Ok so I've sent my younger brother a text saying I need to speak to him about something serious, phoning is gonna be way too awkward, but he said i can fb private message him (it sucks not living with your family!)
I feel like at least if I can tell one person in my family, it will make me feel a lot better. We are so close and he knows me so well (we always played sport together, played ps3 together etc) and I feel like he would be able to support me with this. I trust him 100%, so I know he won't tell my parents.
I feel like he will be able to give me advice on telling our parents and at least if one of your family members knows, it will 'break the ice'.
Sorry just thought I would share my experience ;)
Bexico,
What a great step, and I believe it is great that you are making a solid plan to do tell your family who you are! Things ALWAYS go smoother with plans!
Just to share, my parents confronted me before I had the chance to confront them! This was at a very young age though...my mother told me I was confused and my father told me that its OK to be different, only..inside not outside.
Many years later, my mother is still in rejects me...but what I can I say she is too proud of the concept of having a officer son >.< rather then well...me. Either way it works I suppose.
In summery, parents can be silly...they almost always want the best for their children. Sadly that best is often what their perception is as what will make them happy, not what WILL make their children happy and able to live satisfying fulfilling lives. But as most of us know, perception is reality and as such that perception of what is best for us is often their reality. On the other coin, I'm sure some of us here have some very enlightened parents who are able to support their children in a manner that their children need to be supported.
Respectfully,
-Violet
Hang in there Bexico
Good luck! :) My sisters supported me a lot when I came out. :) Its a nice feeling
Quote from: Bexico5 on January 18, 2011, 11:00:57 AM
Yay! Omg... direct quotation from his reply "I love you whatever happens <3"
ahhhh :D
I'm so happy for you Bexico! Hang in there even if it's a bit bumpy with your parents. Having an advocate in your brother is HUGE. It's so great you have support from within the family, it makes such a big difference.
I came out to my family in stages too. First I told my sisters, then mother then father and step-mom. It was easier to do it that way so that I'd know where each person stood before telling the next one. It also was less overwhelming for me. It made coming out to my family a longer experience but it worked for me and them. As Violet Camo said planning is key.
My whole family is supportive and I consider myself blessed and very lucky. ;D No matter what it sounds like you'll have your brother. :)