Why do people call themselves your friend but the second they get mad at you they start sayin stuff about you being trans?
Yesturday someone flipped cause I told them to calm down and he got in my face...lets not go there but then he started calling me a ->-bleeped-<-...why do people go there?
It makes me SO mad.
Quote from: Jack on January 30, 2007, 06:51:08 PM
Why do people call themselves your friend but the second they get mad at you they start sayin stuff about you being trans?
Yesturday someone flipped cause I told them to calm down and he got in my face...lets not go there but then he started calling me a ->-bleeped-<-...why do people go there?
It makes me SO mad.
When folks feel threatened or they don't know, they often lash out and resort to insults. It just shows that they lack the skills to communicate to deal with the situation. The important question though is this person really your friend if they resort to such hurtful remarks.
Steph
It's hard not to make immediate generalizations when you don't know much about the subject. If they're willing, tell them about it; insults like that usually stem from being uneducated about the subject. If they won't listen, then don't mention it again, and when they're ready, they'll ask. Sometimes it just takes people a little longer than three seconds to get a grip on what you're saying.
I think your answer for:
Quote from: Jack on January 30, 2007, 06:51:08 PM...
why do people go there?
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Is simply:
Quote from: Jack on January 30, 2007, 06:51:08 PM...
It makes me SO mad.
That was the intent.
Such is as anger goes. People can be foolish at times.
While I tend to agree with Tinkerbell when she said,
Quote from: Tinkerbell on January 30, 2007, 08:50:28 PM...
IMO true friends will always be faithful; they will never tell your deepest secrets regardless of how they feel. In addition, true friends are those who want the best for you, who have faith in you, but most of all, true friends love you for what you are and will never judge you.
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But even so, don't damn the friends even if perhaps so called at their first infraction. Sometimes it takes hurt to get people to change.
Forgive, but do not forget.
If they do not learn and try to be destructive then perhaps one is better off further away from such people, friend or no.
Quote from: Arias on January 31, 2007, 10:44:49 AM...
Sometimes it just takes people a little longer than three seconds to get a grip on what you're saying.
Oie! I so agree with that thought.
An animal backed into a corner will lash out with claws and teeth, a human who thinks he is backed into a corner will lash out with words.
People attempt to hurt others when they feel pain, to keep themselves 'safe.'
Yes, Draeden. Maybe if when we're in these situations, we could take a mental step back and try to see where their comments stem from? I think, a little understanding is needed on both sides. Talking about it in a forum is good and well, but it's in the real world where every second and reaction counts where we need to be prepared to speculate ( on the spot ). If the other party sees that we are willing as individuals ( and perhaps "as a group," because you really do represent the whole group in situations like that ) to set aside the argument and begin to simply understand they might feel more inclined to do the same, for us.