One of the dumbest tropes I hear from straight guys is this: "I am all for you being yourself and stuff, but I'm just creeped out when I'm around you because I'm afraid you're gonna come on to me." Or even: "I'm fine with you being around me, just as long as you don't hit on me." FIRST OFF, I'm not a gay guy. I'm a trans girl. SECOND OFF, I don't even find straight guys attractive in the least bit. THIRD OFF, even if I was a gay guy, that doesn't automatically mean I'm gonna hit on you. Last time I checked, just because straight men are attracted to women, doesn't mean they're automatically want to get it on with their aunt. Likewise, just because gay guys (or, in my case, people perceived to be gay guys) aren't going to try and get it on with every man they see. FOURTH OFF, we live in a culture where I am constantly told that my kind are creepy, disgusting, and not deserving of love. What makes you think that my oppressed trans self would even try to hit on Mr. Privileged Hetero Cis Dude? The dynamics in this situation are so skewed in your favor, that if I tried to hit on you, I have the chance of being murdered, and as for as our culture is concerned, I deserve it because I "deceived" you. FIFTH OFF, if you're gonna say stuff like that, don't even bother preceding it with stuff like "I'm all for you being yourself" in some failed attempt at being nice, because no matter how good your intentions may be, I AM STILL OFFENDED.
Too many people try to humor themselves. I completely agree with you.
Hugs! You do deserve love, happiness, and kindness. Don't let the douchebaggory of single-minded people get you down.
~Jackie
Awwwe thanks. ;D I was inspired to write this because my best friend's boyfriend says he doesn't want trannies in his house because he's creeped out and what not, and now I can't visit her.
That is profoundly... stupid. I don't understand people. In my opinion it's the normal people you have to watch out for. If your friend is willing to stand up for such pettiness and just atrocious behavior than I would have to question that friendship.
Seriously, men or women that are so caught up in their heterosexual nature that they believe EVERY man or woman (or transman or transwoman if that is their fear) is interested in them is sadly mistaken and/or harboring feelings that they aren't comfortable with admitting to themselves.
My response to him would be sweetheart, no matter what my orientation might be you would never be my type.
I carry around mace for situations like this. So far I haven't been attacked, so I've itchy trigger finger and I'm ready to use it if someone feeds me a line of BS like that! ;D
What a jackass! He just doesn't want trans folk in his house because he gets 'uncomfortable?' What a baby!
No matter what, no matter why - all excuses are stupid, that's what makes them excuses and not reasons.
So... you say... "Dude, give me a rest, I just got done having anal sex with your woman and let me tell you she's hella tighter than you mom was. But sit down, have drink, I'll get to you when it's your turn."
NOBODY CAN DIMINISH YOU WITHOUT YOUR CONSENT!
Have to agree with you.
The belief that gay guys are just a bunch of promiscuous leaches, only interested in bottoms, male or female, seems to be boardering on wishful thinking.
I once told some people, at a party that I am gay. I was directed to a group of guys standing together in a corner. Attitude, any gay will do.
Personally, I'm very particular. My feelings may not be the same as everyone else. But I'm not sex mad. I would never be with anyone I didnt fancy and I don't fancy many people. Before I even look at someone they have to be clean and mature.