Bangs! Elaine wants bangs! She would look absolutely gorgeous with bangs. No doubt about it.
Buuuut here's the catch, sadly.. She's not full time yet. She desperately wants to be, but she's not, for whatever reason. My family doesn't know, her soon-to-be-employer doesn't know (But he would probably be ok with it as long as she works hard, she's just a night stocker and she can even listen to music and dress however she wants during her shift) aaand I'm afraid that having bangs would be too weird when she's in guy mode around these people.
So we have two options, because getting bangs and not coming out I think is a bit silly. Come out to my family/possibly her employer because she's going to be starting HRT soon anyways, get the bangs, and be who she wants to be or.. Skip the bangs for now, let her stay stealth where life is drama free, and not come out yet.
This is a tough decision that we're currently picking apart, but I'm interested in what you all think!
PS. My family would accept her as 'her', though they wouldn't change pronouns for a bit, because they don't even call ME he yet. They're okay with 'this whole trans thing', so it's not like she would be scorned forever from my family never to be seen at Christmas dinners ever again. And, her disphoria is relatively low compared to most. She wants to transition but it doesn't bother her too much. Otherwise I think all of this would already be done, seeing as she's been out to me for 3 years...
PPS. I almost forgot, my moronic therapist whom also sees Elaine accidentally slipped the beans to my mom that Elaine was trans in one of our sessions. I almost strangled her.. but, needless to say, Mom already knows basically, I just told her that I'm not going to be the one to talk to her about it, and that if she wants to know, she has to talk to Elaine herself. (Of course I didn't use the name Elaine, that would be counterproductive)