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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: Serra on January 27, 2011, 02:53:31 AM

Title: Passing at bars?
Post by: Serra on January 27, 2011, 02:53:31 AM
Today is my friend's 21st birthday, and some of us are going out to bars to celebrate.  It'll be my first time out at a bar since I went full time, and since my girlfriend doesn't care for this group of friends she won't be with me either.  Any tips for passing, specifically those related to being carded?  I don't drink, but some of the places in the area card at the door and some don't.  I REALLY don't want to have to go in boy mode, but I also don't want any trouble over an ID with a gender mismatch.
Sorry if this is a bit disjointed, it's late.  Thanks in advance!
Title: Re: Passing at bars?
Post by: CaitJ on January 27, 2011, 02:55:47 AM
Don't take your ID, then you can't be carded  :)
Title: Re: Passing at bars?
Post by: Serra on January 27, 2011, 03:58:55 AM
Quote from: ▼Ξ✖ on January 27, 2011, 02:55:47 AM
Don't take your ID, then you can't be carded  :)
Sadly, doesn't help me get in, or give me something to show the cop that pulls me over with the car full of drunks.  =p
I get that if they ARE carding at the door there's not much choice, but has anyone had any experience with there being a problem with ID not matching presentation?
Title: Re: Passing at bars?
Post by: CaitJ on January 27, 2011, 04:23:49 AM
Quote from: Serra on January 27, 2011, 03:58:55 AM
Sadly, doesn't help me get in, or give me something to show the cop that pulls me over with the car full of drunks.  =p
I get that if they ARE carding at the door there's not much choice, but has anyone had any experience with there being a problem with ID not matching presentation?

Yes, it's happened to me. Nothing you can do except politely explain yourself and hope they understand, or move on to another bar.
Title: Re: Passing at bars?
Post by: tekla on January 27, 2011, 09:01:47 AM
Lots of clubs will not let you in w/o an ID, liquor licences are far more expensive than any persons tab over the coarse of an evening.  In some places like Minneapolis it's against the law not to card everyone entering a bar or nightclub.
Title: Re: Passing at bars?
Post by: GinaDouglas on January 27, 2011, 10:25:41 AM
I always had a fake ID for that, until the ID shop went out of business.  But even expired, my fake ID usually gets me in.

The law in CO is that you have to have your ID, not that you have to allow it to be inspected.  So showing that you have it, at a distance not close enough to be read, and clearly being of drinking age; that has worked for people I know.

There is probably nothing in your state law about how you have to present for your drivers license picture.  Get cutified, tell the DMV you lost your license, get a new pic.  Most bouncers are gonna look at the pic and birthday, and end of story.
Title: Re: Passing at bars?
Post by: Rock_chick on January 27, 2011, 11:01:10 AM
Smile at the bouncers obvious look of confusion and then say in your best girly voice "sorry, that's an old photo"

Seriously, they don't care who you are, just that you're of a legal drinking age
Title: Re: Passing at bars?
Post by: Serra on January 27, 2011, 11:04:01 AM
Quote from: Helena on January 27, 2011, 11:01:10 AM
Smile at the bouncers obvious look of confusion and then say in your best girly voice "sorry, that's an old photo"

Seriously, they don't care who you are, just that you're of a legal drinking age
Sold.  Thank you.
Title: Re: Passing at bars?
Post by: Maddie Secutura on January 27, 2011, 07:14:29 PM
I used my guy ID all the time.  It's true they really don't care.  One bartender didn't believe it was me, so I had to drop my voice and say, "I lost a bet..."  Problem solved.
Title: Re: Passing at bars?
Post by: JenJen2011 on January 28, 2011, 07:37:43 AM
I never use to have a problem. They would just quickly glance at my ID and that was it.
But even if they don't say anything or make any faces, they obviously know the deal.
Be careful when going to use the restroom. I got kicked out once by the owner for
going to the ladies room while my ID said male.
Title: Re: Passing at bars?
Post by: Serra on January 28, 2011, 01:10:57 PM
Didn't have any problem, he didn't even check the picture to my face.
And JenJen, I never use public bathrooms regardless.  They're gross.
Title: Re: Passing at bars?
Post by: Stephanie.Izann on January 28, 2011, 03:30:09 PM
Quote from: Maddie Secutura on January 27, 2011, 07:14:29 PM
I used my guy ID all the time.  It's true they really don't care.  One bartender didn't believe it was me, so I had to drop my voice and say, "I lost a bet..."  Problem solved.

Maddie you made me laugh so hard I just about pee'd in my panties!

I'll have to get my ID pic changed soon since I use to shave my head! ;D
Title: Re: Passing at bars?
Post by: Janet_Girl on January 28, 2011, 10:18:25 PM
Sorry girls, this gal has not been carded since 1976.
Title: Re: Passing at bars?
Post by: Maddie Secutura on January 29, 2011, 12:14:48 AM
Quote from: Stephanie.Izann on January 28, 2011, 03:30:09 PM
Maddie you made me laugh so hard I just about pee'd in my panties!

I'll have to get my ID pic changed soon since I use to shave my head! ;D

True story.  The bouncer just shrugged and waved me through.
Title: Re: Passing at bars?
Post by: Miss_Anthropic on January 29, 2011, 12:49:29 AM
Worst I've ever gotten was a long stare at the ID, followed by a long stare at me, back to the ID, then to me again, a shrug and that was it. There have been a time or two where they just checked the age and that was it, no biggie.

It occurs to me I've been to bars/clubs far more often as female than male, odd. I don't drink anyhow, or dance..... still too up in my head to dance.

~Sara