When your mom was pregnant with you, what did the doctor tell her she was going to have?
I am only just curious, not trying to link it to anything scientific really.
I know I've told this before, but when my mom was pregnant with me and my sister, the doctor told her she was having twin boys. Then said they think one is a girl, but the other is for sure a boy. Then she had both of us at 27 weeks. My mom made a joke when she tells the story now and says "... and then 20 years later 'it's a boy!'"
I had a theory when I was a child that if I was in her womb longer I would have been born right. But then I learned about sex-ed and that blew it up in my face.
I just think it's really funny and would be interesting to see if that happened to anyone else.
Boy.
My mom was low-income at the time and a DIYer, so while she was pregnant she sewed dozens and dozens of little blue and red and green baby outfits, in sizes birth to age 2. Obviously there was no returning them when I was born, so I wore them.
She tried to overcompensate after and made me a bunch of little dresses as well. But I liked the adorable little velvet overalls and sweatsuits so much more...I look like a boy in all my baby pictures.
I was born in 1969.
Based on the way my mom was carrying me, and based on measurements taken with a measuring tape, they assured her I would be a girl.
These "diagnoses" seemed somewhat unscientific even when my mom told me about this in the late '70's-early-'80's.
My mother was told she was having a boy ... they had my whole room decorated .. then when I came out and was a girl they were shocked. My dad went home and painted my room pink that night - back in the day when women were kept in the hospital 3-4 days. He surprised my mom.
Off the topic what is DIY? I have seen it in several other posts and I don't know what it means.
My mom wanted to be surprised. But, when i was born my head was the first thing out and my dads first words were, "what a beautiful baby boy." I found that kind of funny.
Quote from: Rob on March 18, 2011, 10:36:55 AMOff the topic what is DIY? I have seen it in several other posts and I don't know what it means.
DIY = "Do it yourself" :)
My mom always told me she was sure she'd have one boy and one girl - and seeing as I have a (much) older brother, she 'knew' I would be a girl. Although she did have both a male and 'female' name picked out for me. Both, amusingly enough, are technically male names.
The doctors only said they thought I would be developmentally delayed, or have some sort of learning disorder, because of my mom's age: she was 32 or so when she had me, and this was back in the early nineties, so ... yeah x3 Thankfully that wasn't the case. I know a few developmental disorders have been correlated with testosterone, but I've never really asked my mom if that had anything to do with it.
My mother was sure she would be having a boy. Then I had to play along for 23 years....
Girl. They didn't even have a boy name picked out. They were thinking of naming my Summer Robin Richardson, but then when I popped out with decidedly male junk, my Mom screamed out R*** W***** R*********N (my legal name. Though not for long). fun.
kyril: I'm jealous you have baby pictures of yourself dressed as a boy. That is one thing I often wonder when I have kids of my own growing up I won't have any pictures to show them of me growing up.
rob: my parents did the same thing. They had all blue things and blue walls waiting for us. But we were kept in the hospital on for three months so they waited until they had an idea if we were going to make it or not to change everything to pink girl stuff. since it would have been hard to change it all and then get bad news.
alia: It's interesting to think about. If I my sister and I were born boys we were going to be named Adam and Allan. People often wondered why I didn't pick one of those names while coming out. My sister had already dated an Adam who I ended up going to college with when I was coming out (and we were friends at the time) and my uncles name is Allen, I had to people associated with the name so I couldn't make it identify with me. Do you go by Summer now or did you pick a different name?
I was born WAY too early and weighed only 1.3 pounds at birth. There's some minor difference between boys' and girls' immune system or something, so if I had been born a boy, I would have died. Very ironic, no? My parents have told me that I had to be hooked up to lots of machinery, and that every time they went to visit me in the hospital, something would start beeping and a nurse would run up and try and fix it. The first thing I saw of the world outside the hospital was a jousting performance (medieval knights; imagine something slightly similar to a renaissance fair, but with jousting and knights). The boy's names they had picked out for me were really stupid, so I'm glad I picked Elias. Still, I feel attached to my old name somewhat, as it is a very unusual name and I've never ever met anyone else with it. There are many named Elias, however...
