Hey everyone. I was talking to someone once and this person said something that made me wonder. He said, though very very rare...there are "men trapped in women's bodies who have no dysphoria over having a female body". That got me thinking...is that really possible?
It seems hard to wrap my head around but I suppose it happens.
(this could be applied to mtfs too)
Yes. If your body isn't particularly feminine (i.e. very small breasts, androgynous features) you might not suffer much dysphoria.
I feel like I can answer this. Although I do desperately want to be a guy, I haven't experienced much dysphoria. My body isn't too feminine (aka. my chest is small and I have sort of broad shoulders as I've been told). Most of my dysphoria occurs when I'm with other guys. But i don't get it very often.
My body and I had an unspoken agreement for years: I ignored it, and it ignored me. I never associated myself with it enough to really care about it. I always knew that it was weird and not mine, but I always thought that feeling was pretty normal. It's only after I started taking steps towards transitioning that I have felt attached to my body. Unfortunately, now I do get dysphoric feelings, so I'm not sure if I'd really count.
I was never confused about my gender identity. Having a strong mental image of myself, I find it easy to dissociate. I'm just stuck inside this body playing puppet master. Since I've pushed everyone away I'm not social. Theres a few clingers but for the most part I'm alone and there is no one around to trigger dysphoria. Sometimes it's so low that I actually forget I'm transgender. I'm just waiting till my bases are covered, then I'm going to transition.
Compared to most of the people I here I'd likely say that I have very close to no dysphoria. Even though I have a size b chest, if I'm at home, I'm shirtless. I love being shirtless. I don't like my chest but I don't stop that from letting me be shirtless. Ive always gotten depressed when touching it, (for over 10 years I had no idea why).. so I normally just avoid touching them.. unless I'm pulling out ingrown hairs... and there are a tonne of them there. I don't like looking at it and seeing it particularily... but if I'm just lounging around I don't see it so it doesn't bother me. My one true issue about my chest is I I don't like binding, and I want to be able to walk around outside shirtless. Frusterates me at times.. But I'm neked and unbound a good portion of my day... so I would say that I'm not really all that dysphoric.
Same with down there. I'm only dysporic about it when I'm thinking about sex. The rest of the time.. it's just there. Outside of sex it doesn't really matter, I can still pee standing up.. so who cares? But the sex gets me downright dysphoric. Though I'm fairly confident a strap on of some sort would solve some of that (not all of it).
I guess.. a good portion of the time I am not dysphoric.. just certain things trigger it, and those triggers aren't so hard to avoid in day to day life. Before coming out to myself.. I only got depressed about the chest when touching myself.. so I just avoided it.. other dysphoria wasn't there.. but then again I also didn't have oppurtunities for sex and such before then either.
Quote from: Alex201 on January 05, 2011, 08:15:38 PM
Hey everyone. I was talking to someone once and this person said something that made me wonder. He said, though very very rare...there are "men trapped in women's bodies who have no dysphoria over having a female body". That got me thinking...is that really possible?
It seems hard to wrap my head around but I suppose it happens.
(this could be applied to mtfs too)
I would be asking if it were possible for a man to be tapped inside a woman's body at all.
I realise it's a nice noton, but is somewhat presumptive.
As far as I'm concerned, I am what I am. I don't need explainations nor excuses. I have a right to be here and live accoring to my needs and conscience.
If someone asked me to provide them with an explaination or justification for who I am I'd ask them to, first, justify and explain why they are such stupid, nosey, interfeerng biggots and more importantly, why they have such terrible decore in their home.
I don't hate my body. I'm just happy to have my health. I know who I am and I don't really care what my body looks like.
I don't get that much dysphoric, only when it concerns to sex. I'm not really confident about using a strap-on, I've never used and I guess I'd be very uncomfortable to have to stop to put it on. (I confess: I don't know how to use it!)
About my chest, I don't care, I don't like them, I want to remove it, but it's there, I just don't keep staring at them!
I don't get too terribly dysphoric about my downstairs, it is what it is. I plan on staying with the same girl-it's been 7 years already and she's as supportive as she can be-so there's next to nothing that's 'awkward' between us in that department.
What gets me is my chest, though. I had 36DD's when I was 12 and I've wanted them gone ever since. Some days, the only thing that keeps me going is knowing that in the semi-soonish future they'll be gone. I'd love to be able to sit around shirtless like my best friend, I get this ridiculous amount of envy anytime he's getting changed around me or stuff like that.
Alex, do you know what dysphoria is? I'm just asking because in some of your posts you seemed pretty dysphoric over your genitalia.