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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Female to male transsexual talk (FTM) => Topic started by: Lee on December 11, 2010, 02:26:30 AM

Title: It feels weirdly natural
Post by: Lee on December 11, 2010, 02:26:30 AM
I went to a barber shop today and put the name Lee on the wait list.  After a bit, they called my name, and I went over for my haircut.  After hanging out with you guys for a few months, it was strange when I realized that this is the first time I've given my name to someone in real life.  Oddly enough, it was a bit of a let down.  I expected to feel amazing hearing someone actually call me Lee, but instead I hardly noticed it.  It felt like it was something so natural that there was really no reason to think on it.
Title: Re: It feels weirdly natural
Post by: Michael Joseph on December 11, 2010, 02:36:44 AM
Im out to everyone at work now mostly, besides my GM but thier all trying so hard to say Michael and use male pronouns. If they get it wrong I just nicely correct them and their like ohh yaaa im trying! I know there really are, Ive known a lot of them for years. My point though is that it feels natural to me as well, but its not like nothing. I get that happiest feeling everytime I hear someone say Michael. Im sure that will go away in time, but for right now its still an awesome feeling for me :)
Title: Re: It feels weirdly natural
Post by: Alexmakenoise on December 11, 2010, 11:04:28 AM
I can relate.  At the support group I went to last night, I introduced myself as Alex, and it just rolled off the tongue naturally.  When I have to introduce myself by my F name, it comes out awkwardly.  And it feels like a random label I've been assigned to be identified by, like if I had to introduce myself by my license plate number or something.  My male name just fits and I can use it without thinking about it.
Title: Re: It feels weirdly natural
Post by: Epigania on December 11, 2010, 11:25:43 AM
Yay!

The first time I gave out my name was when I went to get my hair cut too!   My name is Allison and I was so engrossed in the magazine I was reading in the waiting area I didn't realize they had been calling my name for a couple minutes. *blush*

These days, i feel wierd being called by my natal name.  At work, where I'm still not out, I find I have to catch myself to not use female pronouns or my female name when I sign e-mails.

It can be quite annoying. :D
Title: Re: It feels weirdly natural
Post by: Devyn on December 11, 2010, 11:40:55 AM
Awesome.

I'm never called by my male name in real life, but whenever there is a guy with the same name as me, for example, in school, and somebody says their name, I'll look up. Lol.
Title: Re: It feels weirdly natural
Post by: Espenoah on December 11, 2010, 12:29:50 PM
That's totally awesome! I've been experiencing the same thing lately. When I first picked my name and people called me it, it felt a little weird, but it was a really exciting feeling. Now more and more people are calling me Noah, and it feels natural. It never stops feeling great. And like Devyn, when I hear it from other people who don't know my name I automatically respond.
Title: Re: It feels weirdly natural
Post by: Mishamigo_Jared on December 12, 2010, 09:17:50 PM
I cant wait until that happens to me XD nobody has actually called me Kohdi yet...but, next time i go get my haircut (which is soon, i hope) i'm putting my name down. I never write my name in that wait list book thing, i wait until the place is cleared of people and then come back to get served immeadiatly :P after that i just try to avoid the topic of names with the hairdresser. I hate my female name and i never really know what to say for my name so i say nothing! XD I cant wait until someone uses Kohdi, but maybe, like you, it will feel natural and i wont feel anything XD oh well, i will have to wait until that day comes! :P
Title: Re: It feels weirdly natural
Post by: Lee on December 12, 2010, 09:30:47 PM
Go for it Kohdi.  It does feel a lot nicer than my given name.  :)
I think that I'll just choose to forget that the lady at the counter said "Do you spell it L-I-" before I could cut her off with "L-E-E."  Oh well, I'll pass eventually.