2006 was a busy year for the ol' psyche. Lots of self-discovery and experimentation. Looking back, i thought I'd start a thread to list everyone's accomplishments in the who-we-are field. Since I'm the threadstarter, I'll go first.
- Had my first boyfriend! Introduced me to all kinds of wonderful sexual things.*blushes* We split, but are still good friends.
- Bought makeup! I've got some lovely Sephora goodness in the medicine cabinet right now.
- Came to grips with my bisexuality and girlish mannerisims. In the end, it's okieday. If people don't get it, their loss.
Next!
Although not as new, exploratory, and full of new things like in 2005, 2006 has been a more solidifying year. A time to really be myself daily and apply what I learned in 2005 for a year.
2006 has been a great year for the Androgyne community on this site. Many played parts into making this a good 6 or 7 months at the last half of the year. Raising from a footnote, to a good solid communial area, with several impressive, and sometimes humorous writers.
...had second daughter come into our lives.
...came out to my wife about CD-ing urges. It is what it is.
...started figuring out who the hell I was. I still don't know.
...wrote over 100 poems and a few short stories. Some of them are even good.
...found an understanding therapist and medication that seems to work OK.
...got a new job that I really like and make more money at.
...started trying really hard to meet gender-bending like-minded people in my area. No really great successes, but I'm still trying.
...started writing a genderqueer manifesto.
...lost about 35 lbs. Only to gain it all back, so at least I know I can do this...
Next year? Well, I have a list . . .
dan/beatrix
...Had sex for the first time.
---Realized I am completely uncomfortable with sex.
....Came to terms with my asexuality.
....Lost my job.
---Got a better job to start the new year in the DC area.
---Had a couple of complete breakdowns.
...Re-examined my issues with gender identity.
---Realized I need therapy. (Can't do much about it until I move though)
I guess it was a year for self discovery and complete collapses. And now I am moving to the DC area for my new job tommorow (Jan 1). I am completely scared.
Seldom...Moving to a new town and a new job can be scary...Be yourself and things will turn out as they should. Best of luck on the move and new job...keep us posted on how things are going.
For me, 2006 was a breakthru year. Not only did I come to term with my androgony, but openly discussed this with my best friend, and later, with my son, both of whom were very understanding.
Other milestones for 2006...
- Joined Susan's Place, met lots of wonderful people and became part of a community.
- Lost 35 pounds (and only gained back 4 during the holidays)
- Shaved my legs for the first time
- Shaved my beard off for the first time in 30 years
- Went out in public En Femme for the first time
For 2007, I want to continue to explore how to best express myself, drop a few more pounds, stop smoking and be a supportive, contributing member of our community, and the Androgyne group here at Susan's.
Peace be with you all, and a most prosperous and happy New Year...
...Laurie
I've covered most of this year's events in one of the threads here at Susan's (I think it's in the general section). But for me this has been the year of acceptance and growth. In March I finally decided that since I'm not going to change I really ought to accept what and who I am. I had a very good general sense of who I am so I've been pretty much trying to put words to how I feel. Some of my high water marks are:
- mixing men's and women's clothes
- coming out to my parents and one sister
- starting individual therapy to help me figure out where I want to go with all this
- joining group therapy for much the same reason, and to not be the only one I know who's dealing with these kinds of issues
- buying women's clothes in stores and not making up excuses for doing it
- looking at myself in the mirror instead of just checking if my hair's OK or my shirt isn't winkled
2006 had a bit of everything for me.
-Had some therapy
-Got decent exam grades
-Specialised in subjects at school I actually want to do
-Managed to not celebrate christmas beyond what I am comfortable with
-Didn't get talked into doing anything stupid
-Didn't lose any friends
-Actually gained some friends
I see 2006 as a year which has bridged a gap between a crazy, random, depression filled 2005 and a (hopefully) more organised, thought out, happy 2007. (Intending to get more therapy)
Quotelooking at myself in the mirror instead of just checking if my hair's OK or my shirt isn't winkled
:D
Yeah...I'm going to make that a goal of 07.
All I did was realize that it was okay to have male mannerisms.
;D
Chunk.
2006 started off with loosing my job (medical reasons). .... bankrupt......divorce.. confusion.. :'(
Then about june discovered the word androgyne... different clothes, new friends (now in a polyamerous relationship)... accepted TG is ok...
2007 - gonna concentrate on being less male without being more female.
bring it on world..
N