How many weeks were you born at? I guess it's not that unusual for me since I was a twin though towards the end of my moms pregnancy one of us started to get bigger. We had an umbilical cord that was attached to each other then in the middle of it it branched out and attached to the uterus but for some reason one of us started to take more nutrients in. We were born 2 pounds each but shortly after one of us was dying faster dropping to about 1.x pounds. I really couldn't tell you which one of us that was though hahah.
Quote from: Michael James on March 18, 2011, 10:41:44 AM
My mom wanted to be surprised. But, when i was born my head was the first thing out and my dads first words were, "what a beautiful baby boy." I found that kind of funny.
Pretty much the same here. Dad thought I was a boy until the doctors corrected him. Apparently baby's genetelia is swollen and all babies pretty much look like guys at first.
My parents didn't want to know, but they thought I was going to be a boy. Little did they know I actually was. :D
My mother decided to name me after a woman, before she knew what gender I was.
I don't know exactly how early I was born, just that it was very early. Also, I was so tiny that I'd grab my mother's earrings and tug them a little when I wanted her attention; I grabbed them with my entire hand!
Boy but my mom hoped and prayed for a girl. Even my hospital certificate has my sex listed as a boy then a line through it with girl written next to it. Oddly enough I was also born about 2 months early and really tiny hooked up to machines like Elias.
My mum wanted to be surprised but loads of people told her she was having a boy from the way she was carrying me. She told me that when they handed me to her in a pink blanket she was very surprised at how modern they were putting a boy in pink :D
G-d gift !!!
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Kate
well, they must have not done one of those things where you can tell before its born, but apparently when i actually was born (c-section btw =p) they thought i was a guy XD
don't know exactly how you can get that wrong by physically seeing the parts but im not complaning haha
besides, they were deadheads so i guess that excuses them
One lucky bastard. I'm adopted.
I was born really early too.
As well, my mom thought I was going to be a boy. She was going to name me Alexander, and always called me "Alex" while pregnant with me.
Then, when I came out officially to her as transgender, she said "My mom always told me that if I had a daughter, she would be worse than me." (She was really bad, growing up; always snuck out, got drunk, you know?)
To answer the question: Everybody thought I was going to be a boy. Apparently, the doctors couldn't tell if I was a boy or a girl while my mom was pregnant because I wouldn't open my legs (even in the womb, I was dysphoric, it seems. XD No, I'm just joking. Apparently, that means you're a girl if you're legs are crossed or closed.)
Boy. My mom had blue birth announcements picked out but ended up doing my room in just white with a bunch of decor that wasn't too male or female. That totally fit actually lol. When I first popped out, they said boy, then I guess about an hour later they determined female to put in the birth certificate. I found out years later that the doctor wanted to do "corrective" surgery on my junk but my parents wouldn't have it (thank god!) - they just wanted to be assured that I was otherwise healthy and functioning, so when they knew I was they put their foot down on any kind of surgery.
As far as I know, my mom always thought I was a girl.
this is really interesting. my mom said the same from my birth stories. she said they thought i was going to be a girl, but i ended up coming out as a 10 pound male baby withe facial edema and knotted umbilical cord. apparently, i was a very difficult pregnancy. she was sick everyday with me, and i only wonder now if that pregnancy reflects all the hardships in my life. asperger's, gender identity disorder, expressive receptive language disorder, mathematics disorder. nature's ways can be interesting.
My mom had a few miscareges and still births before she got me. she had a midwife and everything done at home. she said she knew from the start that i was a girl. I know its weird and all but I sometimes wounder if one of her miscareges or still borns was a boy and if it was ment to be me.
I have two younger brothers and Sean my eldest bro was supposed to be a girl then on a later ultrasound they found out he was a he. just another little side note my mom was told she would never have kids when she was in her late teens. she was 26 when she finnaly got me.
My parents were told they were having one boy. A couple months later, they were told that they were having two; one was a boy and the other was undetermined. Then they found out later it was a boy and a girl.
