Why would I ever think theyd ->-bleeped-<-ing understand?
I wish I hadnt come out to them and I jus went ahead wit ->-bleeped-<- anyway...
I was already set up at college n all n everywhere else... they didnt need to know.
Theyre making my life hell.
Sorry man :(
sorry man :icon_hug:
What are they doing? I'm sorry it didn't work out how you planned man
:-\ Sorry to hear that. What have they said/done?
Take it from me. Parents just don't understand... (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jW3PFC86UNI#)
I regretted coming out each time I came out to my mom. Her selective memory didn't remember the first. She took each time badly. So I'm not going to clue her in anymore.
I hope everything turns out ok with you.
Oh, i feel you man. Part of me wishes i never told my folks either. Even though i'm out to them they're 100% NOT supportive so it's almost as if i have to hide anyway - i can't be myself and i can't be open without facing serious criticism. Worse part of it is that they know and they choose to either criticize or ignore the whole situation, so it's not like they just don't know. I almost think ignorance of the situation would be better.....
Add to that they're a lot more trigger happy about going off on tangents around me, now - criticizing me, and all that. Just today my mom was pissed off that i took ten minutes to tell her happy mother's day. She went on a tangent when i came home form work about how i don't love her, how she cried all day because of that thought, and how she's sick of feeling like that and wonders if maybe she shouldn't just give it up (not her exact words but very similar) - you have NO idea how tempted i was to tell her that in my mind, she already HAS given up.
So yeah, life with the folks knowing isn't all that great. I really hope things work out for you.
I told my dad and step mom about 2 months ago, the first week was hell they called me a wanna be boy and that they didnt want to communicate anymore, second week my dad said that he would communicate until he could try to change my mind, then april 27-28th it was a friday the one before easter he said that he couldnt understand my choice and doesnt want to talk to me anymore. so i sat around all morning trying to decide if i should text my step mom and wish her a happy mothers day.... I wish i could wish her a "ur a stupid woman who never liked me anyway so go jump off a clif" text but in march my girlfriend called her a bitch so i guess that kinda coverd that.... any how i just sent her a happy mothers day text, its kinda like rubbing it in her face that im still alive.
Next month is fathers day and his birthday is the tenth so i figure ill send a "from son" card for both since he isnt reterning my calls or messages anyhow.
my bio mom i thought she was gonna be the hard ball, no instead she just isnt happy with the name Brandon James... she likes Jacob. maybe a few of her screws came loose up stairs. ;D
Quote from: BrandonJames on May 08, 2011, 06:41:08 PM
I told my dad and step mom about 2 months ago, the first week was hell they called me a wanna be boy and that they didnt want to communicate anymore, second week my dad said that he would communicate until he could try to change my mind, then april 27-28th it was a friday the one before easter he said that he couldnt understand my choice and doesnt want to talk to me anymore. so i sat around all morning trying to decide if i should text my step mom and wish her a happy mothers day.... I wish i could wish her a "ur a stupid woman who never liked me anyway so go jump off a clif" text but in march my girlfriend called her a bitch so i guess that kinda coverd that.... any how i just sent her a happy mothers day text, its kinda like rubbing it in her face that im still alive.
Next month is fathers day and his birthday is the tenth so i figure ill send a "from son" card for both since he isnt reterning my calls or messages anyhow.
my bio mom i thought she was gonna be the hard ball, no instead she just isnt happy with the name Brandon James... she likes Jacob. maybe a few of her screws came loose up stairs. ;D
Don't you think doing things just to rub it in and sending a from son card is just creating more bad blood? I obviously don't know the whole story, but if you're hoping they become understanding, accepting, and supportive someday that's not the way to do it.
Thanks everybody... I feel stupid about this, I always feel dumb when I complain and ->-bleeped-<-... But if anybody really wants to talk or somethin, hmu privately.
Quote from: FolkFanatic on May 08, 2011, 12:09:12 PM
Oh, i feel you man. Part of me wishes i never told my folks either. Even though i'm out to them they're 100% NOT supportive so it's almost as if i have to hide anyway - i can't be myself and i can't be open without facing serious criticism. Worse part of it is that they know and they choose to either criticize or ignore the whole situation, so it's not like they just don't know. I almost think ignorance of the situation would be better.....
Add to that they're a lot more trigger happy about going off on tangents around me, now - criticizing me, and all that. Just today my mom was pissed off that i took ten minutes to tell her happy mother's day. She went on a tangent when i came home form work about how i don't love her, how she cried all day because of that thought, and how she's sick of feeling like that and wonders if maybe she shouldn't just give it up (not her exact words but very similar) - you have NO idea how tempted i was to tell her that in my mind, she already HAS given up.
So yeah, life with the folks knowing isn't all that great. I really hope things work out for you.
We are in the exact same situation, it seems.
Have had similar feelings about wishing I had kept it to myself.
But it did take the mystery out of it. Sometimes it's better to know
where I stand with people than be in the dark, even if it sucks.
yeah its not a good idea, I honestly was feeling kinda hostile about it all. i will be sending the simple happy what ever card for what ever holiday it happens to be. becouse my mood changes about it all pretty quick i end up writing about 5 or six letters over a week until i hit the calm ok let me let you know how i feel with out pissing you off letter. sometimes it takes more then a week tho.
Quote from: kalshady on May 09, 2011, 01:50:30 PM
Thanks everybody... I feel stupid about this, I always feel dumb when I complain and ->-bleeped-<-... But if anybody really wants to talk or somethin, hmu privately.
We are in the exact same situation, it seems.
Yes, it seems we are - and we're allowed to complain about it a little bit. I myself always feel a little bit better after a good rant (i have one good friend who is always willing to listen and offer useful advice) and sometimes ranting can clear the head enough to make sense of a situation.
In fact, ranting to my friend the other day cleared my head up just enough to convince me it would be utterly stupid to react in any way to the mothers day fiasco. That could have ended very, very badly.....
Quote from: FolkFanatic on May 10, 2011, 09:50:26 AM
Yes, it seems we are - and we're allowed to complain about it a little bit. I myself always feel a little bit better after a good rant (i have one good friend who is always willing to listen and offer useful advice) and sometimes ranting can clear the head enough to make sense of a situation.
In fact, ranting to my friend the other day cleared my head up just enough to convince me it would be utterly stupid to react in any way to the mothers day fiasco. That could have ended very, very badly.....
I have a friend like that too, we vent to eachother about anything and everything, knowing that we will listen. Ive decided to not react to anything...dealing wit my parents. They can call me my birthname, I wont react. They can "she" me, I wont react.