As you can see by my new countdown ticker, I have a specific date to transition at work! That will be the date my RLE clock starts. I told my supervisor about myself a few weeks ago, and her reaction was totally positive. She basically said "We're not just a team here, we're a family. This is your home. I support you, the company supports you, and we will do everything we can to make sure your transition is as comfortable and trouble-free for you as possible." That was SUCH a relief to hear! And at that time, I had to tell her that I didn't know what my timetable would be, and that was okay with her. She then involved the head of IT, the head of HR, and the president, and since that time senior management has been meeting weekly to discuss the situation and how to handle things. Well, about two weeks ago now, I left my wife and moved out (this was by mutual consent), and it took me only ONE week of living on my own (being full-time evenings and weekends) to know that I HAD to transition sooner rather than later. So last Friday I emailed my supervisor and gave her the date: April 25. I will be on vacation from April 11 till the 22nd, and come back as Colleen on the 25. Easter Monday. How's THAT for symbolism, eh? ;D Anyway, she's all on board, and there is a good plan in place. I'll write more about that as it goes. I am SO STOKED!!! And I'm not even on HRT yet! It just feels like the RIGHT time.
Congratulations Colleen! Having gone full-time myself three weeks ago, I can tell you that it is so liberating. You will love it!
That's great. I hope everything goes well. :)
Its great to hear how well everything went for you at work Colleen :)
I hope everything since then has been just as pleasing and smooth for you!
Thanks! Sometimes it's spooky how smooth things are going. I keep expecting to hit a wall or a roadblock, or find myself hurtling off a cliff, but no, the road ahead continues to be straight and smooth. Got my diagnosis yesterday, officially! I work my last day as "Tim" on April 8, and as of April 25, I'm Colleen full time. And I see the endo on March 29th, and hopefully he'll give me a scrip right away (got my paperwork all in order, and already did the blood work in advance). Whee! :laugh:
I am so glad to hear this, Colleen! You seem to have taken off running and are running very well. I still long for the day when I can shed all my fears and move forward as you have done.
Randi
Shed fear? Moi? :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
No, I think it's more about having TERRIBLE fear! Fear of living one day longer than necessary as who I'm NOT. Last Spring, I opened a door a tiny crack, just to see if the thing I was afraid of was still there. It was. And the door would NOT close anymore. The latch was gone. And it just kept opening. Wider, and wider. I had no choice but to deal with what was behind that door. That was the door of my closet, and I am now pretty much out of that place, and standing in the light. And the light feels GOOD! The darkness was crap. I thought the light would hurt, that it would damage me, and would destroy my life and the lives of those around me. Nope. The light is my friend.
When we notice we are living in pain, our natural tendency is to do what is necessary to lessen our pain, if we can. The real trick is realizing that WE CAN! And that the new life is what it promises to be, and isn't a trap. Is there still some pain? Yes. Much more manageable, though.
My boss has told me that other people in the office who know about my impending transition (i.e. the subset of upper management that has been discussing plans for going forward, which includes the president and the head of IT) have said that I seem much happier, calmer, more productive and more outgoing already, as if the weight of a house has been lifted from my shoulders. I couldn't agree more!
I share these fears with you. Yes I think about being independent and doing what I need to do for me... alas, I am afraid of change. But I know the time is coming soon when I will have to make up my mind about some basic needs.
Seriously, I am so happy for you and am envious of the confidence that you have shown thus far.
Randi
Congratulations Colleen and good luck! :) I'm sorry about you and your wife splitting but I'm glad it was mutual. Many times these things happen. Once my ex and I separated and I was living by myself it was freeing. I could starting living full time and transition at my pace and not have someone always around harping about it.
Oh yeah, and congratulations on your 1st day of HRT. :)
Congratulations Colleen, and an early Happy Birthday for April 25th.. I;m very happy for you and at the same time very envious.. Good Luck completing your journey!
Quote from: Staci3336 on March 29, 2011, 08:37:57 PM
Congratulations Colleen, and an early Happy Birthday for April 25th..
Ah-HA! I was WONDERING! Funny thing: My
natal birthday is THIS SATURDAY. So several peeps today have wished me an "early happy birthday", and I was going ... "huh? How could they know my birthday is coming up?" The other funny thing is that the year I was born (1956), April 2 was Easter Monday. And THIS year, my NEW birthday (April 25) is Easter Monday again! Born twice on the same "holiday"! What are the odds??!?
LOL thats great,, I m happy for you,, also not that I am a trivia junkie,, but your birthday also falls in a year wher ein July there are 5 Fridays, 5 Saturdays, and 5 Sundays, first time in 853 years
great!