so the question is easy... are you happy? is this what you always wanted? do you feel complete?
YES! I am happy! :)
No, this is not what I always wanted. I wish I were born female and not have to have gone through all this crap but, then again, I wouldn't be the person I am today if I hadn't. ;)
If feeling complete is feeling the freedom to do all the things that I was afraid of doing prior to surgery, then I do feel complete. ;D
Quote from: Kristyn on February 12, 2011, 06:15:37 PM
YES! I am happy! :)
No, this is not what I always wanted. I wish I were born female and not have to have gone through all this crap but, then again, I wouldn't be the person I am today if I hadn't. ;)
If feeling complete is feeling the freedom to do all the things that I was afraid of doing prior to surgery, then I do feel complete. ;D
I agree, I'd rather not have to have gone through this and wished I had been born biologically female but I would not be the person I am if I had been. I am however really happy and my life is sooooooooooo much better it is unbelievable.
Stardust
Am I happy?
Overall I'm happier than how I was before, but that wasn't hard given how depressed I was.
Is this what I always wanted?
No it's not great either but it's admittedly no where near as horrid as where I would be had I not done it. I only ever wanted to be a normal woman instead I go through hell and have to be a transsexual instead. It's an acceptable substitute I suppose given my options but it's never what I wanted.
Do I feel complete?
No I'm diminished and depreciated and robbed of even the most basic things people take for granted, but least I'm not loosing anymore of myself.
Quote from: lucaluca on February 12, 2011, 06:09:26 PM
so the question is easy... are you happy? is this what you always wanted? do you feel complete?
hey, that's 3 questions! I'll assume it pertains to SRS since it's under the post-op board...
Yes, I'm happy. Yes, it's pretty much what I've always wanted, although I always wished for it to happen non-surgically (before reality set in and I accepted that is not possible).
I felt complete before the surgery. But I will say that it has made my life easier in many ways. It was the right choice for me.
I'm also assuming you mean post-op? I expressed it in more detail here: https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,84083.msg594408.html#msg594408 (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,84083.msg594408.html#msg594408)
but yes, I am more happy and more at peace with myself now than ever before in my life. Words can't adequately express the sheer exuberance I feel on an almost daily basis from finally having my body corrected, once and for all. I feel CURED, and my day to day life is exponentially more satisfying. The words"religious experience" can't even come close to describing the joy of it.
Are you happy?
Yes, I'm extremely happy and after my surgery, I was finally at peace with myself like I had never been before and I continue to be at peace to this day.
Is this what you always wanted?
Yes, because I live my life as a contented female.
Do you feel complete?
No, I will never feel complete, because I was not born a biological female, I never had the chance to bear my own children and I never went through the normal rites that other females go through. Having said that, I'm contented with the way my life has turned out and I will always remain happy with what I have achieved so far in this life.
Kind regards
Sarah B
What Sarah B said.
I'm happy but I can never be complete. I hold my friends babies, l love them to death and know I cannot have one.
Cindy
Are you happy?
I'm happier than I was before I transitioned. And I no longer have GD, so I'm thankful for that.
Is this what you always wanted?
It isn't yet. As soon as I have a day without pain (from the surgery) and my new genitalia functions as it should, then it will be close enough to what I wanted.
Do you feel complete?
I think I feel as complete as I can. I don't see the point in wishing for things I can never have, like children, so as far as is possible, yes I feel complete.
Are you happy?
Yes. The giddiness of early transition has worn off and now I am settling into happiness and contentment. For the first time in my life I know who I am and am happy with being me.
Is this what you always wanted?
All I wanted was to feel balanced, to be comfortable with myself, and to be comfortable in society. So the answer is yes. I didn't necessarily want to be a woman or to live as a woman, but that's the only way I was able to achieve balance. So in that way, the answer again is yes.
I'd also like to be prettier, healthier, slimmer, desirable to at least one man, etc. Transition and GRS didn't provide those things. And there are the things I will never have, like a baby growing within me. But everyone has things they want but can never have. I have learned to accept the limitations of my life and work on what I can. My life is far better than it was. (For one thing, I'm still alive.)
Do you feel complete?
No, but I'm working on it. ;) I am far too complex of a person to be defined only by my genitals and social role.
- Happily Kate :)
I am happy about me and love me but no one else loves me so i miss that that has never happened.. However, i hated myself pre transitioning and had relationships but i always suffered a broken heart.. now i am happy i can live with just me and don't need another but i would like to still have true love but that may never happen so i just feel happy that i no longer suffer like i did before.
