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Title: I can't believe how quickly it's come round
Post by: Rock_chick on December 10, 2010, 02:59:12 PM
In just over 3 weeks time I'll be going full time...finally convergence between my mental image of myself and how other people get to see me. I remember how life was 8 months ago...i would never have thought i could ever be in this place...or how far i would have come in such a short time. I can't even imagine being that person I was anymore, it's just too alien to my life at the moment to want to be stuck in that cage again.

So in the next three and a bit weeks I have to buy a load of work clothes and finally get my hair properly styled (it's only taken 8 moths to get it to the length it is now). Yeah it's a bit scary...but it's also exciting and I can't wait to get my new employee card with a proper picture of me on it (instead of some dude who looks a bit like wolverines IT geek younger brother). My team mates at work even want to mark the day with various treats (pink themed of course :laugh:).

Title: Re: I can't believe how quickly it's come round
Post by: cynthialee on December 10, 2010, 04:22:53 PM
**YAY**
Title: Re: I can't believe how quickly it's come round
Post by: AweSAM! on December 10, 2010, 04:23:11 PM
Helena, it's amazing how HRT has complimented you so quickly. It's no wonder you're going full time. It's time to enjoy the fruits of your labour.
Title: Re: I can't believe how quickly it's come round
Post by: Janet_Girl on December 10, 2010, 04:46:35 PM
So you will come to the dark side.  >:-)  Mahahahahahahaha

Actually you will love finally being yourself.  Every day it is a joy to wake up as yourself.
Title: Re: I can't believe how quickly it's come round
Post by: cynthialee on December 10, 2010, 05:09:04 PM
Quote from: Janet Lynn on December 10, 2010, 04:46:35 PM
So you will come to the dark side.  >:-)  Mahahahahahahaha

Actually you will love finally being yourself.  Every day it is a joy to wake up as yourself.
THIS!
Title: Re: I can't believe how quickly it's come round
Post by: V M on December 10, 2010, 05:17:54 PM
That's great Helena  :)

We'll be wanting pic.s of the day's festivities  ;D
Title: Re: I can't believe how quickly it's come round
Post by: K8 on December 10, 2010, 05:37:46 PM
Yay! :eusa_dance:  How wonderful that your workmates are so supportive.  You go, girl!

BTW: Love your new avatar. :)

- Kate
Title: Re: I can't believe how quickly it's come round
Post by: Rock_chick on December 10, 2010, 06:06:54 PM
We had a q&a session on monday, which was largely redundant because they all knew anyway, and i was fighting off the tears when i told them how much their support meant to me. I really am incredibly lucky to work with the people i do...they're even making a conscious effort with pro-nouns and names, though there's still an odd amusing moment. he he. i don't mind, i've worked with them for years, i think it unreasonable of me to get huffy at the odd mistake.

i'm trying to arrange a team breakfast to say thank you as well.  ;D
Title: Re: I can't believe how quickly it's come round
Post by: Colleen Ireland on December 10, 2010, 06:12:15 PM
I am SO happy for you, Helena!  Even though it's still quite a ways off for me, I look back on the last six months and I'm amazed at how far I've come, too.  Six months ago, I could not imagine I could be out in public dressed as myself, I had no idea how I'd tell my wife and kids about me, or even if this was truly my lot in life.  I have a LONG way to go yet, but every week there's something new, it seems.  Congratulations!
Title: Re: I can't believe how quickly it's come round
Post by: Vanessa_yhvh on December 10, 2010, 11:45:22 PM
I think we all celebrate this with you & hope you will find the process both enlightening & positive.
Title: Re: I can't believe how quickly it's come round
Post by: amandax on December 11, 2010, 12:37:22 AM
Helena, congratulation and so happy for you!
I have to agree with you that when the ball start rolling, it can get faster. I just discussed with my HR yesterday on how to tell management team next week, but by noon today many are notified because one of manager will travel next week, so HR decided to tell them today. the meeting went well. :)
Title: Re: I can't believe how quickly it's come round
Post by: AmySmiles on December 11, 2010, 09:41:04 AM
That's so awesome  ;D  Best of wishes to you for full-timeness.
Title: Re: I can't believe how quickly it's come round
Post by: Sarah B on December 11, 2010, 09:17:20 PM
Hi Helena

Coming to the dark side as Janet put it, for the first time are some of my most cherished  memories.  From sitting in a chair properly dressed for the first time thinking this feels right, going on holidays as me for the first time one year before I finally left my family and friends and knowing I just wanted more of this life. To the final step one year and 3 months later where I was living my life, like I had never lived it before.

So from what you have said, I know you will do extremely well and remember these moments with all your heart, because just like me, those moments will be with you forever.

Oh, by the way as much as I like long hair, your hair style suits you very much.  So don't be to harsh on yourself in that area.  So Janet is this the dark side?  I think not.

Take care and all the best for the future.

