It doesn't make me uncomfortable actually.
It's like my brain switched from male to female, almost. I feel like "one of the girls" rather then a boy. I apparently start half identifying as a girl, for that period.
I still have my desires and such, and I still consider myself FtM during that period, but I feel like a girl and not a boy for whatever absurd reason. I don't feel like a boy hanging around girls, but like a girl (I guess, maybe not; how would I know what being a girl feels like?). Maybe it's because I'm pre-transition..
Quote from: Lance M. on February 18, 2011, 03:06:49 PM
i feel like a guy when i am around girls and like a girl when i'm around guys. hence very few male friends. but all my girl friends see me as a guy and do well to reaffirm it, so. i'm also pre-transition, for reference.
thats how it is for me too, except sometimes i feel like one of the guys when im am with guys
Sorry, I'm exactly the opposite. I feel most like a guy when around girls. Then when I'm with guys, I feel a little intimidated and more girl-like, but still male. Just... femmey and shy.
I feel like me around girls I guess that is a guy and I feel like I don't measure up to guys when I am around them.
I definitely feel more masculine around women. Around men, I often compare myself to them and feel like I'm less masculine. After all, I'm pretty much always shorter and "softer" in features, plus I'm nervous around new people. That's strange that it is opposite for you, but everyone is different.
Strangely enough I can understand this. I have always been a gender chameleon able to blend in with whatever group I am in. It's only a problem if it disturbs you. I think its rather cool.
Since my SRS I consider myself to be unambiguously physically female, which is where I always wanted to be, but in terms of "gender" I can be whatever is most expedient to group dynamics and that is neat.
Same situation for me as Vince, emoboi, and Nikolai. More masculine around women, a bit intimidated and quiet around men (OR sometimes I start feeling more competitive....like I have to measure up to them).
I kinda feel like what some of the guys already mentioned. When I'm around the girls, I'm a total guy. However I can accept and relate to a lot of the things they talk about because I have been around them my whole life. I consider myself a guy amongst them though.
Amongst the guys...pre-T, I was kinda girlish because I feel like I didn't have the same attributes that made them a guy. Not in my interests and the way I acted though. I just felt like I couldn't relate to some of the things they were talking about. And if you're around my guy friends, you would understand because they're these huge macho, man among men type of guys. But ever since I started taking T and so and and so on, I feel just like one of them now, and when I'm amongst the girls I don't feel like I can relate to them as much.
When I'm around girls, I feel like a guy. When I'm around guys, I still feel like a guy, yet a guy that can't measure up to the others. Reason I hang around mostly girls.
No, I can't say I feel like a girl around my female friends. However, with my female friends from work who I'm not out to, I do feel like the only reason I'm included in their plans is because they perceive me to be a girl. I feel a bit guilty, like I've infiltrated their ranks through camouflage or something.
I've never experienced a change in my gender identity. I generally don't even think about my gender.
I've never really felt like a girl. Even when I was forced or forcing myself into a dress, I felt disgusting.
The only thing I feel around most girls is uncomfortable, really.
I always feel like a total outcast when I'm around all women. Mostly because they want to treat me like one of them (usually) or they know I'm somehow "different" and that changes how they deal with me as well. Either way, it's uncomfortable as hell.
I can act the part when I want to, but it's just that, acting. I feel really removed from how women deal with each other and act in general as far as being able to relate to that goes. I've never felt 100% female in my whole life.
When I am around a group of girls I do not feel a difference in my gender, I always feel like a guy, though in some situations maybe a bit more of a feminine guy, but I embrace that.
Quote from: insideontheoutside on February 18, 2011, 07:29:08 PM
I always feel like a total outcast when I'm around all women. Mostly because they want to treat me like one of them (usually) or they know I'm somehow "different" and that changes how they deal with me as well. Either way, it's uncomfortable as hell.
I can act the part when I want to, but it's just that, acting. I feel really removed from how women deal with each other and act in general as far as being able to relate to that goes. I've never felt 100% female in my whole life.
ditto
I don't feel like a girl when I'm around women, but I know I do feel more comfortable being girly/effeminate around women - they tend to respond to it better/take it in stride, it seems.
