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Is it?

That depends 100% on how your sister feels about it.

Quote from: tekla on March 29, 2011, 10:19:53 PM
That depends 100% on how your sister feels about it.

Agreed.
And if she doesn't know about it, then it's wrong.

No, it is not.  And I highly doubt you will ever tell her you do it, just make sure you wash/clean them before you put them back and keep her drawer neat.

And I highly doubt you will ever tell her you do it,

Unless she's five shades of 'out of it' she's going to know, sooner or later.

Girls tend to keep pretty good track of their panties... She probably already suspects and will probably catch you sooner rather than later

Your best off to get your own

Probably, but I think alot of us started there or with something similar.

Your best get off to get on your own

FIFY

Quote from: meatgrinder on March 29, 2011, 10:54:34 PM
Probably, but I think alot of us started there or with something similar.

I did.  In fact, I did mess up her drawer once.  While I was in the same room as my mom, she barged in and had a hissy fit cause she thought my mom went through it looking for stuff.  lol...oops.

Doesn't matter if others have done this before. It is wrong. You are using her property without her permission. How would you feel if she took your property whenever she liked? Girls are concerned about 'feminine hygiene'  in more ways than just menstruation, but also in catching or developing  fungal infections etc, your use of her clothes for your gratification may expose her to those risks. In this day and age just go to the shop and buy some panties. No one will give a damn.

Cindy

Yes. You are a big girl, buy your own. They'll probably fit better too! >:-)

I use women's underwear. They keep me snug and since I've gotten older, I need a pad, just to catch a few drips, so they hold it better.

My wife buys me my own. We would never, willingly share underwear.

Just something to think about as i did have 3 sisters. One thing they would do was when coming home from a date if they were doing something they did not want mom to find out they would often take their undies after a date and put them in the dresser before having them washed (They wanted to rinse them first before putting them in the wash) (And no i did NOT go through their drawers as that is their private space it's really very hard to keep secrets in a large family)
Do you really know for sure that they are clean? Do you really want to know what kind of adventure they have been on? Just the thought of that is just EWWWWWWWWWWW.
You are better off getting your own as then you know where they have been.

Jade is still young, which of us didn't think about wearing our sisters or mothers panties and/or bra when we first started out crossdressing?

Of course we realize its wrong now that we are adults, but I know I didn't have any other options (or even thoughts of buying my own) in my youth.

Sarah L.

I can imagine it's tricky - if you buy your own (which is scary enough, until you get used to it) then you've got to find somewhere to stash them too. Still, it sounds like it's worth the risk to get something you really like.

if you want to wear panties, just buy your own.  I doubt she would be happy if she knew you were wearing her underwear.  I wouldnt want anyone except for my boyfriend sharing underwear with me, its just gross.

Buy your own.

If you're wearing hers, I'm guessing you've determined her size (and probably yours, too). Write a shopping list with the size you want and go buy some of your own. Using the shopping list can make it seem you're buying them for someone else, if you're a littler nervous about buying panties.

But, stop wearing your sister's stuff unless you have her express permission.

Quote from: Sarah Louise on March 30, 2011, 09:35:47 AM
Jade is still young, which of us didn't think about wearing our sisters or mothers panties and/or bra when we first started out crossdressing?

Of course we realize its wrong now that we are adults, but I know I didn't have any other options (or even thoughts of buying my own) in my youth.

Sarah L.

I didn't consider this at all.

Jade, I'm sorry if I was a bit blunt. I'm sure other will feel the same. Yes, I often looked at other's clothes with some envy.

My main concern is how your sisters will feel when they find out.

Take care little love  :)

Here's another option for you jade: if you have no way to buy your own, I'll mail you mine which I never wear anymore. I'm a size 6. If they'll fit just let me know. This past week I've been cleaning out all the clothes which I don't wear anymore, need more space for my good stuff!!

I don't think buying his own is an option if I had to guess.

I used to wear my wife's so wearing your sisters, No.  But if you get caught, it is a whole different game.

I would recommend asking your sister to borrow her panties and explain to her that you desire to express your inner woman. Most likely she would be willing to lend some if you asked her. She may even be willing to take you out to buy your own or she may also lend you some pairs that she doesn't want anymore. There should be no shame in being who you are.