My birth was unremarkable as I was known to be a girl the whole time. Darn.
Oh my mom was completely sure I was gonna be a girl, lots of girl clothes, girl name, the works. She was amazingly surprised. I always loved my girl name, even growing up. Hopefully it will be legal soon.
My grandmother said that they thought I was going to be a boy, my mom denied it. Later on I overheard her telling her friends that she was told she was going to have a boy and that she didn't even have a girls name picked out. I was also premature, 3 months I think.
i think i was determined half way through pregnancy as a girl from an ultrasound. my mom always said she never knew why people had a hard time figuring what things were from those since my brother and i were really easy to tell and they could apparently could see hair and everything, then i was born 2 months early and spent 9 months in pediatric intensive care because of my underdeveloped lungs.
It seems like most people posting in this thread were born premature. I wonder if that's odd or just a coincidence.
I wasn't born premature, though. My parents didn't know what gender I was until I was born. I don't know what they thought I was, but after I was born, female, they took a few weeks still trying to decide what my name would be. I hate that name so much I'm not even going to say it, lol.
I was premature
Quote from: JayUnit on March 18, 2011, 04:07:33 AM
When your mom was pregnant with you, what did the doctor tell her she was going to have?
They told her they were having a girl.
With my sister, they told her that my sister might be a boy until later on in the pregnancy.
My parents didn't have sex tests done on my brother or I. But I found out after she passed away that the whole time she was pregnant with me she had a "feeling" I was going to be a boy. I would have been named Sean if I was, but I didn't choose that to be my trans name because I'm already acquainted with a transgendered Sean and I don't want to look like I'm stealing his name, haha. Besides, the name doesn't fit me anymore.
I dunno, I just find it an interesting coincidence that these mix-ups happen so often. A friend told me when I came out that her Psych text book has a section on gender identity, that basically says a transgendered person is no different than a blue-eyed person. That it's as much a part of our genetics as the rest of the things that make us individuals...
My parents were told that they were having twin boys, but ended up having one girl. Of course, that girl is now a guy... Before I was born, my parents didn't even have a name picked out yet. They had boys' names, but not girls' names. I was premature, too, which is odd because it seems like a lot of who has posted was premature.
I was premature too, not sure what my Mom was expecting, though.
My parents made a point of not checking my sex before I was born, because they didn't find that very important. I think I may have been raised quite gender-neutrally, apart from ballet class and long hair (my mother seemed to want me to be more feminine, and luckily my little sister is very feminine and girlish). They let me play with toy cars and dinosaurs and such.
I was late, so late actually that they decided I was overdo and basically had to come out. I guess I didn't want to deal with life yet hehe. Anyway, as far as I know my mom always thought I would be a boy.. I can't really get close enough to ask her about these things though.
Im pretty sure I was declared as a girl from the beginning :-X Well, thats what my mum said. Before me there was a miscarriaged boy tho :P
I've now managed to retrieve my medical records and the first note is:
Ahh not one of them.
Then I think it went downhill :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
Cindy
I wasn't premature either, I was just over two weeks late.
My birth was otherwise unremarkable; my mom guessed I was female because I didnt move much, apparently. The doctors wouldn't tell her what sex I was officially though.
Girl for sure. Then after I was born till I was 9 they said I was such a beautiful girl. The T change a lot.
My Mom was expecting a girl...that's what the doctor said..She was going to name me Jo-Anne...............little did she know,that she really did have her girl after all...My name is Jo-Anne.
My mother was told I was a boy...it even shows on the sonogram I have in my baby book...it says Baby Boy(last name)my name at birth was intended to be Andrew James or Jason Jame after my father..I was not told this story until after I "came out" as transgendered, so I chose the name Jayson but spoke with my mother about it. I told her I wanted her to decide how it got spelled before I change in legally...she asked me to by a Y in it because it's unique like me ;D
Hahah that's interesting. My name's spelled Jayson too but after a long time after I came out my mom told me she would like it if I went by Jaxson instead but I was already out at work and to a lot of other people as Jay at that time, plus didn't think Jax would have suited me.
