Hi Everybody,
I recently met a crossdresser that was a sissy and I have never thought of myself as a sissy. I found her to be a very nice girl and the sissy subject did interest me. I took a Sissy Maid test on line and flunked lol. So, I guess I wouldn't make a very good sissy ;D. Anyhow, I am curious if anybody else is a sissy or have considered becoming a sissy. I have always liked lacey lingerie and girlish clothing but never considered being a sissy. To change my mind or not??
Hugs,
Jean
This might fit better on a board that caters to "sissies".
Sorry, Thank you!
I guess I'm a little naive but what is a sissy?
check out fetlife you should find some like minded folks there.
My understanding is that a "sissy" is a CD who enjoys being dominated. It's not for me. I become a "bitch" when someone attempts to dominate me. There are several yahoo groups dedicated to "sissies". On youtube there are many videos of sissies I find rather entertaining.
Hi Genevieve,
Thank you for your reply and trust me I am just happy to be Jean and will continue. I just asked a question and seem to have stepped on some toes lol. I like being femme when I can.
Hugs,
Jean
Wouldn't let it bother you too much Jean.
The issue deals with some of the more intimate aspects of our feelings. Some identify with some aspects, some others, some other than those.
But the general tone in this forum tends toward the more practical aspects.
Great to see you becoming an active poster here.
Like a lot of the deviations and sexual side streets - S&M, furry cos/play, role playing and other (and there is a huge amount) fetish based stuff with a high sexual content (though often no sex) - most people just don't even want to try to understand it.
On top of that in general, I think the specific trouble with sissy is that it goes to the heart of the deepest and most permanent/historical (and hence most stereotypical) divisions between the genders. Many of the MtFs on here had that word used as a weapon on them, and I think that even some of the FtMs worry if their presentation will be able to pass that threshold so you've got that apprehension aspect to it. On top of that it's a huge sexual fetish deal, and there are a lot of people in here who have a fetish about fetishes (though I'm pretty sure they don't really understand what they are). Plus it's something that is very highly male, in that there is no real born female equivalent to sissy. There is no widespread female sexual fetish for tomboy. So that makes it harder to understand. Then you have the age aspect to it, and for a lot of people - perhaps even a pretty vast majority - age role playing in a sexual context is beyond the pale and hence something they can't - or won't - talk about.
But I kind of like it. Not in the sense that it appeals to me specifically, though from sissy to like 40-50s fashions is not a huge step and has lots of crossover, but just in the knowledge that it's there. They were, some of the first people to really 'find' each other on the net if you trace the rise of net communities, particularly the alt-sex stuff. (Petticoat Pond looks just like it did in 1996, and everything on the net looked like that in '96) And, where some of (OK, a lot of) the S&M&B&D and all that is very scary, there is nothing on the planet less threatening than sissy except perhaps 'bunny' and even rabbits have teeth and bite.
There is part of it that is a clothing fetish, and there is the maid deal, but when you look deeper there is another entire sissy deal has its own subculture of meetings and camps and weekend activities. So its not just the clothing, its heavily involved with actual age appropriate activities - but the maid thing involves lots of activities too. But really I'd rather color between the lines and string beads, and make lanyards than scrub the floor and make dinner. But it's that entire 'world within a world' that interests me.
So it's fine to talk about, it's in the CD section and I'd think its just one more part of that section of the spectrum.
Its not my thing, but I know it exists and makes some people happy to live that lifestyle. Its not for me though, my dressing habits are more about self expression and balance. Too each their own though.
I agree with Tella though, "sissy" is a very charged word. As a young cd I tried very hard tho not be found out and be called a sissy.
I've dabbled - went to a club a few times, found there too many restrictions, and I never liked the sissy style, I preferred something a little less OTT. But as a dabble, I've had worse, nice bunch o' people.
Read up about it& if you still "Like" the concept--Try it--For some of us -We choose to "OWN" the word so it cannot be a "weapon" against us! quote author=Sarah Louise link=topic=99723.msg735532#msg735532 date=1307386057]
This might fit better on a board that caters to "sissies".
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This might fit better on a board that caters to "sissies".
