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Janet
Thanks for the welcome, JL.
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I worked some outside today. Cleaning the property. Breezy, beautiful early spring weather. The leaves are just opening up on the oak trees. Flowers. Bushes. Lots of pastel colors. Very pretty.
I watched President Obama in New York while I was eating lunch. I walked at the beach. Did some food shopping. Came home and ate dinner. Watched CBS news and The PBS News Hour.
I feel very contented right now. It's good.
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Another beautiful, sunny spring day. The only problem is itchy eyes from the tree pollen. But it's bearable. My oldest called this morning to say that somebody broke into his car last night. :( My youngest, who is autistic, injured himself while at the doctor's office yesterday, requiring 5 stitches.
Life goes on. The big difference is that both of them are living away now that they are grown up. I'm not in the middle of all the stress and crisis anymore. Of course, I worry and care about them, but it's from a place of calmness.
Yes, I feel very calm. I was reading a little bit about stroke and aneurysm on CNN.com a little earlier over my morning coffee. I didn't know that things like sneezing violently, vomiting, extreme exercise, straining during a bowel movement, sex, even drinking coffee can cause an aneuryms to burst by temporarily spiking blood pressure.
Gosh, I read last night about people having scabs after surgery. Yikers. I was so lucky not to have scabs at all. I can't imagine what scabs would do to my emotional state. That must be very, very upsetting.
Good luck to everyone who has to go through such things. Wowzers.
Jammin', we're jammin' in the name of the lord...
Listening to some reggae on Pandora...
Jammin'...
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Scabbing is actually really common after the surgery and only lasts for a short time. Just part of the healing process
Ah, I see, K.
My surgical sisters in Montreal also seemed to have a lot of pain the whole time they were at the Residence, too. I was very lucky that way. I was weak and tired and achy, but not the killer pain. Thank goodness.
You have a nice smile in your avatar, btw.
Have a good day.
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Quote from: danimunj on May 06, 2011, 10:36:16 AM
Ah, I see, K.
My surgical sisters in Montreal also seemed to have a lot of pain the whole time they were at the Residence, too. I was very lucky that way. I was weak and tired and achy, but not the killer pain. Thank goodness.
You have a nice smile in your avatar, btw.
Have a good day.
:)
Thanks D
I can honestly say my pain wasn't bad. The worst I ever hit was maybe a 5ish shortly after surgery. The stent was worst than the surgery lol
Hope you have a great day as well
Quote from: danimunj on May 06, 2011, 10:36:16 AM
My surgical sisters in Montreal also seemed to have a lot of pain the whole time they were at the Residence, too. I was very lucky that way. I was weak and tired and achy, but not the killer pain. Thank goodness.
do they still have two surgeons working up there? When I was up there, Brassard was the new kid on the block and it seemed as though his patients (of which I was) had far less in the way of pain at the residence. But, that was a LOOOOONG time ago, so I realize the staffing and organization may have changed...
One other issue can be physical fitness...those that had the most problems were not what I would consider the fittest specimens in the room if you catch my drift...
Hi, AO.
Yes, I was offered my choice of either Dr. Brassard or Dr. Menard two years ago. I don't know what the situation is today, though. Wow! Everyone seems to have gone to Montreal here!
Were they still on the island when you were there?
Dr Menard is retired now. Dr Brassard is the main Dr and now had a new surgeon DR Maud Belànger working with him. Right now she is doing the suturing. She studied in Holland, Begium and with DR Brassard and she brings a new way of suturing. They have also changed the anesthesia now to a spinal and a sedative as opposed to general and it made a huge difference in recovery
That's good to hear, K.
And how are Carol, JoAnn, Alain, Anne, Maurizio and everybody else at the Residence?
I had such a wonderful experience while I was there. I didn't want to leave.
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Quote from: danimunj on May 06, 2011, 11:19:04 AM
That's good to hear, K.
And how are Carol, JoAnn, Alain, Anne, Maurizio and everybody else at the Residence?
I had such a wonderful experience while I was there. I didn't want to leave.
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The only one left that I'm aware of is JoAnn. Alain was on leave, the rest I believe arel now gone. I actually went up with a friend who had her surgery in Jan of 08 and she was disappointed they were all gone now.
Quote from: danimunj on May 06, 2011, 11:07:37 AM
Were they still on the island when you were there?
do not recall anything being referred to as an island but that was, like I said, a LOOOOONG time ago (mid 90's). I vaguely recall it being very near the P4W (the reference for the women's prison there in Montreal). I don't even know if I still even have anything that has the address...
Quote from: danimunj on May 06, 2011, 11:07:37 AM
Wow! Everyone seems to have gone to Montreal here!
Only those who are responding to this thread cause you gals seem to be having a Montreal reunion here. There are plenty of others here, myself included, who have had their surgeries elsewhere.
OK, GA.
Did you have a good experience with your doctor?
I might have gone to Dr. Suporn if circumstances had been different. Or Dr. McGinn. Or Dr. Bowers. Or Dr. Leis. Or Dr. Melzer. Why does that sound weird. I just want to call him Toby Melzer. Nice doctor.
I am always in awe of all that we go through. I love to hear peoples' stories.
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Woot! I just got promoted to NEWBIE!!!!!!!
Woohoo!
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Yes, I was amazed at how well they treated me and how close I became to them. It was a family experience. I suppose they all have their own lives, of course. But they will always be frozen in my memories of that time. Perhaps the one time in my life that I was really accepted for who I am and cared for with love. I'll never forget it.
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Quote from: Valeriedances on May 06, 2011, 01:06:08 PM
Oh no, not Anne!!! <cry> I love her.
