I just joined a program where you work in a group and are given assignments or projects that involve helping out the community like designing a shelter or whatever and oyu get paid $8 an hour for three months (that is how long the program is). I do not pass as male AT ALL at the moment. >:( But oh well I'm working on that. One of the rules is respect others and that if you do not feel comfortable or have a concern take it up with the staff because it is supposed to feel like a safe environment. I realized there was a lot of hateful talk about transgendered people today. I was rather bothered by it and flinched when they brought it up. I am wondering if I should talk to them (the staff) about it? A famous transgendered singer (I cannot remember the name) was being talked about today and someone was joking and saying "well, I heard that he...I mean she...I mean it..". No one knows about my ->-bleeped-<- at all. And I mean no one. It really sucks that I cannot think of people in real life that I can trust and will accept me. I mean I suppose they would (people like my sister) but I am too scared to risk her NOT accepting me, or at least this putting an awkward tension between us. Anywho, I have two questions in one here.
1) Should I tell the staff at my program about what was said today? I'd like to enjoy myself while I am there too and I'm not sure I can do that if stuff that bothers me is being brought up. Especially in a hurtful way.
2) I have one person in mind to come out to actually. I think I mentioned her in one of my other posts. My singing teacher. She says she supports gays/lesbians and I assume she supports trans people as well (on her Facebook page). She is in a different country from mine right now and won't be back for another two months. But I feel I need to tell SOMEONE in person. And if it's anyone, I want it to be her because we've become good friends. But to make sure...should I ask her, "so...what is your opinion on trans/gay people?" And if it turns out she DOESN'T support them then I obviously won't tell her. What do you think? Is this a good or okay idea?
Hmm...if you're in a small town and it could get to people you'd rather it not get to, it's not worth it.
If someone is talking a LOT of smack about trans people, and I bet it's just one person? that person may be having issues.
If you're living with your folks and this could get you magically homeless? not worth it.
Hmm...wish I had better advice...
take the matter up with the progam managers and hold your head high and be proud to be seen as someone with the backbone to transition not like the rest of the s->-bleeped-<-ing smallminds.
I think if you tell someone, then they'll just do it behind your back.