Today I went to a friends birthday party, I haven't really met many of there personal circle of friends and I only knew like 1 or 2 of them. From what I understand she didn't tell anything about me to them as we all had to introduce ourselves when we met.
So obviously throughout the day of activities that were arranged nobody knew about my trans past I was just "Alice" to everyone nobody struggled with gender pronouns or muddling my name up nobody knew me any different and there was of course no need to
It was nice really nice... I felt so... Normal.
It's not just nice it's infact an addictive feeling.
Whenever I'm around my other actual friends while I love them of course I do and I'd never leave them this issue occasionally comes up they muddle my name they slip with a pronoun or something to that effect I'm followed by that feeling I'm begin judged like I have to somehow must try harder to slip off that part of my past to make it easier for them and I know it's not intentional and my friends do nothing but there best. But I always feel like I'm begging for acceptance and vindication from Cis-people... :/
And then I wasn't... It was just given... I felt like a normal female not a transsexual-woman.
I'm sorry if that sounded horrible I don't mean it in that way.
That doesn't sound in the least horrible. It sounds like it was great.
I completely understand! I have recently had similar experiences myself and it is the most incredible feeling and one I did not expect. I feel like most of the time I'm so hypervigilant and up in my own head trying to make up that "lost ground" from being trans that I sometimes can't enjoy the moment. When someone just tags you as female it's so refreshing, it's really given me an oppertunity to step back, relish who I am and see the progress I've made.
~Sara
Quote from: pebbles on February 27, 2011, 02:10:09 PM
It was nice really nice... I felt so... Normal.
It's not just nice it's infact an addictive feeling.
I totally feel the same way. It's almost too cool for words. It just really feels right. ;D
That must have been so refreshing, i havent yet had the experiance but i must admit one day when it happens it will be so nice not to have to talk about transition etc to a bunch of new people :-) get like a stuck record teehee