Perhaps if Miss Kat was giving instructions on how to be a proper young lady, but as a passing question and part of the entire rainbow of gender expression where everyone thinks they are better than every other color it's good here. After all, it would be such a gray world without pastel colors.
Until this thread, I didn't know about the sissy fetish (I live under a rock or in a cave somewhere, oh well, at least my cave has internet access). :D I was often called a sissy as a kid, however I have reclaimed the word and use it proudly, similarly to how some have reclaimed the word queer.
Z
Jean, myself I might come close but prefer to be looked upon as an effeminate man. I can wear a nice nightgown and feel feminine but do not try to appear as a woman. So I think a sissy is a girly girl in a guys body. I am not realy girly girly but often feel best when wearing feminine things.
Quote from: tekla on June 17, 2011, 08:22:05 AMMany of the MtFs on here had that word used as a weapon on them
Okay -- I know its just a word, and I am stronger than all that, but I was a victim of the the hurt that word embodies when I was a teenager. When I hear it used, I can feel my blood pressure rise and I feel like I am falling into that abyss of abuse I suffered. I can hear my peers using it on me in grade 7. I can hear my mum calling me one. To me it is a word as charged as the word n_gg_r.
Huggles
Toni-Lynn
many MTF's have had this word used as a weapon against them
Quote from: I_am_Toni_Lynn on August 19, 2011, 04:18:21 PM
Okay -- I know its just a word, and I am stronger than all that, but I was a victim of the the hurt that word embodies when I was a teenager. When I hear it used, I can feel my blood pressure rise and I feel like I am falling into that abyss of abuse I suffered. I can hear my peers using it on me in grade 7. I can hear my mum calling me one. To me it is a word as charged as the word n_gg_r.
Huggles
Toni-Lynn
I also agree with you, sadly I shared the same experiences! I do not like the word sissy and do not like to be called that. I am submissive but in no way a sissy.
A long dead thread, try not to respond to dead threads.
Start a new one instead,
Hugs
Cindy
Quote from: Cindy James on October 01, 2011, 04:00:10 AM
A long dead thread, try not to respond to dead threads.
Start a new one instead,
Hugs
Cindy
why is that? Sorry but that sounds redundant. Just saying!
Quote from: Jen-Jen on October 01, 2011, 04:36:30 AM
why is that? Sorry but that sounds redundant. Just saying!
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Make it go away. MAKE IT GO AWAY!
I don't get the "start a new thread", thing. It's just not logical to me. If I wanted to talk about sissys (which in this case I don't) why start another thread when there is already a knowledge base within a previous thread? It just seems better to keep relevent information together. Just my 2 cents and obviously many others disagree.
I take a personal pleasure in resurrecting dead threads, but then, I like waking the past up and shaking it out for some air.
Quote from: JessicaH on October 12, 2011, 05:34:13 PM
I don't get the "start a new thread", thing. It's just not logical to me. If I wanted to talk about sissys (which in this case I don't) why start another thread when there is already a knowledge base within a previous thread?
Courtesy, mostly. Since most people don't read post dates, they might conclude that old posts made by members represent current problems and events, when in fact this may not be the case.
If it helps make this thread relevant, I've actually had some experience with sissies recently. I sort of got into it by accident, and then other sissies started asking me for advice. It's been my experience that there are several types of sissies.
1) MtF's who want to be forced to become female, either because of inherent desire or from an unwillingness to initiate change themselves. Submissiveness is highly desired, at least during the transition. Submissiveness may or may not remain present after transition depending on the personality of the sissy.
2) Men who want to feel inferior to women or other men either through being feminized, or through being changed mentally in such a way that supports the fetish. Common themes include submission to women, feeling inferior to women, not feeling like a man, feeling inferior to other men, feeling or perceiving oneself as a woman, feeling or perceiving oneself as feminine, etc.
3) People who want to feel submissive in a way which often incorporates gendered stereotypes, or feelings of humiliation. Submission and service to others (such as the maid theme) are common.
I too have memories of being called a "sissy" as a kid. It caused me great pain when growing up and I really have not been able to accept it until II accepted who I am. Now it doesn't hurt so much, even in my nightmares of childhood.