My kindest regards
Sarah B
Title: Re: I can't believe how quickly it's come round
Post by: Lacey Lynne on December 12, 2010, 12:07:28 AM
Helena, this is fabulous news ... CONGRATS!

HRT has worked it's magic for you, and more is yet to come.  Genetics + Youth = Magic!  Rock on, girl!  We are SOOO happy for you!  Remember, time is on your side.    ;)
Title: Re: I can't believe how quickly it's come round
Post by: Cindy on December 12, 2010, 01:14:37 AM
Dear Helena,

Fantastic news.
I realise some people may find this a troublesome comment, but I don't mean to be awkward to anyone.

Possibly one of the reasons that your coworkers are being so nice is that you have included them. You are a very attractive woman, but men will still have 'willy scare' for any MtF. But you have managed to present and act as the woman you are. And they can accept it. 

Best wishes for your gorgeous future.

Cindy
Title: Re: I can't believe how quickly it's come round
Post by: Rock_chick on December 12, 2010, 04:02:37 PM
I actually tink that you're right Cindy...one of the women i work with said that she thought i'd gone about things in the right way, talking to people, being happy to answer questions if people had any and generally giving everyone time to get used to the idea rather than it just being a case of "bang! This is the new me!"

it also helps that everyone on the team has seen how much happier i've become as my transition has progressed...they remember the days of me sat at my desk...hood pulled up and not interacting with anyone.
Title: Re: I can't believe how quickly it's come round
Post by: Amazon D on December 12, 2010, 04:15:02 PM
Wow i wasn't sure before and didn't even think about it when i remarked about your eyes in the other thread and i thought you might just be someone's significant other or a person curious as to transitioning (with your phrase gender gifted geek girl) and definately not a TS woman so i am in awe

wow i just found out wow I am  :embarrassed: and  :o
Title: Re: I can't believe how quickly it's come round
Post by: MillieB on December 12, 2010, 04:47:24 PM
Congratulations Helena!

I really hope that it all goes well for you, it looks like the mones are doing their job, you look great.

I'm not going to be far behind you on the f/t thing, I haven't set an exact date yet, but have started warning people that it's going to be January! :o

Take care  M x
Title: Re: I can't believe how quickly it's come round
Post by: Rock_chick on December 12, 2010, 05:15:00 PM
Quote from: M2MtF2FtM on December 12, 2010, 04:15:02 PM
Wow i wasn't sure before and didn't even think about it when i remarked about your eyes in the other thread and i thought you might just be someone's significant other or a person curious as to transitioning (with your phrase gender gifted geek girl) and definately not a TS woman so i am in awe

wow i just found out wow I am  :embarrassed: and  :o

I think you just made my evening. he he  ;D
Title: Re: I can't believe how quickly it's come round
Post by: Tad on December 25, 2010, 08:37:52 PM
Have fun girl!
Title: Re: I can't believe how quickly it's come round
Post by: Rock_chick on January 04, 2011, 01:16:36 PM
Well it was today...and yay, and it was pretty much as i'd hoped, a quiet milestone. It was a huge relief to finally be able to use the ladies and to not have to scuttle downstairs to the disabled loo.
Title: Re: I can't believe how quickly it's come round
Post by: MillieB on January 04, 2011, 01:23:43 PM
Great stuff Helena!  ;D Glad it went well for you, hope it goes as well for me!!! :icon_eek: :icon_yikes: :icon_help:
Title: Re: I can't believe how quickly it's come round
Post by: Sarah B on January 04, 2011, 01:34:32 PM
With that smile and they way Helena talk's, I have no doubt that she is having a lot of fun MillieB.  Anyway Helena, go baby go.

Kind regards
Sarah B
Title: Re: I can't believe how quickly it's come round
Post by: Rock_chick on January 04, 2011, 01:55:28 PM
Quote from: MillieB on January 04, 2011, 01:23:43 PM
Great stuff Helena!  ;D Glad it went well for you, hope it goes as well for me!!! :icon_eek: :icon_yikes: :icon_help:

in one respect it was a massive step, but on the other hand it was barely a step at all. i'm sure when the time is right for you hun it'll go just as smoothly. it's been a lot of hard work getting here but i'm so glad i did it...guess it's time to get rid of/adapt my old boy clothes...i won't be needing them anymore.

anyone want to buy a suit?  :laugh:
Title: Re: I can't believe how quickly it's come round
Post by: hkgurl1480 on January 05, 2011, 08:08:29 AM
wow Helana that is excellent news.

you have come such a long way, it has been awesome watching you transformation over the course of the year.

you are a beautiful girl and i wish the best for you.

Shelly
x
Title: Re: I can't believe how quickly it's come round
Post by: JenAtLast on January 09, 2011, 04:34:19 PM
Congratulations, Helena!   :)
Title: Re: I can't believe how quickly it's come round
Post by: ClaireA on January 09, 2011, 04:54:16 PM
big congrats!  :)
Title: Re: I can't believe how quickly it's come round
Post by: Kay on January 09, 2011, 11:05:24 PM
Congrats Helena!  :)