I'm curious if any of you here had a sexual orientation shift upon taking hormones for at least a few months (particularly the transwomen.) I am wondering if my sexual orientation will shift if I start taking hormones, because now it is more towards women but am also open to guys that are sweet, but when I think of being with someone its mostly with women. I like women but I don't have pleasure from sex with them (my pleasure is in only giving affection, I feel nothing sexually). I'm just wondering if I'd start to like guys the way that other women like them if I start taking hormones (or at least the chance.) If you had a sexual orientation shift, please explain your experience, thanks.
I have always been more or less bi. Although I never would have admitted it. I always wound up with a woman. Now after 32 months on HRT, I am more open about myself. I am more open about being attached to men, but I am still at heart a lesbian.
I was only attracted to women pre hormones.
On hormones, I am only attracted to men.
It might shift a bit, it might not. But it's common to feel differently about a lot of things after being on hormones for a while.
When I started taking hormones, I thought I was only interested in women. After 24 months on hormones, that has changed somewhat. I do find certain things about men attractive that I never did before, but then again there's a lot about men that annoys me also. I have kind of an aversion toward men... I'm not sure if it's because I genuinely don't like them, or the fact that I was forced to live as one for so long.
The dynamics have completely changed now, and as my interactions with women have changed, I'm not really sure how I feel... though I think I'd probably connect emotionally with a woman more than a man.
Ah, I dunno. I'll cross that bridge when I come to it I guess.
I haven't not really.
I'm attracted to so few people in a physical manner that my sexuality may aswell not exist yet I'd consider an intimate relationship with either sex thus I guess I'm Bi and the bizarre esoteric concepts that get me going aren't specific to either sex really thus Bisexual bordering on Asexual.
This topic comes up alot. It seems to me that it's about 50/50. Half don't change and half do.
They expressed an interesting idea on The L Word, that some people are attracted to the opposite sex and some are attracted to the same sex. When one's gender changes, their attraction orientation stays the same, but their preferred gender changes. So the FtM in the show had been attracted to women as a woman, but after transition was attracted to men, because her attraction orientation was to the same sex.
I'm not saying that the theory is true, just that it's interesting.
Quote from: GinaDouglas on December 29, 2010, 12:28:24 AM
So the FtM in the show had been attracted to women as a woman, but after transition was attracted to men, because her his attraction orientation was to the same sex.
Fify :)
My orientation story?
For the most part my orientation has never changed, I've always been interested in sexual relationships with men, as the female in a hetrosexual relationship. Its been that way since puberty.
However prior to HRT, I found women sexually attractive, I just didn't find them attractive in the sense that I wanted relationships with them, and I've never been with a woman.
After HRT, all my attraction to guys remained the same, but my sexual attraction to girls disappeared.
Quote from: GinaDouglas on December 29, 2010, 12:28:24 AM
This topic comes up alot. It seems to me that it's about 50/50. Half don't change and half do.
I've noticed that the older a person is, the less likely they are to change. I guess the neural pathways for their orientation are more firmly laid down and less susceptible to change.
Quote from: Vexing on December 29, 2010, 01:33:45 AM
I've noticed that the older a person is, the less likely they are to change. I guess the neural pathways for their orientation are more firmly laid down and less susceptible to change.
Could be - but then if you are bi to start with it is quite difficult to see how that could change really.
Yeah yeah I know I started when young but I mean prior I was attracted to men and women and after I was attracted to women and men. So no real change there. ;D
Bi before, bi after, though always a dedicated monogamist. Wanted to mention that some studies have been done on women, as well as women on the pill. Studies done after women sniff male sweat and then correlating their descriptions of that sweat, that women reject men who have similar MHC genes as their fathers and male relatives, at least as mates. It is thought that it by mating with someone with different genes, you have stronger, more genetically diverse offspring. When women go on the pill, hormone based, they start to prefer men that have the same MHC genes as their fathers and male relatives. Perhaps the pill replicates a similar pattern to being pregnant. Dad and male relatives would provide a safe environment for the baby because it contains their genes and women seek this protection. It is thought that it can be a problem when a woman goes off the pill and now feels rejection toward her lover/husband because he has daddy's gene profile. Of course all this is taking place unconsciously. I realize that the example doesn't exactly fit, but it is well researched and demonstrates the power of hormones on unconscious lust and desires.