The only reason I put the Y in my name was because when I first came out I wasn't very comfortable so I took the androgynous route by not correcting people and just going by Jay if anyone asked. But I made a Facebook with a fake last name and different city only adding a couple of people. At first I wasn't sure if I wanted it to be Jay or Jason, I was almost too embarrassed to put Jason for some reason? Somehow by accident I got the idea to use Jayson. I think it was a typo at first. But then I liked it because I thought if I was ever in a situation where I wasn't sure what to go by I could write Jay and then depending on my comfort level just add 'son' to it.
By the time I became more comfortable and put my real last name on Facebook and added people from work and such I tried to switch it to just Jason but at that time it didn't look right anymore.
Kind of funny because my last name is very rare, I don't even think it really exists hahah very few people in the world have it but everyone spells it with a 'c'. So my first name now has an extra letter and my last name is missing one. You can imagine how many people get my whole name wrong now.
My mother didn't find out. I was born in 77 and I guess it wasn't accurate enough for her to really care till I got here.
I'm a twin, and initially the doctors thought I didn't exist. They thought that I was just the shadow of my brother. When they finally figured out that there were actually two fetuses in there, though, they declared me a girl.
Well back in the 60's there weren't any ultrasounds or such like... so all we had was a mother's feelings and the obstetrician's instinct.
Initially mum said she dreamed of a dark haired boy but half way through the pregnancy she said she felt that he had died and was replaced in her mind's eye by a golden haired girl.
I am clearly both of them fused into one glorious whole. ;D
I don't know honestly. Probably a girl.
I was born three months premature, so I had no legit genitalia at birth. However they still named me a female name.
Quote from: Ribbons on May 01, 2011, 12:08:06 PM
I don't know honestly. Probably a girl.
I was born three months premature, so I had no legit genitalia at birth. However they still named me a female name.
??? Really? I've never heard of this? I was born three months premature too, at 27 weeks.
My mother never went for a scan. But they used to tell me that based on the shape of the baby, my mother's moods etc and how it kicked etc, they thought that it was a boy for sure.
I was also a premature baby, I think I was more than 1 month premature.
:-\
Female :(
Constipation, probably. I was never told. Although in a lot of ways, my mother did end up having... hmm... nevermind. I asked her once what she wanted, she said she wished she'd kept the placenta and dumped me in the bucket. So I don't think it made a whole lot of difference.
I was declared Male, after 3brothers before me I think my Mother was very disappointed, ''yikes not another 1'' when I transition in my teens she was very excepting, I think thats the reason why, she finally got a daughter she always wanted.
My grandmother insisted that I would be born male, despite the doctors saying female. She's very religious and told my mother that God had spoken to her through her dreams/prayer telling her she would have a grandson. I'm not a believer myself but found this interesting given how things turned out :)
Quote from: Da Monkey on April 26, 2011, 07:18:01 AMThe only reason I put the Y in my name was because when I first came out I wasn't very comfortable so I took the androgynous route by not correcting people and just going by Jay if anyone asked. But I made a Facebook with a fake last name and different city only adding a couple of people. At first I wasn't sure if I wanted it to be Jay or Jason, I was almost too embarrassed to put Jason for some reason? Somehow by accident I got the idea to use Jayson. I think it was a typo at first. But then I liked it because I thought if I was ever in a situation where I wasn't sure what to go by I could write Jay and then depending on my comfort level just add 'son' to it.
By the time I became more comfortable and put my real last name on Facebook and added people from work and such I tried to switch it to just Jason but at that time it didn't look right anymore.
This is the most hilarious and ironic things I've
ever read. Since I was younger, I always loved the name Jason for some reason. I didn't love it because I wanted to name my future kids it either, if you get my drift. My brothers and I all had pretty plain names so it worked out for me. The funny part is. This is the
exact same thing that happened to me.
