I am not expecting an answer to my question...just venting.
It seems like multiple bad news started hitting my family last year. In March of 2010 my mom lost two of her best friends and the guy she had been dating for 6 months. The in April she fell and broke a bone in her foot. It got infected and was turning all kind of shades of green yellow and red. It took several weeks of antibiotics to get it healed up. During the 8 to 10 weeks that it it took I had two cousins not much older than me have heart attacks, an 80 year old aunt was in bad shape, and a 70 year old uncle was having chest pains. Then just as mom was finally getting well my wife started having chest pains and was having an angiogram to see if there was a blockage. Before she could get that test done she fell sick and had to be hospitalized because of pneumonia. To be honest she was so sick I didn't know if she was going to make it, but she did and finally had the test run which came back ok. Just as we found out the results from her test my brother in law had a blood vessel blow in his abdomen and nearly lost his life. They still don't know what caused it but he is much better now and is back to full strength. Things seemed to settle down a little for a while. But now we are being hit again. Another one of my aunt's is dying from colon cancer and we just found out yesterday that one of her son's also has cancer. We won't know just how bad it is until Thursday. I also talked to another aunt yesterday whose husband had a stroke March 8th. She had had a stroke herself about 5 years ago. And one of her son's just found our he has Hodgkin's disease. We also just found out that my wife's liver enzymes are unusually high so they are running test to find out why. And I just found out I am diabetic (Type 2).
I am a strong person and very resilient and I know there is no rhyme or reason to these things happening all at once. I just wish God would take me out of the oven, cause I am done, my goose is cooked, and I need a break from the stress..grrrrrrr
Thanks for listening...Katrina
Katrina,
I don't have any words of wisdom for times when someone is going through the things you are going through. It doesn't make sense and it just seems like it takes every bit of energy out of us and it feels like it's almost impossible to take one more step, the best thing we can do is to hold on to Him with everything we've got. I don't how and i don't know when but He will get you through this.
And please don't bottle it up as that doesn't help it just seems to make things worse.
I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers
Hugs
Sarah
Thanks Sarah...By going through all this I have realized I am much stronger than I ever thought I was. And for someone who went through the biggest part of her life undiagnosed and untreated with Bipolar Disorder, that is a big accomplishment. I have always had a problem with dealing with stress until about 5 years ago. And although I can and deal deal with stress much better I still have my bad days where it is not so easy. I try to deal with one thing at a time because it easier to deal with stress that way. I also try to take one day at a time. But a lot has hit in the last few days so I am having to deal with it all at once. So I guess I am feeling a little overwhelmed and frustrated today. But I will get through it and you are right it does help to talk about it.
Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day. Maybe we win the Mega Million tonight and be on our way to Vegas tomorrow...lol....Huggies...Katrina
Katrina,
First off all a big hug to you
I hope you are doing okay, I wish the best for you and your family and wife, unfortunately I wish I could do more but I can only hope that things will get better for you.
Luke
It does seem that the come in three. But then they go away for a while.
Hopefully it will leave you be for a while.
Thanks Luke and Janet.
I am dealing pretty good with thing. It was just a bad day the other day and I was feeling the weight of everything. I am just glad I have a place to vent and get it out of my system :)....Huggsss...Katrina
Just heard from cousin, his cancer has been moved up to stage 4. It is lymphoma and they have found signs of it in his stomach, liver, and intestines. He is only 46 and has three kids. :icon_cry2: :icon_cry2: :icon_cry2: :icon_cry2:
Hi Katrina,
Depending on the lymphoma they are very treatable now a days, so don't panic too much. It is still the C & the L word but we have gone in leaps and bounds in the last few years.
Hopefully it is a responsive type.
Cindy
Thanks Cindy...I know the lymphoma is very treatable these days. What scares me is the signs that has showed up in his stomach, intestines, and liver. My cousin isn't letting anyone know what those signs are or just how bad it is. That is not like him to hold back so it has made us all very nervous. We are keeping our fingers crossed, and just hoping and praying for the best. Thanks again for the support...Huggsss
I don't know why everything happens at once. Last month there were 3 deaths in the scene I'm in ..and 4 family deaths among my personal friends (including my grandfather).
I'm strong too, but there is only so much one can handle.
Best way I deal with it is to keep looking forward.. and as hard as it seems.. to look on the bright side. Good friends are fantastic for mental support. <3
Sending hugs and good thoughts your way!
Quote from: Katrina_Reann on April 02, 2011, 11:58:00 AM
Thanks Cindy...I know the lymphoma is very treatable these days. What scares me is the signs that has showed up in his stomach, intestines, and liver. My cousin isn't letting anyone know what those signs are or just how bad it is. That is not like him to hold back so it has made us all very nervous. We are keeping our fingers crossed, and just hoping and praying for the best. Thanks again for the support...Huggsss
One of the quirks of lymphoma is that the aggressive lymphomas respond better to chemo etc than the indolent.
Hope he is OK.
Cindy
And sometimes it just comes out of the blue.
At the weekend one of my brother's step-son-in-laws was killed when his car rolled back onto him after he parked it to close the front gate. I had only met him once a few years ago but still a shock.
Karen.