Do your parents approve? If not..how do you get past them?
I'm about to get T any day now, just waiting for the nurse to call and give me my T date. My parents do approve, they are the ones who are supporting me through this.
My mom does NOT approve at all. I've been on T for 9 months. One night in september she kicked me out and made me sleep outside (I didn't have anywhere to go). Since then it's gotten better and by better I mean she does start fake crying when she sees me. She still calls me by my birth name and female pronouns. She had a friend come over a few days ago and she told me to stay quiet upstairs in my room until her friend left because I've become a giant secret. I pay for doctors appointments myself, I pay for the testosterone myself, and I am saving up for top surgery myself. My mom loves her child but she doesn't love who I am. She isn't going to kick me out but she isn't going to emotionally support me. For awhile it made me bitter and sad but recently I realized her not supporting me is helping me find a strength I didn't know I had, the ability to lean on myself, and now I've become VERY responsible because I've realized that I need to pay for my transition because its for me. So to sum it up - in the beginning it was REALLY awkward living here but as time goes on, everything slowly becomes "normal" and less dramatic and strange. Hopefully in a year or so she'll become more sensitive to my feelings but if not, then oh well.
Where I live now, my fiancee's mother does not approve and feels I don't need to be on T. Then again, she's against my whole transition. But I'll be moving with then near MY mother and she supports my transition and taking hormones. She doesn't understand it fully but she supports whatever makes me happy.
I still live at home with my parents. My parents have been so supportive through all of this. My Dad was the one who was all for it at first. My mother, well, she grieved. She told me she felt like she was going to lose a daughter. But now, shes fully supportive and happy for me. I think sometimes you just have to give them time.
My mom's very supportive of me. She helped find a therapist and a doctor to prescribe T, and helped with my stepdad when he was being difficult about it. He still is a bit difficult, we just don't talk about it. At least he calls me by the right pronouns and gives me a nickname instead of my birthname.
I still live at home. My parents are pretty supportive. They pay for my health insurance, my T, and are paying for my top surgery in 2 months. It took them a little while to come around but they went to the trans health conference in philly and we talked about it and they are fine. I have been on T for a year and they are fine with that, my dad will talk about my changes sometimes, and my mom will tell me how I sound like my dad now but thats it. I can tell my mom is nervous about me getting surgery though.
I live at home and T is not a problem. Mainly because I don't live with my parents.
I live with my mom and although she doesn't entirely approve she supports me taking T. However I have a different type of relationship with my mom than some people. I just told her I'm 20 years old and I need to do this and that I hope she will love and support me. Truthfully she was upset when I said I was afraid she would kick me out, she said she thought I would have better faith in how much she loves me. Said she would never kick me out or stop loving me.
My whole family has been really supportive of my transition. I can't say as my mother is happy about it, but she can clearly tell how important it is to me, so she doesn't put up any resistance, and she'll write letters of consent and such if it's required.
I pay for my transition myself, but she'll help if I ever need her too. I think she might get a little nervous when I finally get on T, but she won't kick me out or anything. She might have a problem with my getting any surgery, but I'm sure she'll get past it. My father told me he was sad to 'lose his little girl' but that it would give him the chance to have a son too, so he thought it was a pretty good trade :P
The very day I got my name legally changed, everyone in my family started calling me by it, or at least trying. Within a week everyone was getting it right about 95% of the time. So over all I suppose my experience has been a very good one :)