I'm not on hormones yet but have had my prostate removed. I guess my T is low. I'm not complaining. It can go away. I was out to lunch with a guy I work with and he was learing at the girl behind the bar. All of a sudden this guy came out from the back room and went behind the bar. He was gorgeous. I had thoughts of him and me....... I have never had these thoughts before, what is going on? Could my head be getting ahead of my body? I'm so confused, I know I have to do something really soon. My GP knows and I'm seeing her in a couple of months again. If i can wait that long. I may have to go the self med route in the meantime.
Thanks for any help.
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Beth
Sometimes self-acceptance can bring forth feelings that were suppressed. I always wondered if that might happen to me and decided early on that if it happens, it happens. No use worrying about it.
Thanks Melody. That helps a lot. These are things I never imagined feeling before.
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Beth
I'm not really worried about it Melody. After some more thought I realized that it was probably a normal reaction. He was cute and built. i was feeling more the real me so why not these thoughts right?
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Beth
Sounds fairly normal to me! Personally, after flip-flopping like a landed fish for the last couple of years my orientation has settled too. However I would have been checking out the barmaid . ;)
Karen.
I still enjoy doing that too karen. Thanks
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beth
Before I came to terms with things, I would have considered myself a bit homophobic (in the context of a man getting close to me). I felt it wasn't masculine. I was pretty much in denial. As I started my transition I broke down all sexual barriers and let them be reborn. I have absolutely no problem being close to guys now. Well, accept for the creep dirtbags.
Creeps? Eweee
I've been experiencing the same thing in a slightly different way haha. So before transition I was gay gay gay and I'd NEVER do anything with a girl, ewww. And I started identifying as a straight woman, who still wanted nothing but men. The past month I've have some confusing feelings about my best friend and females in general and what I've settled on is, I've always been bi. I've always loved women and I've always been attracted to them. I think I never let myself be sexually attracted to them because I was stuck on being jealous of them. But everyday I wake up I feel more like a girl and less jealous of other girls. Then I'll walk past an extremely beautiful girl and feel like crawling in a hole but I've heard that's normal for cis girls too.
Sounds very familiar Britney. I've always been attracted to women and then this. Yikes!! Very strange feeling. Nice. But strange.
Thank you all for your input.
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beth
There is a term for those who are attracted to both Men and Women. It is call Bi. Which I am. ;D
BTW, wait until you start hormones and your pheromones change. :-)
Oh boy Dana. something to look forward to. i never thought of that one.
Maybe he was just THAT good looking. LOL
I love checking out cute guys as well but, for them, I'm just a tease. I 've always fallen for older guys instead and though the youngest guy I've ever been with was 14 at the time, I've NEVER been with anyone who was younger than me!
I'm telling you ladies he was q hunk. Tall, good looking and broad at the shoulders. You could tell he worked out but he wasn't all muscle. Thank you again for all of your comments. Thanks Valerie, I hope I made your day with the title.
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Beth
I must admit something similar is happening to me. Ive always liked men and i've never had any desire to be with a woman (except for my brief crush on Lara Croft when I was 6) but recently I have looked at women in a different way. I still like men and would prefer to have a male partner but I am starting to have some attraction to women. At first I thought it was because as a man I would want to be accepted and I felt uncomfortable being labelled "gay" so perhaps I was making myself like women but maybe its because, as I'm accepting myself loads of other things are coming forward too. I see myself as a gay man still but if the opportunity came to be with a woman maybe i'd take it.
You see MRH. It can happen on either side of the fence. Just enjoy.
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Beth
You can qoute me all you want Valerie but remember when your book is published i want a % of the royalties. Lol
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Beth
I've often seen men that I think are attractive but it's never been a problem to ignore, until now.
Since coming out & telling people that I wish to be a woman i've had some suprising reactions, it's as if the tough male emotions i'd been trying to emulate had disolved overnight, I then found over the next few weeks that I wasn't just seeing men that were attractive but men that I was attracted to.
This really hit home last week when a man at work told me that he wanted to find a new job because one of the other men at work has been bullying him for the last 10 years, I had to fight the urge to give this man a big hug & tell him that everything would be fine, I then realised that i've got a crush on this bloke.
