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Community Conversation => Transitioning => Coming out of the closet => Topic started by: Constance on April 20, 2011, 03:52:48 PM

Title: Letters have been Posted
Post by: Constance on April 20, 2011, 03:52:48 PM
So today, I posted letters to my parents and brothers.

I'm not too worried about my older brother. My younger one will probably be a bit odd. My mom, not sure. My heterosexist dad is the one I'm worried about.

If he disowns me, big deal. I really couldn't care less. I just don't want any static.

*big BLEEPing sigh*

We'll see what happens...
Title: Re: Letters have been Posted
Post by: Princess Rachel on April 21, 2011, 11:31:52 AM
good luck hun :)
Title: Re: Letters have been Posted
Post by: Constance on April 21, 2011, 11:35:26 AM
Thanks!
Title: Re: Letters have been Posted
Post by: Nero on April 21, 2011, 12:10:46 PM
Congrats Shades! That's a big step! Whatever the outcome, you go girl!
Title: Re: Letters have been Posted
Post by: Constance on April 21, 2011, 01:00:41 PM
Hail Nero!  Thanks, bro!
Title: Re: Letters have been Posted
Post by: Constance on April 22, 2011, 06:03:02 PM
Oh. Em. Gee.

My mom called today, asking me to drive up for a visit so we could talk about the letter. So on Monday 2 May I'll be going up there. Hopefully, it won't be too stressful for all parties concerned.
Title: Re: Letters have been Posted
Post by: Constance on April 22, 2011, 06:29:22 PM
She sounded tired and surprised. No marvel, really.

She did say that she was happy that this is the right thing for me and she said she loved me. In a way, her reaction was not a surprise at all. It's my dad whose reaction I cannot predict at all.

But, I think this could be a hopeful thing. At least, I'm going to hold on to the idea it's a hopeful thing.
Title: Re: Letters have been Posted
Post by: Nero on April 22, 2011, 06:37:45 PM
Sounds like a hopeful thing. Maybe she can work on your dad. Good luck hon!
Title: Re: Letters have been Posted
Post by: Constance on April 22, 2011, 08:58:14 PM
Thanks, Nero.
Title: Re: Letters have been Posted
Post by: lauren3 on April 27, 2011, 05:56:57 AM
Good luck hunny <3

Be sure to fill us in okay?
Title: Re: Letters have been Posted
Post by: Constance on April 27, 2011, 10:21:00 AM
So, my older brother came over for Easter (pizza) dinner while I was en femme. After dinner he had some questions but all went well.

Yesterday, the letter I'd sent to my younger brother was returned as undeliverable. Looks like I had the address wrong. So, I emailed him. He doesn't check email every day, so I might have to re-mail the letter.

I'll post an update after the Monday Meeting.
Title: Re: Letters have been Posted
Post by: RabbitsOfTheWorldUnite on April 27, 2011, 10:40:02 AM
I'm proud of you, it's so much harder to write it out than to just say it in passing. No pun intended ;-)
Title: Re: Letters have been Posted
Post by: Constance on April 27, 2011, 10:49:47 AM
Thanks, Rabbits.
Title: Re: Letters have been Posted
Post by: Laurry on April 27, 2011, 10:54:48 PM
Great for you, Shades.

Hope everything turns out better than expected.

...Laurry