Quote from: Virginia Marie on March 29, 2011, 10:50:09 PM
Girls tend to keep pretty good track of their panties... She probably already suspects and will probably catch you sooner rather than later

Your best off to get your own

Exactly what I was going to say

In my opinion if you're borrowing your sister's panties for experimentation (figuring out the correct size/style for you), then laundering, folding and replacing them exactly as you found them, I don't see anything wrong. However if you are taking the panties and wearing them as your own (especially without her knowing), then it's wrong. Perhaps if you ask her nicely she would be willing to share. ;)PUAWWM

Personally I would flip if I found out someone else had been wearing my undies. Even if they washed them and put them back it's just the knowledge that it was on someone other than me kind of freaks me out. I don't even share underwear with my partner. I don't know how different it is for you but even when I was living at home I did my own laundry and my parents were snoopy but surprisingly never went through my dresser. So I never had a problem with having my own underwear. The thought never even occurred to me to try my brother's either. I would say stop and talk to your sister about it at the very least. 

Jade,

My sister's panties introduced me to my femme side but she never knew that I know of. I really suggest you buy your own as other have mentioned she will discover it some day. Good luck,,,,,,

Hugs,

Jean

Jade, it's understandable but not advisable.

Is she still wearing them at the time?

^^ that makes for an interesting visual.

It makes an even more interesting night.

This is an odd grey area, I'm not sure its right to judge right or wrong.  But I think you think its wrong, and thats what really matters.  All I can do is share my reflections from borrowing my Moms things.  My only regret about my crossdressing is the sneaking around I did.  I snuck because that was my survival instinct.  With what I knew and felt at the time, that was the best decision I could make.  I feel bad today because I was a little theif and sneak.  Mom knew or suspected. (She knows now) and she knew that was my only outlet.  I don't beat myself up over it anymore, but there are some choices I wish I had made differently.

Look at your relationship with your sister, do you think she could cope with her little brother wanting to dress like her sister?  If yes, then cultivate that relationship and tell her.  Having an ally and someone to talk to and maybe shop with will be a lot easier and way more fun.  My wife is that partner for me, and its way more fun this way.  No secrets, no hiding :-)

I agree it is wrong, especially when she doesn't know / approve. Best to find a way to get your own.  Try mail order catalogues or internet.

Yes I agree that he should buy his own panties. I used to wear my mother's panties for awhile. But I got tired  of wearing the same panties. So I bought my own and put them in my bottom drawer and my mom did not say a word. I am sure she new all along. If you are to shy or young to buy your own panties. I would tell your sister that you have been in her panty drawer and that you like to wear them because they make you feel good. I bet she knows already so just come clean and see what happens. Something good may or may not by telling. I think it may be a good thing to do. When I told my mother some years later she said she knew already but did not want to talk about it but she also did not mind. Good Luck

I personally have 2 brothers and a sister and would be furious if they were using my stuff without asking - regardless of the reason.

So yea, it isn't fair on your sister. Do you have a trusted friend or family member that can buy you some?

My younger brother understands me and has been giving me his old pants for years when he didn't want them anymore. Maybe you can make a deal with your sister about her other clothing? Panties, you should definitely buy your own though - if for hygiene and personal space more then anything

Yes it is wrong.  It is a strong possibility to come in contact with bodily fluids which could make wearing them hazardous.

Hi people,

This is a very old thread. I'd ignore it and move on

Cindy

What I'm worried about is if it's wrong to use a bra for a double barrel sling shot  >:-)

Sorry... Bad humor

I did it and got found out it is best to buy your own stuff
Allso for hygiene reasons

Better new then used

Firstly,  your sister is well aware you or someone is using her panties.  If there are only the two  of you shes just not saying anything because she appreciates and understands you.  If you dont have another avenue you can use then I dont think you should be apprehensive about broaching the topic in a subtle or off handed way and see where the conversation goes.  She may be open minded and supportive if you show you trust her.  I guarantee though shes aware of and does not appreciate sneakiness

yes in an way it is wrong because they belong to her,the best thing is for you go buy your own panties unless of course you ask her permission to wear them  and who knows she might love helping  you to dress out completely

I rather buy my own panties,i don't want others wearing them

I'd rather buy my own as well, used panties are like used chewing gum  :P  Not too appealing to me

No, I wore a lot of my sisters stuff in high school, Bras, panties, leotards, and even skirts, she never found out but the panties and leotard I did steal....That was before I got the courage to buy my own cloths.

Short answer: Yes!

Are you ever going to tell her?