...are you happy?
Ecstatic! 37 years in and my life is 100 times more than I had ever dreamed possible
...is this what you always wanted?
I wasn't sure. I suspected I was a girl but I really couldn't be sure until I got here. Turns out I was RIGHT! ;D
... do you feel complete?
Pretty much. Of course I would like to have been able to have children but I am not the only woman in that situation.
Over all I guess I was luckier than most because I never gave in to the "male brainwashing" and lived a lot of "normal girl life" prior to transition at age 24. I did pretty well under the circumstances so no complaints.
Yes Iam verry happy ;) , for the first time in my life y feel verry good in me, y feel complete.
I am verry up in life.
For me the feeling of being out of place is greatly reduced.
I sleep better and am more confident in working with others.
AND... As the others stated, wish I was born female. I had a daughter and raised he myself (I'm the Mom :), but never gave birth or got to feed her.
I know that its not the right thing for many to do, but for me? Yup. It was :)
Are you happy.
Yes Im happy, living my life as a contented woman. Happier since I married my Fiancé.
Is this what you always wanted.
Yes always wanted to be fully and excepted as a woman, Iv now achieve my goal, but it just turned out completely different than I thought, I never expected to meet and marry a guy, then be a housewife, but thats the way things turned out, Im happy I found love in a guy who excepts me, 10years ago I couldnd cook a sausage lol, now I do all the cooking for myself and my Husband, Im adjusting to my new role as a housewife.
Do I feel complete, yes and no, I now feel fully complete as a woman but would have love to have children and be a mother, but as Northern Jane says, Im not the only woman in that situation.
Pauline
Same as the others really.
Happy yes,
always wanted yes,
complete, other than the lack of fertility. ( and as NJ said that might have happened anyway )
*Are you happy?*
Ahhh.... these three little innocuous words currently lurking within the 'Post operative life' section....
I guess they would in essence have to relate to what you have done 'surgically', rather than personally and with perhaps your career and love-life too?
Big QUESTIONS Lucaluca....lol
Am I happy, yes... no and maybe?
For me true joy is always a fleeting moment, but is only made possible by the balance of experiencing the very worst depths of despair and pain.
Surgeries do take you on very difficult journeys for sure, if you deny this... why so I wonder?
Would I have this any other way? Definitely not... the critical thing for me is to be able to still be a highly emotional, sentient 'feeling' being... come what may.
It's what I consider the key aspect to making me human; do I regret any medical intervention I've undertaken so far? None to date.... but smooth sailing it never is my dears....
Is this what I always wanted?
No... I never wanted to be a person who was afflicted by gender dysphoria!! How could any rational being, choose the most difficult path ahead. Though has my condition and journey defined me as a person?... Undoubtedly!
But for better and worse, would be my most honest answer. It's a lie that what doesn't kill us makes us stronger.... human beings are not bacteria, so simply surviving a traumatic event does not always end in a happy-ever-after.
The bulk of psychological research I've read/researched, as a rule states clearly that if you are stronger after hardship - it is probably despite - not because of the hardship. The school of hard knocks does little more than knock you down - HARD....
(Dismiss this at your peril)
Underfed, weaker, traumatized children with no caring parents are more, not less likely to fail - than kids born of successful, stable, happy and healthy parents. These are unarguable well defined facts. Mayhem and chaos can never be your allies, and they don't prepare you well to deal with the many horrors of the world that you might encounter.
Tender love and care does up your odds of success, because they nurture and strengthen your capacity to survive, learn and adapt, including equipping you with the knowledge of how to dig-deep and cope with the inevitable challenging hardships you will have no choice but to navigate through.
Do I feel complete?
Probably not, its just too 'final', I suspect I'll always be a restless soul, searching for meaning and truth, not just in myself, but in my career too, my personal love life the whole nine quarts and all.
Have I undertaken all the surgeries I need to feel comfortable in my skin - my unceasingly fought for womanhood? Yes most certainly.... as of the last few weeks back in fact - dysphoria correcting surgery's now forever over....
My next hospital trip will be due to unforeseen circumstances, accident or perhaps my demise and death.
(And while on the subject of final farewells....)
I wish to thank personally the so many sweet people (souls) on SUSANS.PLACE who've helped me on most recent journey (over the last 9 month or so) to further fulfilment and I wish you all much success with what you hope to achieve and seek... Live long and prosper yous all.
What's now ahead for me? It's beautifully simple....