Well I'm bi and been in relationships with both guys and gals. The guys were always jackasses though so I think I like women better because they are easier to get along with. ^_^
After hormones, does that change? Do the guys being jackasses become more tolerable? ;D
Also on a side note: I learned last week my mom dated a guy and his sister at the same time. What the hell is up with that? ???
I don't think so! Whiskey and soda helps though. An old (literally as well as figuratively) male flame contacted me on facebook. I do owe him a lot for helping me up when I was really, really down. We had been together for 7 or 8 years, though I hadn't seen him for at least 20. It was before hormones. What a complete jackass!! I couldn't believe that I had fallen for the same lines he was using today. Not one iota of change. Of course today I'm not swilling whiskey and soda. And as far as your mom? I guess the apple doesn't fall far from the tr... only kidding. Maybe it's a bit inherited. Did she date raise you in an open environment?
Quote from: Cindy Stephens on December 29, 2010, 01:09:05 PM
I don't think so! Whiskey and soda helps though. An old (literally as well as figuratively) male flame contacted me on facebook. I do owe him a lot for helping me up when I was really, really down. We had been together for 7 or 8 years, though I hadn't seen him for at least 20. It was before hormones. What a complete jackass!! I couldn't believe that I had fallen for the same lines he was using today. Not one iota of change. Of course today I'm not swilling whiskey and soda. And as far as your mom? I guess the apple doesn't fall far from the tr... only kidding. Maybe it's a bit inherited. Did she date raise you in an open environment?
Honestly she didn't raise me at all because she was(well..she still IS) always out partying and what not flaunting her cooter around. I lived with my dad and step-mom in a moderately strict environment. Maybe I did inherit something from her that could be contributing...I dunno. Genetics is a crazy field!
About the guys, I'm sure not all are jackasses and most of the time very pleasant to be with. They just seem to be so stubborn sometimes and make me cry! >:(
I figured out my sexuality around the same time came to terms with my gender and have identified (quietly) as a lesbian since I was 20. That hasn't really changed on hormones.
Pre-hormones I was solidly attracted to men and only men. Early on on T I had a brief window where i was attracted to women. Now that I am fully transitioned I am solidly attracted to men and only men. Sorry, ladies!
Jay
Quote from: Vexing on December 28, 2010, 05:01:22 PM
I was only attracted to women pre hormones.
On hormones, I am only attracted to men.
This more or less. I'll still look at hot girl if she walks by, but now I'm generally more interested in her shoes or bag, than her body.
;D
I am living in hell wright now as i am married to a woman and we want to stay together but my orientation seems to be shifting.
Although there is nothing particularly sexual about my shifting needs there is some sort of need for change of dynamic between me and my romantic partner. That partner appears to be male in my thoughts.
I have been for only month and a half on HRT and this has been going on since about 2 weeks.
The first month there was no change in my orientation. I think the hormones are doing their work on continuous basis as there seems to be always some subtle change going on. I wish I could go back to the "old" days with my spouse but I am afraid there is no turning back as my overall well being has improved 100% since getting on hormone therapy. I guess everything comes with a price! :-\
Pre-HRT I liked girls, but guys were okay too. After 14 months of hormones, I'm exclusively lesbian. That said, I'm still attached to my partner who is male. It's complicated loving someone who your not sexually gratified by. ???
Quote from: AbbyJ on January 09, 2011, 12:56:34 PM
Pre-HRT I liked girls, but guys were okay too. After 14 months of hormones, I'm exclusively lesbian. That said, I'm still attached to my partner who is male. It's complicated loving someone who your not sexually gratified by. ???
LOL it went just the opposite way for me. Was in love with girls pre-HRT but turned on sexually by hot dudes, yet could not feel anything romantic for them. Then about 1 1/2 months after starting HRT, I got the hugest crush on a guy, and since then have been with men exclusively.