Or dudes, if that's what you like!
Stay strong, live long and prosper, and GO FOR THE FREAKING GOLD MAN!!!!
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Finally beginning to identify with the right gender, getting excited for the future events that are going to occur, like being able to go SHIRTLESS places.
That's probably the only thing I'll miss after I transition to female. I absolutely love not wearing a shirt, especially in the summer when there is a lot of sun. I find every excuse to not wear a shirt, because I know that I won't be able to do it much once my breasts start developing.
QuoteI'm right alongside you, bro, transitioning into the wonderful, manly world of body hair and picking up chicks with terrible pick-up lines.
Just make sure that you are sober when you use the terrible pick-up lines. Nothing is worse than some stinking drunk guy trying to hit on some chick. I saw a guy do that once and he's lucky he wasn't slapped in the face.
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Just make sure that you are sober when you use the terrible pick-up lines. Nothing is worse than some stinking drunk guy trying to hit on some chick. I saw a guy do that once and he's lucky he wasn't slapped in the face.
Sober is the only way to do it!