Quote from: insideontheoutside on February 18, 2011, 07:29:08 PM
I always feel like a total outcast when I'm around all women. Mostly because they want to treat me like one of them (usually) or they know I'm somehow "different" and that changes how they deal with me as well. Either way, it's uncomfortable as hell.
I can act the part when I want to, but it's just that, acting. I feel really removed from how women deal with each other and act in general as far as being able to relate to that goes. I've never felt 100% female in my whole life.
This. Nothing makes me feel more awkward than being in a room full of women who think I'm a woman.
Yeah, being around nothing by woman does nothing but reaffirm the fact that I'm a guy..
I can actually relate. I think I am a bit fluid in my identity actually..though I present as male all the time.
I dunno, as soon as I stopped trying to fit in with the girls, I stopped comparing myself to them entirely. I feel like me whoever I'm around. I feel like a guy when I'm with girls. I feel like a guy when I'm with guys. I WILL say, though that around certain guys I feel like I don't measure up, but the feeling is usually fleeting and can be dismissed as my own insecurities. I'm very comfortable around women as long as I"m not trying to be one. Hell I hang around with dancers mostly, it's like having my very own army of dolls to play dressup with. (What, I never said I was a macho, guy :D )
I do feel more feminine around girls, but I think it's mostly from having to pretend to be female my whole life. I prefer hanging out with guys, then I can be "just one of the guys" and not feel awkward.
I just feel the same as u. D:
Quote from: Ribbons on February 18, 2011, 03:01:38 PM
It doesn't make me uncomfortable actually.
It's like my brain switched from male to female, almost. I feel like "one of the girls" rather then a boy. I apparently start half identifying as a girl, for that period.
I still have my desires and such, and I still consider myself FtM during that period, but I feel like a girl and not a boy for whatever absurd reason. I don't feel like a boy hanging around girls, but like a girl (I guess, maybe not; how would I know what being a girl feels like?). Maybe it's because I'm pre-transition..
Yeah i know the feeling, lots of it is not really what you are doing, but what other people are imposing on you. like calling you with your birth name, using wrong pronouns, and basically refusing to acknowledge your identity, it can make one feel like you are "one of the girls". I just dont hang around with a lot of girls or any female friends anymore tbh, its nothing personal, just looking out for my life. I got tired of defending my identity, asking to be called the right pronouns, being outed all the time when i just want to be stealth, somehow my so called female friends are the hardest people in acknowledging my true self.
I'm afraid I feel the same as most guys above. I feel much more masculine when I am around girls and women, and I feel more insecure when I'm around men. Especially when they are really huge or tall, I feel more dysphoric and like a kid..???
Also I think I'm insecure about my body language in general, as I don't have a lot of guy friends, sometimes I don't know how a typical guy would respond in a particular situation.. and it makes me more uneasy. :-\
I don't feel like a girl at all when I'm around a bunch of girls. If anything, I feel even more out of place because of how little I tend to have in common with them.
But then again, I feel awkward around a bunch of guys, but that is mostly because other people refuse to treat me like I am one of the guys. It doesn't help that I am introverted and am the type of person that doesn't speak unless spoken to.
I guess no matter what group of people I'm with, I'll always be out of place.
I find it difficult to fit in no matter where I am to be honest, and so it doesn't matter whether I'm with boys or girls. But then, I'm still trying to figure everything out, so maybe once I become more sure of myself things will get easier.
I used to feel like that. I felt like if I acted too masculine the girls would see right through me. Most of the time I didn't do it on purpose, but I would catch myself after I started doing it.
I think it had a lot to do with being insecure with my gender identity. I feel like light-years past that now though and now that I'm comfortable in my own skin I don't think about it too much. When I'm around my gay best friend I become a little more feminine, but that doesn't make me less of a man, that just makes me... me! ya know?
Anyway, it's nothing to be ashamed of, you are who you are, embrace it! ;D