There's also another man at work that i'm attracted to, one of the women joked that he could be the man to 'pop my cherry' once the transition is complete & I couldn't control my blushing, fortunately this man was really good natured about this reaction & still doesn't treat me any differently since this incident, i'm going to have to learn to control my reactions better in future as this could have turned out very badly had he not been secure about his (& my) sexuality
Jane it sounds like you both handled the siyuation quite well. It is hard though isn't it?
I met a guy the other night who could be Johnny Depp's double. Needless to say, since I adore Depp, actually every bit of his existence, my knees were weak the whole night! Found out he had a girlfriend but he is such an intelligent, sweet guy who likes art and forensics. heehee...weird, but that is an awesome combination for me.
Quote from: bethw on April 15, 2011, 06:18:09 PM
Jane it sounds like you both handled the siyuation quite well. It is hard though isn't it?
As I said to a friend last night it's horrible to be in this limbo state, even if a man I was attracted to was attracted to me I wouldn't be able to do anything about it as gay sex leaves me stone cold, i've no problem with gay people but it's definately not for me.
Since coming out & telling people i've found i'm much more emotional than before, it's as if i've dropped the macho act & allowed my feminine side free reign, I cry when i'm happy now not just when i'm miserable, I'm able to admit to myself that i'm attracted to men & I go all girly over a pretty dress or shoes.
I love this new me as it feels so natural & can't wait till my body catches up with my brain
It sounds like we could be sisters Jane,
Hugs your sis
Beth
Oh yeah. I used to be male (or so I thought) interested in females. Now? ???? :-\? I fantasised myself sexually with a man, look at women and think that top/dress/skirt look great on her I want it/wish it'd work on me, and damnit she's hot I wish it was me rather than she's hot I want to sleep with her. Oh, did I mention I have develop this massive crush on my best guy friend. :o
Oh I want him damnit!!! >:( :D
I understand completely Keroppi . It might be a little dangerous with your best guy friend but who knows? Maybe he feels the same way about you.
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Beth
Quote from: Valeriedances on April 14, 2011, 11:14:27 PM
I'm just popping in to say I l o v e the topic title!!!
Uh oh He's cute... heehee. I'm sure I'm going to be using that in my head tomorrow while at work. :P
Uh oh, there goes another one.
Mmm hmm. Becomes pandemic quite quickly, doesn't it? :)
It sure does. Yikes!! maybe too quickly.
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Beth
"Uh oh He's cute... heehee. I'm sure I'm going to be using that in my head tomorrow while at work. "
It will probably be one of these "Don't think about Pink Elephants" situations where you can't stop doing exactly that! :laugh:
I've decided it's not a question of whether you are straight, bi or gay. It's more like are you orientated towards men, women or both, regardless of how you thought you were orientated before sorting out your identity.
The orientation doesn't change, just the label describing it. Damn all labels anyway!!
Labels? we don't need no stinking labels.
Valerie;
Now you know how I felt. It's tough isn't it? The worst part was we went back for lunch today and he wasn't there. I actually missed him. Oh boy. What next?
Quote from: Valeriedances on May 11, 2011, 10:55:23 AM
I just sat in a 2 hour meeting next to one of those cuties. It was tough...
I KNOW the feeling.
I have an hour staff meeting every week with a major hunk in our office.
It would be a lie if I said I didn't look forward to seeing how he looks, what he's wearing, if he got a haircut, if he's got fresh stubble...
Woo Hoo Val;
You go girl!!!!!!!
Beth
I have done that thought what he would be like its just a normal reaction on seeing (in my case ) a younger fit guy you do look a lot more when your a girl just have fun xxxx
That whole switch-up thing is so damn weird, and kind of scary at times. I'm right in the middle of that currently, I thought I was attracted to only girls for a while, admitted to being bi, and recently realized that my interest/attraction to girls has been decreasing and then more or less just poofed entirely. I can still appreciate a girl's attractiveness, but there's zero sex drive there. It's so weird.
And DAMNIT those moments are infuriating, aren't they? I was looking for D&D books with my friend Chase and the clerk was effing adorable. I couldn't figure out what books we needed because the guy was too distractingly cute X_X
I go to pieces sometimes when I see a really fit guy, I think wow I want him yummy scrummy.
Yummy indeed Chloe!!!!
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Beth