In High School, instead of going by my legal first name at the time, I went up to all my teacher before class started and told them I preferred to go by "Jay" because saying "Jason" was too... you know, male. "Jay" is more... gender neutral. A couple teachers asked why I preferred it, or why they wanted them to call me it, and I told a couple. One teacher even had a relative that was a MTF. Which I thought was somewhat amusing, it was never again brought up during school. I was however in gender segregated Physical Education, which sucked on many levels. But many of the students knew, and didn't care. Or just talked crap, and I didn't care what they had to say.
To me, "Jay" just became a nickname, only my high school friends and some family call me it, but I much prefer the full "Jason" when it comes down to it. I just thought the correlation to between my story and yours' was hilarious.
I was born 3 months premature, with a collapsed lung, a heart murmur, and several under developed organs. I'm not sure how I made it through. Apparently, they used a new medicine or something, so my dad claims but he's not exactly a good source of information. My mother passed away, and my dad is not someone I converse with, but I do not know what sex they thought I was going to be. I always wondered if maybe my very very early birth kind of screwed something up, but I think that was just me searching for explanations. So I didn't feel so... crazy? My mother wasn't very happy though. From what I've heard from immediate family is, that I was supposed to be a boy. My mom thought she was having all boys. That she never wanted a girl, she wasn't supposed to have a girl, etc etc. Ironic really.
Quote from: Ratchet on May 26, 2011, 03:40:26 AM
This is the most hilarious and ironic things I've ever read. Since I was younger, I always loved the name Jason for some reason. I didn't love it because I wanted to name my future kids it either, if you get my drift. My brothers and I all had pretty plain names so it worked out for me. The funny part is. This is the exact same thing that happened to me.
In High School, instead of going by my legal first name at the time, I went up to all my teacher before class started and told them I preferred to go by "Jay" because saying "Jason" was too... you know, male. "Jay" is more... gender neutral. A couple teachers asked why I preferred it, or why they wanted them to call me it, and I told a couple. One teacher even had a relative that was a MTF. Which I thought was somewhat amusing, it was never again brought up during school. I was however in gender segregated Physical Education, which sucked on many levels. But many of the students knew, and didn't care. Or just talked crap, and I didn't care what they had to say.
To me, "Jay" just became a nickname, only my high school friends and some family call me it, but I much prefer the full "Jason" when it comes down to it. I just thought the correlation to between my story and yours' was hilarious.
Hahahahah that's funny. It's strange though because sometimes now having my legal name as Jayson I feel like that alone will out me. I always found it annoying when people name themselves like 'Kohlton', 'Jaycen', 'Ject' etc. because I find it to be a drag king-ish or like music artist-ish and wonder how they expect to be taken seriously. Then ironically enough I end up with a stupid spelled name because I was trying to save myself from embarrassing situations but I always get comments on it.
I also stuck to a J name because my mom named all of her kids with J's. And growing up as an identical twin no one could tell me and my sister apart so they just called us both J.
Quote from: Ratchet on May 26, 2011, 03:40:26 AM
I was born 3 months premature, with a collapsed lung, a heart murmur, and several under developed organs. I'm not sure how I made it through. Apparently, they used a new medicine or something, so my dad claims but he's not exactly a good source of information. My mother passed away, and my dad is not someone I converse with, but I do not know what sex they thought I was going to be. I always wondered if maybe my very very early birth kind of screwed something up, but I think that was just me searching for explanations. So I didn't feel so... crazy? My mother wasn't very happy though. From what I've heard from immediate family is, that I was supposed to be a boy. My mom thought she was having all boys. That she never wanted a girl, she wasn't supposed to have a girl, etc etc. Ironic really.
Wow that's a lot to make through. My twin and I had a hard enough time as it was and we didn't even have much wrong with us. You must have been at a really good hospital, and I imagine it was expensive depending on where you were born. I remember my parents getting a bill from the hospital that was huge, then it basically was like 'this is how much it would have cost but it's covered by OHIP' hahah. I know what you mean about trying to find something to 'explain' yourself. Sorry to hear about your mom, did she pass from giving birth or was it unrelated? That's good to know that she didn't want a girl anyway.