As a boy I started wearing kilts here as it was the done thing. That was in the 50's and 60's and boys underwear was always white then so not really handy for under a kilt(I did a bit of highland dancing too but thats another story lol). The simple answer was to wear girls navy blue or bottle green knickers which usually blended nicely with the kilt colours and was therefore discreet. I loved them with my kilts as I had always envied girls being able to wear them.
I still wear them under my kilts and order them online as you cant buy them in the shops anymore. A suggestion could be for you to order online and have the panties you like delivered to maybe a friends address. Just a thought but its really wrong in my opinion to be wearing your sisters clothes as they are her own personal things.

Sorry for just jumping in now, but I just saw the title of this post in my "unread posts" page.

I have a brother who used to steal my panties, along with my mom's and older sisters. I hated it, it was gross, embarassing, humiliating, and made me very very uncomfortable to be near him. He'd come in, sneak into our drawers, and steal our stuff. I thought I was going crazy thinking I was somehow misplacing my underwear until one day I no longer had any panties or bras left, so I told my sisters and she said all of hers was gone too. The same with mom. Turns out, brother was stealing them, and sticking them in his boxers and masturbating with them.

Sorry, I think it's completely wrong to go and steal someone intimates, whether or not you're using them to get off with. Panties are cheap if you get them in packs at Wal-mart. I don't know how old you are, but save up some money and buy your own. if you keep stealing your sisters clothes, you could potentially be hurting any future relationship of trust and friendship with her.

Edit: I also just can't understand the commenters who say "it's not wrong, just don't get caught". Do we say it's okay to rob a bank, or kill someone, just don't get caught? I thought family relationships were about love and trust and you can't get that by going behind someone's back and stealing or "borrowing" their intimate apparrell.

buying your own is always an option. if anyone asks and you don't want to say why just say you're buying them for your girlfriend. easy peasy.

Of course it's wrong, but that aint going to stop you! I used to wear my sisters clothes all the time when i lived at my mum and dads, hell it was exciting!  ;)

also, to add to my post. yes. it's wrong. don't steal things. don't share undergarments. be sanitary. ugh.

It's deceitful, it's invasive, and it's just plain wrong if it is not done with her knowledge and consent.

Read what Learnedhand has said above, and take it on board.

I do admire you, however, for raiding your concerns on this forum.  Well done!

its not fair at all.... go out for shopping and buy yourself a pair of nice undies...

Quote from: girl you look fierce on March 10, 2013, 03:38:04 AM
Eww, this is so gross, and also terrible... get your own.

Ugh.  Seriously?  What is wrong with people?  Why would anyone do this ???

If anyone did that to me I'd never trust them again. Yuck.

I pay up to 40 Canadian for a really nice well fitting pair..
If I had found out my brother was using them...
I would freak....I would be a super b.....I would ask
during dinner How exactly his Nut sack stretched my
Panties out...they don't fit....and preceed to tell hom how to
Tuck properly...

It's wrong...be a big girl and get your own big girl panties...
Girls are awesome at humiliating boys.. you will get some
Guaranteed and if I hear about...I'll just laugh and rub it in

no it's ok as long she knows it ;D

If buying your own isn't an option asking your sister if you can have a clean pair of hers might be a scary thing to do but it is the more honest thing to do

I can see where u are coming from i did it with my sister. I took her clothes without permission when I was real young buying them wasnt an option because of my age. I took her things from panties bras dresses panty hose  u name it. I got caught a few times by my father with herclothes stashed in my room one time he threw me on the ground and choked me . I think I was 11at that articular time. He didnt understand what I was going through. My sister never said anything . I think they thought I would grow out of it or something but I didnt. I recently apologized to her for that and she forgave me
                                                 Christen

It's not something I'd do (if you met my sister, you'd understand).

Something to consider: Do you get aroused when you wear them? If yes, there's something you might not have considered; your penis and testicles - they stretch out the front. Also with arousal, men tend to leak what's colloquially called precum - prostate fluid. Precum can have some sperm cells in it and if your sister wears the panties shortly after you do, you might have a very, VERY unwanted consequence. Know what I'm sayin'?

I'm sorry, but it's never okay to wear someone else's panties without their consent.   

Methinks the O.P., a passing guest apparently, is long gone. Maybe after almost three years of reactions to her original question "Is it?", she got the message... :)

If you are just starting out to dress in your sister's/mom's clothes it is OK.  However, after you dress for awhile(3 or more times), PLEASE get your own clothes,  Because if you continue to wear theirs , they may get extremely MAD at you. It will only be OK if she gives them to you, in which case they are now yours.

Short answer is yes and for all of the reasons/consequences everyone has mentioned: hygiene, the moral aspect, and your current and future relationship with your family.

