how many of you identified as transsexual, before you were sure that you are androgyne, genderqueer?
Quote from: lucaluca on March 07, 2011, 09:35:36 AM
how many of you identified as transsexual, before you were sure that you are androgyne, genderqueer?
I did, and transitioned MTF for over a year before eventually settling into a space in between/outside binary genders.
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Hi,
Just was not me. tho i spent time with a few , i used the words transfemale i did not have the words that i could use that was more how i saw my self this is me of cause , transsexual was / is not me its not how i think its more intersex took a while tho , i am accepted as a woman of cause so for those that know me , okay im a woman , & in many ways i am so who cares any way not my friends & those who know me.
...noeleena...
I thought I was ftm before I discovered "androgyne."
Yeah add me to that list too, was in my early twenties when i first looked at having GRS, then a few years later got diagnosed as being TS and was on hormones for about 6 months before realising becoming a 100% female was never going to make me feel totally happy.
Think it is just a natural reaction to not feeling like you are the gender you were born, if your not male then you must be female and vice versa, didnt realise till about a couple of years ago there was such a thing as being andro, but have felt an awfull lot better since finding out about it.
as a teen I saw myself as a Lesbian but I also wanted to be a dad so I knew I couldn't be a Dad and ID as female so transition never crssed my mind also I had dreams where I would remove my boy bits at the beginning of the dream and put in back on (or ask for it back) at the end of the dream
I sort of did the same thing, before I really understood terminology I just saw myself as both male and female, then when I started learning more about Trans* stuff I decided that that must be what I was. But after a while I found that I didn't really fit and that I'm much closer to what I thought I was in the first place I just needed to find the right words to describe it to others. I'm now really sure that I'm genderqueer and I'm quite happy being that.
I'm still running the Schrödinger's Label experiment - flickering in the probability wave between thinking I'm on my way from something to something else, and thinking I'm just on my way from not knowing all that I am to knowing all that I am ;D.
When I was a teen, my mind got my body to do androgynous things whilst very carefully arranging that I not notice I was doing so. Coping strategies FTW!
QuoteI'm still running the Schrödinger's Label experiment
Schrodinger's gender box? a Schrodingender even? ;D
I sort of went the other way...When I met my wife, I asked myself "Am I a man?" She's postop transsexual, and well, I'd never really known anybody who was before...
So the answer came back "Meh, not a guy," so I thought, "Aha! I'm a woman!"
Now, eight years later...um, not quite.
Quote from: hylie random on March 11, 2011, 01:43:55 AM
Schrodinger's gender box? a Schrodingender even? ;D
I've tried to rise above the obvious "pussy/no pussy" metaphor... but then I fell again :).
I was uncomfortably/histrionically MTF for about 8 months before finding the term androgyne and beginning to apply it.
I am presently comfortable identifying as both trans and genderqueer.
I am transitioning MTF and have no intention ever to stop. But my identity is far more nuanced than simply that.
I've never identified as TS. I went through a brief period in my teens where I wondered if I might really be a girl instead of a boy but it didn't take me too long to figure out that I was "something else" instead.
I definitely thought I was mtf before discovering androgyne. I'd even come out to family as mtf prematurely and experienced a whole lot of grief.
When I was thirteen, I chanced upon a biography of Christine Jorgensen in the corner drugstore. Standing there, I quickly read the whole book (I am normally a slow reader). My thought was: aha, there are two of us, and the other one is willing to put herself on display in order to earn a living; I am not. Besides, I couldn't imagine asking my parents to fly me to Denmark for an operation that would permit me to be myself.
So, I spent decades learning how to be myself, even in the body I was born with. And I gathered a wife and kids and a support group of friends willing to tolerate my weirdnesses.
About three years ago, taking finasteride for a period of months for my growing prostate, my breasts starting growing and I felt euphoria and excitement like I'd never felt. It seemed to me I was destined to become the woman outside that I was inside. Searching the internet, I discovered Susan's and a whole bunch of weirdos like me. Simultaneously, I took an online test that said I was androgyne (an unfamiliar word to me). We know those tests mean little or nothing, and I have subsequently and honestly had the test declare me feminine.
I was delighted and grateful to discover the unicorn forest because it has afforded me the opportunity to explore and attempt to understand my weirdnesses, virtually guilt-free, without ditching all my relationships and bankrupting myself. Besides, as the result of presumably male genes and decades of immersion in testosterone and culture, I must be an androgyne.
I still prefer being quietly weird--as one of a group of women at work and one of a group of women playing mah jongg for liesure, cooking and caring for my wife/partner/best friend who works tirelessly in the outside world earning our wherewithal. In that regard, I must leave you now to go clean the refrigerator. :icon_wave:
Be well,
S
(To people who recognise me: hello, it's been a while! :P)
I kind of identified as FTM, though I knew I wasn't and my opinion of what I was kept switching between FTM and not all through puberty until I was 17 and discovered that there WAS an alternative. Once I found it I just thought 'wow, that makes more sense' and have identified as it ever since. I remember telling a friend of mine that I was FTM at about age 16, but I basically realised that wasn't really right and clammed up halfway through the conversation. Yeah.
( Yes! it has been awhile! I hope life is good for you, and hope to see ya around somemore! :))
Hi y'all,
Wow, I thought at first that most of the replies said yes, but when actually counting, it's pretty darn close.
I'll add my vote to the No group.
I've known for most of my life that I wasn't like all the other guys, but I also knew I wasn't a girl. A little research showed that there was another option, but didn't help a lot. Then I found this group and settled in quite comfortably here in the Unicorn forest.
...Laurry
IDed non-op TS. then intergender. then androgyne. then non-binary gender. in all those labels i see myself the same, just a change in my understanding.