Quote from: Da Monkey on May 26, 2011, 07:01:53 AMI remember my parents getting a bill from the hospital that was huge, then it basically was like 'this is how much it would have cost but it's covered by OHIP' hahah. I know what you mean about trying to find something to 'explain' yourself. Sorry to hear about your mom, did she pass from giving birth or was it unrelated? That's good to know that she didn't want a girl anyway.
My dad was in the military, so they covered it. My first helicopter ride was when I was in my mom's belly. They had to fly her to the University hospital an hour and half away because they had the ability to actually keep me alive. I have no idea how much it was. I was in the hospital for 3 months as well, most of the time I spent it in the NICU. But my mother died in a car accident when I was 9. If she was still around when I came out, I don't think she would have been surprised or minded to much.
Boy.
I find it extremely interesting that most of the people in this thread were declared the sex they're transitioning into.
My mom was "sure" she was having a boy.
She nicknamed me "Tarzan" cause apparently I moved a lot.
That's all I know.
I was identified as a boy, to the best of my knowledge. However, after coming out to my mum, she told me a little story that had always stuck with her, and that she felt might be sort of relevant. There was a nurse at the hospital where she had me who played a little game with the newborns. She'd look at them and try to guess whether they were boys or girls. She had worked there for a good twenty-five years and was apparently really, really good at it, so she couldn't believe it when she told my mum that I had to be a girl, only to be met with a shake of the head. It was probably just a coincidence, but it was a cute story, and it's nice to think that one of the first people who ever saw me looked at me and saw a baby girl. ^^
Quote from: Nathan. on March 18, 2011, 08:20:42 PM
My mum wanted to be surprised but loads of people told her she was having a boy from the way she was carrying me.
My mom was sure I'd be a girl for the same reasons. In her words, she said she knew I was in a different position after nine months then my older brother was so I had to be a girl. It was only when I was a breech birth that she understood why it felt different that whole time.
my mom was DEAD SET on having a girl, almost to the point of obsession. :icon_shrug_no: she often says the only thing she ever wanted to do is have a little girl and take care of her family. before she even knew whether i was going to be a boy or a girl, she decorated my room in girls colors and bought girls clothes, to my dad's dismay since he really did not want to redecorate the room if i was a boy. when she did the home gender test thing, it said i was a girl, and then the ultrasounds confirmed that i have a girl's body at least. :-\ sometimes i wonder if i was going to be a boy, but somehow my mom just forced it. i know that's not possible, lol, i just like to think about it. ::) i'm more than a bit worried about coming out to her.
i wish i had a story more like most of the people here, and my mom had thought i was going to be a boy. but i guess with my mom i didn't have a chance.
My story is a little bit backwards from the majority... My mom KNEW I was going to be a boy; never a question about it. However, my dad wanted a girl, and was convinced that I would be one. He had even picked out the name Suzanne for me. I have never heard any of the stories about when I was actually born... Which makes me wonder what no one is talking about; come to think about it, no one in my family has ever talked about when I was born... I must investigate this...
They told my mom I was to be a boy, both my parents wanted a boy.. and just to be sure they gave me one of the most overtly masculine impossible to turn female first and middle name. It like many stories here is ironic because I never looked, sounded or had any of the instincts of a boy or a man.
As I got older the more overtly female my body and voice developed even though I was happy wearing boys clothes, doing boys things and for the most part hate girly female activities. The only female friends I had had the same disinterest in girly stuff. When I cut my hair I and spoke masculinely I was mistaken as a lesbian, but it suited my mannerisms so I lived like that most of my late teens/early 20s.
However since my earliest memories at age 2 I knew my assigned gender was a big f**king mistake and that it was severely destroying my ability to enjoy life. Strangers only treated me like garbage when they saw and ID with my old fallacious name and gender ID.
At the age of 23 with the face, body shape and voice of a women... and still being pegged as such with certainty by strangers, combined with being completely asexual with severe intimacy issues; I knew it was time to drop the act.
Took my parents a lot longer, they had been going 'la la la la la' with their ears plugged for a long time, but they understand and know I had no choice and the act was spent.