I am temporarily stuck in a conservative Christian school. It's only until June though, then I transfer.
I wish it was a Catholic school, which I've heard are more open minded, but it's Baptist; and my peers stay true to the stereotypes sadly..
I'm stuck wearing a skirt four days of the week, in frigid weather. I haven't worn a dress or a skirt since I was six years old, and I hate it.. But it's the rules.
Anyway, I've started transitioning. It's only appearance wise, and I doubt I'll see a therapist until around summer.
I cut my hair and while I pass as a young boy quite easily, people think of me as a girl.. Since that's what everyone calls me. But if I went outside on my own in casual clothing, I could easily pass as (an albeit feminine) boy. My haircut is the same one as a female actress, Halle Barry specifically, but it's a gender neutral style. I get no odd remarks due to it though, just compliments.
If I wore a binder to school, I wonder if anyone would notice.. I do have 36D cups, so maybe so.
Anyway, anyone else ever been in this situation? How was it?
You would not be able to crossdress in a Catholic School either.
I was sent to a fundamentalist Christian school. I would never come out in a place like that. If a girl was raped she would be kicked out for premarital sex. Our mascot was a crusader. It was K-12, many of the kids have been brainwashed from an early age to be in the Lord's army and be a soldier of God. It a breeding ground for hate. It's a private school, they can kick you out at any time. Just hang in there, you only have a few months left. I think people will notice if you bind.
I went to Catholic school. I definitely was not out. But I did bind for the last few months I was there, and while I'm sure people noticed, nobody ever said anything. I feel like it would be kind of an awkward thing for someone to bring up.
Im in a baptist university but they're so desperate for funding they don't really push too much. I'm not coming out until I transfer but I'm pretty sure there's another FTM in the school aswell
My kids both went to Catholic schools, and you are unlikely to fare much better there. I'd go for a State School if there is a decent one around.
Binding flat or near to it would probably be noticeable, but you could always wear a sports bra to help flatten a bit. I know it's not the best option, but it may help you feel better and not be obvious about it.
I've gone to a very conservative christians school k-6 , a less conservative christian school gr 9, and to one of the most conservative christian colleges in North America. Even though I wasn't out, and wasn't even out to myself - I always dressed in male clothing and had a male haircut and often passed as male. People knew it was male clothing - they just though i was dressing very modestly XD. They saw it as a good thing - because I wasn't seducing boys or something with curves and skin.. hahaha.
Quote from: Tad on January 16, 2011, 02:11:03 PMPeople knew it was male clothing - they just though i was dressing very modestly XD. They saw it as a good thing - because I wasn't seducing boys or something with curves and skin.. hahaha.
When I was thirteen, fourteen, fifteen, my mother thought I was so mature because I wasn't obsessed with clothes and hair and makeup and being sexy. Somewhere along the line, she began to get genuinely worried. Kept giving me powder, fingernail polish, lipstick, tons and tons of female razors (nobody has that much body hair except an orangutan, Mother), and bottle upon bottle of Secret roll-on (if you thought I sweated that much, you should have taken me to the doctor).
In college, I experimented a lot with clothing--female trashy one day, male new wave the next--and she was actually pleased when she caught me sexing it up. I guess she was relieved that I was "normal" after all.
I think there is a fine line between what some people consider to be modest and what others see as pathological. It depends on too many factors. I think the only way to find out is to experiment.
But you probably should not listen to me, Ribbons. I have no direct experience with Christian schools and trans students. And what I've read is not very promising.
they just though i was dressing very modestly XD. They saw it as a good thing
They are not the sharpest tools in the shed.
Quote from: tekla on January 16, 2011, 03:52:20 PM
they just though i was dressing very modestly XD. They saw it as a good thing
They are not the sharpest tools in the shed.
oh, honestly, to misinterpret anything so it fits your little world is kinda sharp.... in a weird and cheap way though.
yeah, I'd say it's fine to wear guys clothes - now the guys had better not wear anything feminine.
Check your schools dress codes - sometimes they will say what they permit females and males to wear, but generally, at least I found, you shouldn't have issues with wearing guys clothes.
Some/most of the other students noticed.. and would make fun of me, call me he-she, ask me if i wish I were born a boy, or just treat me as another boy (good), tell me my voice was too low and I should go get voice lessons to make it feminine.. but teachers nor the establishment never had issues with my crossdressing.
As for my parents.. mom noticed and dad noticed. Dad thought it was fine just a normal girl thing to do but would push me towards being more fem, mom suspected I may turn out this way and didn't push fem on me at all. Apparently the teachers never brought it up with my parents so maybe they didn't notice.