Gosh, I think shes been there 10 years. She must still be there. Its not possible...
Anne moved to Alberta. My friend Cyn keeps in contact with her
This afternoon my oldest son came home with the car and the smashed out back window. Gee, it is good to see him. Smiles all around.
We talked and talked and went for a ride down by the ocean. Marriage is agreeing with him. He looks handsome and healthy. Maybe he'll stay overnight tonight.
The pollen was killing me while I was outside working for a bit. I feel much better now, though.
You know, I was looking over an old WWII book of famous personages from that time. British statesmen and military brass. Darned if I don't find that I like that British moustache thing. Never did before. That I'm aware of, anyway.
Stiff upper lip and all that...
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My oldest just left to go back home. It was very nice to see him again. I am already missing him. I think he wanted to stay with us a bit longer. I wish both of them could be little again sometimes. It's easy to forget how hard things were for us back then.
Gosh, I'm so old. And feeling it more and more. Just in the sense that the rest of the world seems to have gotten a lot younger looking all of a sudden. I notice that so much has changed. When did that happen?
It feels like being older and realizing it places limitations on you somehow or other. You're out-of-date. You don't know what everybody else is talking about sometimes. They speak in a different generational dialect.
And yet, when communication happens it is very good. Seeing the younger generation facing for the first time challenges and struggles which we faced so long ago. We can't fight their fights for them, but we can be there to offer our support and understanding.
And, once in a while, they see or hear something in our past experience which catches their attention. How did you do it when you faced this kind of situation? Didn't you do this? Didn't you do that?
It's like I've become an archive or something. lol
Beautiful morning here.
Found an article in the Boston Globe confirming what I have been seeing on my own. Over 50 is difficult to find employment. It's a generational thing. You're just out of touch with the younger generations. And you're not especially wanted. Ouch.
Not reassuring if you need to work in order to survive. This is not going to be easy.
One day at a time.
How old is your son?
My daughter turns 26 on May 21st and it doesn't make me feel old at all.
Quote from: danimunj on May 07, 2011, 08:29:01 AM
Beautiful morning here.
Found an article in the Boston Globe confirming what I have been seeing on my own. Over 50 is difficult to find employment. It's a generational thing. You're just out of touch with the younger generations. And you're not especially wanted. Ouch.
Not reassuring if you need to work in order to survive. This is not going to be easy.
One day at a time.
Yep, one day at a time is the only way. Better still, living in the moment. It's hard, but doable--it takes work to override those negative emotions that are so deeply ingrained into us. Bad times/situations mean we have to express those feelings that are associated with these events--sorrow, anger, worry, etc. When you alter your way of thinking towards a more positive, devil-may-care attitude, it makes one wonder whether they are slowly losing their sanity because, after all, aren't we supposed to feel those negative feelings?. Staying positive and happy is what I've been working at for the last month or so--I couple it with meditation which I include with my workouts. Makes for a long day. I find meditation to be helpful in maintaining a happy, positive outlook on life. So far it seems to be working--I feel I am at peace, no stress whatsoever.
Yesterday confirmed the end of my unemployment insurance and I am now living off my savings--$25,000--not much at 45 years of age. For the most part, I feel pretty calm. I look at this as a new chapter and feel prepared for whatever life has in store for me. I guess I'm slowly become detached from my materialistic self--this, according to Buddhist teachings is a step toward enlightenment. Hmmmm.
Either way, life has definitely taken an interesting turn for me in the last year and in the last 24hrs. I'll stay calm, peaceful, positive and focused and see where it leads me. I'll let the Universe drive for awhile because after all, anger, sorrow, resentment, blame doesn't do much good.
Ah.
It helps to know that there are others walking along the path of happy destiny beside me.
I find calmness and peace in acceptance of things that are outside of my control. The trick for me is determining where that boundary lies. Seems to shift a lot when I'm not looking.
If I am successful, my courage increases as I change the things I can. It's a daily reprieve based on the maintenance of my spiritual health.
That is job one.
My oldest is 24. His brother is 22. Now that they're out of the house I am encountering empty nest syndrome. Or, what now syndrome.
It's disconcerting.
:-\
Quote from: danimunj on May 07, 2011, 09:53:51 AM
My oldest is 24. His brother is 22. Now that they're out of the house I am encountering empty nest syndrome. Or, what now syndrome.
It's disconcerting.
:-\
I went through that, that was when I realized it was finally time to fix me ..
I hope you work through it, it does get easier over time
Thanks, K.
Gosh, the Internet is such a big, big place. It's grown so fast.
I think in order to ameliorate the effects of generational drift I need a 21st Century MakerOver!!!!!!!!
Hmmmmmmmm...
Where can I get one of those now...
:) :) :)
I may have found my makeover.
:)
Quote from: Kristyn on May 07, 2011, 09:07:55 AMEither way, life has definitely taken an interesting turn for me in the last year and in the last 24hrs. I'll stay calm, peaceful, positive and focused and see where it leads me. I'll let the Universe drive for awhile because after all, anger, sorrow, resentment, blame doesn't do much good.
a very Taoist attitude, and you're absolutely right Kristyn. :) To paraphrase an old hippie saying, Grace will get you through times of no money better than money will get you through times of no Grace. The catch of course is realizing there is no such thing as times of no Grace. I think a lot of us when we reach this point post-op know that we are where we're supposed to be, doing what we're supposed to be doing, even if times are rough. There is a kind of inner peace that settles in the weeks and months following surgery that no outer circumstances can ever take away from us. Seems so to me anyway.
Hi Danimunj :)
Quote from: danimunj on May 07, 2011, 06:49:27 PMI may have found my makeover.
ooh what's his name? ;)
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