I wish to be permanently grateful for being born....
Quote from: lucaluca on February 12, 2011, 06:09:26 PM
so the question is easy... are you happy? is this what you always wanted? do you feel complete?
Yes. Yes. Almost. 21 days ;)
Yes I'm happy the way I am.
Did I always wanted this, I think I didn't want to miss the whole transition because it has made me the one I am now.
When you have to fight for something it's worthfull, so I am still very gratefull that there was a possibility for transition.
And yes I do feel complete, maybe I am not, but I feel so.
hugs
annette
I was happy prior to. The surgery just made me feel free and not always afraid of being found out. NOW, i can go in a locker room and take my clothes off, now i can actually hold my head up KNOWING i have a vagina instead of pretend, but having a vagina DOESNT make you a woman, it makes you a female. I KNOW that IF i were born a female I wouldnt have the sense and the knowledge about LIFE and men that i have now. When I woke up from surgery, i asked for a chocolate malt and the remote control. Didnt ONCE think about what was down there. Did have ANY pain, just a tightness and again, never felt anymore complete than i didnt before i went under the knife. I am 9mths post and I dont even remember having that thing that was there before. SO all n all am I happy
HELL YES
AmI happier, not really because I was happy prior to just now I sleep at night without dreaming.
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Am I happy - Well yes I guess I am. I've achieved so much since transition especially in my career and position in life.
I am very grateful and thankful that by starting early in my 20's I never had the really damaging effects of Testosterone and no-one has any even the slightest inkling about my 'unfortunate' past life.
Regrets - Not being born this way to start with and not having any kids which is true for a lot of us, also regret not getting married and being the housewife I always wanted to be. Most of my family rejected me, which is something else I regret but can do nothing about
Do I feel complete - I'm as complete as I can be. Physically I'm happy with the way things turned out.
Is it what I always wanted - No - I always wanted to be the female I knew I was inside, right from the start. This would have also saved me many thousands of Dollars in Surgeries. But since I accepted my gender dysphoria in my 20's I think my expectations have been exceeded. I never in my wildest dreams thought I could live as I am now, and in that sense it is what I always wanted.
I am happy as a pig in #### ! :o After many years of singledom and dating quite a few frogs, I have found one who treats me like a princess and goes out of his way to please me. ;D Everything is PERFECT ..... I guess it is okay that he says, with a big grin, that I am "insatiable" :D
:icon_woowoo: :eusa_dance:I AM ECSTATIC!!!!!! LIFE HAS NEVER BEEN BETTER !!!!! YES YES AND HELL TO THE YES LOL LOL
very much so
a really tough recovery and i learn alot about how i shape my own result as much as the surgeon did to begin in that time.
now things are much much easier, not painful and im complete, life still can get you down but its nothing to do with GID anymore.
I wonder what relevance i have here anymore and should leave but glad to be post op
Dr Suporn was my surgeon and i have alot to thank for what i have been given
I know I've already posted in this thread, but I'd like to answer more in depth my feelings on being post-op:
Am I happy? Yes, like Vanna said, very much so. I love waking up every morning in my new body. I love the way my clothes fit... I love the way my body fits. I've been cured of a profound lifelong affliction and I can't express enough how absolutely wonderful that is; nothing else even comes close.
It wasn't always that way. I had to have six units of blood replaced in the days following my surgery. I was 6 days in the actual hospital room, and could still barely force myself out of bed, head spinning, long enough to hobble around the bed with a walker so they would let me go home. The bleeding caused some other, painful complications, and I still had to contend with dilating 5 times a day.
The pain was intense but as with all things, this too passed... and eventually everything healed up very nicely, there isn't even a scar now. It looked dreadful at first, but now almost 9 months later everything has formed together as it should and my vagina is beautiful to me.
Is it what I always wanted? It was never about wanting it; it was a deep abiding need in the depths of my soul that could not be fulfilled without it. I'm still realizing the full grasp of how much this was so. And now I know that no one can ever take this away from me, and that is a treasure priceless beyond words.
Do I feel complete? If you mean as having aesthetically pleasing, functional female genitalia then yeah, it's as complete as it gets in this life. I am happily content with what I have but best of all, I'm finally whole.
Kia Ora Lucaluca,
::) I'm as contented now as I was before my surgery, surgery for me was not the "be all and end all " it was just a unexpected bonus that I appreciate...However for me, being on HRT and just being able to live and be treated as my true psycho-sexual identity out in public provided the contentment that I was seeking...
Metta Zenda :)