Since I'm only out to my therapist (so completely still in the closet) would you recommend coming out to friends and family prior to starting HRT so as to prepare them for the upcoming changes or wait until you started?
I'm talking more about the closest of friends and family, not the peripherals.
Hi Rach
You know your friends/siblings better than anybody else.
Is there any reason why you should keep it as a secret?
If there is no reason for it and you keep it as a secret, you won't get the support you need.
Think about it, you don't commit a crime or something.
I hope you"ll find the right solution for your problem.
Hugs
Annette
Quote from: annette on May 30, 2011, 03:41:35 PM
Hi Rach
You know your friends/siblings better than anybody else.
Is there any reason why you should keep it as a secret?
If there is no reason for it and you keep it as a secret, you won't get the support you need.
Think about it, you don't commit a crime or something.
I hope you"ll find the right solution for your problem.
Hugs
Annette
It's mostly because it's going to be a shock to people. I have kept a masculine persona my whole life.
I'm just looking for feedback from you ladies that have experienced it and what you felt would be a better.
Regrets about telling too early? Too late?
Hi Rach
Yeah, I know what you mean. We all played the men role and people were used to that role.
Well, one way or another you have to tell sometime.
When you start hrt and your boobs are growing it's hard to hide anymore.
You are never too early and of course it will be shocking but, there is no easy way to do it.
For me, it didn't work out the good way in the beginning, I was a member of a small minded family so they didn't accept the fact.
More or less I was rejected and I went to the transitionjourney by myself, it wasn't too bad, it makes me strong, after a few years they wanted to see me and of course I had my demands....fully accepting or I had to go my own way.
It wasn't my fault that nature made a cruell joke with my gender, I had to deal with it, every day.
I went to hell because of it and for the good sake of others I was supposed to stay there.
No way I could do that.
So, despite the troubles in the beginning it worked out the good way.
I find it hard to play the men role and it was a relieve to be myself for the first time in life.
Free.....at last, there was no way I could be locked up in that role again.
Roxy Rose has written in a post...you only have to do it once, and that's true, you only have to do it once.
When you tell, you can tell how you're feeling and that it is a torture to face daily life as a man.
Sure....I think people need some time to get used by the new Rach but you can't deny the facts.
When they really love you, they have to respect your feelings.
When they are sad, you could give them some comfort, but the fact is you're a girl and nothing can change that.
Do it Rach.....be free...be yourself, there is never a good time to start the conversation, so it doesn't matter when you do it.
I wish you a lot of courage, it's scary, I know.
many hugs
Annette