I can understand where you're coming from as I used to where my mother's things when I started experimenting in grade school.  I was caught a few times with panties in my room and at that age it was taken as curiosity about the female body.  Had I been older, there would have been a very serious and uncomfortable conversation about what I was doing with them that would have forced me to be exposed at a time that I had a lot of guilt with what I was doing.

I started building my own wardrobe in high school and continued in college, and I can tell you that nobody bats an eye when there is a male in the lingerie or dress department.  If you can, I strongly suggest going a town or two over where you're less likely to run into anyone you know, or else buy online from Amazon/eBay/Target or some other store that won't be sending you a catalog in the mail afterwards.

The online marketplace is a crossdresser's dream come true for those of us not out of the closet.  I sure wish I had had access to such technology when I was younger.  And the bargains!  Just yesterday I received a 6pc lot of very nice, colorful bras that fit almost perfectly.  The lot was only $25 delivered and I got them within a few days of ordering on eBay.

That's funny, what next her lipstick, mascara?.......Go buy your own.

Quote from: AmberM on April 06, 2011, 04:35:59 PM
I would recommend asking your sister to borrow her panties and explain to her that you desire to express your inner woman. Most likely she would be willing to lend some if you asked her. She may even be willing to take you out to buy your own or she may also lend you some pairs that she doesn't want anymore. There should be no shame in being who you are.

I know I'm late but I just feel the need to say that there is chance your sister maybe extremely disgusted. I personally know women who find crossdress as something vile. I've been laughed at,  mocked and called all types of names. We can't pretend this don't exist. I'm not saying that he should steal them or so. But let's not pretend that there isn't a chance he'll get a negative reaction

It is wrong to wear other people's clothes without their permission, but young trans girls will find it hard to resist if they live at home and can't get their own girls' clothes.  I don't have a sister but I did put on my mother's dresses, gloves and headscarves.  I didn't try on her underwear for some reason, perhaps because I was concentrating on my outward appearance.  Others have also pointed out that wearing someone else's underwear, in particular, is wrong for hygiene reasons.

The OP is several years old, so I presume that the topic is no longer relevant to the original poster.  It may still be helpful to other young trans people, though.

It is wrong if you are doing so without either her knowledge or consent. I dont hold it against you as many pre-transition transgirls need a way to escape from their dysphoira but you must realize that your sisters stuff belongs to no-one else but her. I used to wear some of my moms non intimate clothing likes shirts, skirts and pants (never undies, bras or even socks I think even) but those were ones she was going to throw away anyways as they were bagged up and sitting in a room for take out.

Still, you are best off to purchase your own female attire. It felt way nice to buy my own girl clothes then it did to scavage imo :)

It is wrong in a few ways to me at least.

Yuck. Why wear someone else's panties when it is so easy to go get your own?

You do know that they make men's bikini underwear, right? To be completely honest these are the best even though most guys wear boxers. UGHHH. Boxers are the worst. Nothing stays put. Then you have briefs. That sux too because way too much movement for chaffing. Look, everyone needs to wear panties in my opinion. I have all my junk and the tighter and the less movement there is, the better.

But let your sister know at least. I doubt she wants to wear her panties after you wear them. That is just nasty. I would say get your own. Its really not that hard to do.

But yeah it is wrong to wear your sister's panties though. Would you want to wear undies that someone else has worn?

I think there is nothing wrong at all in all honesty. I wear my mum's because I don't have any sisters and she has no idea I am even that way minded. At the end of the day, what they dont know can't hurt them so i think your fine. Obviously it is best to get your own and I cant say I have done that myself because I don't know how to keep the clean and dry with my family seeing them around but I'm working on it and will definitely have my own soon!

Love you...

Alexis
Xxx

I would add something to this thread that may be easily neglected, though I believe it is important to mention... For me at least, a large part of the shame I felt early in my life was based around not just crossdressing, but the fact that by doing so I was violating someone else's privacy. This created a negative association with my feelings that went well beyond cultural views of crossdressing or being transgender, which I really had no inkling of at the time. I felt what I was doing was wrong, and didn't understand my compulsion to do it regardless. Desperate times call for desperate measures and all that.

It wasn't until recently that I bought my own clothes I was able to really put things in perspective and realize it was never the act of crossdressing that bothered me, it was how I was going about it. Without the moral guilt I felt at play, it was a vastly different, and entirely positive, experience.

In short: I won't make judgments on those who are driven by compulsion on this issue, I would be a hypocrite to do so. But, I still highly recommend getting your own clothes for the simple reason that it will be better for you.

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