Life after SRS

[NYCTSGirl01]

I really want SRS to feel comfortable with myself. But, I can't understand how I will deal with men. I'm so used to dealing with men who like the pre-op transsexual. Most men assume a TS is pre-op when they see one. I hate having a penis and having anal sex. But, it seems like that what guys want. I always felt pressure to stay pre-op. I wonder what type of guy wants a post-op.

[missy1992]

Girl do your own thing and you'll find what you need.
Do you need us to push you over the fence?

I really want SRS to feel comfortable with myself.

I am post op and boy and I ever happy. If this is what you want you have to go for it.

[Nicole]

I'm gonna chop your post up to reply if thats ok?


I really want SRS to feel comfortable with myself.

SRS is a bit more than that, but if its right for you (want/need) you'll not only be happy, you'll feel right

But, I can't understand how I will deal with men. I'm so used to dealing with men who like the pre-op transsexual.
I think you're meeting the wrong type of guys, these sound more like "chasers" than men.
All of the men I've been with since my SRS are like every other men who want to treat you right.

Most men assume a TS is pre-op when they see one.
See above, I think you're meeting the wrong type of guy, ARe you going to straight bars? are you "playing the role" of female or male in a dress?

I hate having a penis and **having anal sex**. But, it seems like that what guys want.
Then DON'T!
I couldn't care what a single guy wants, if I don't want it I won't do it!

I always felt pressure to stay pre-op.
From who? if its from your mind, then maybe SRS isn't the right thing for you, if its from someone else, tell them they don't make your choices.

I wonder what type of guy wants a post-op.
I've never met a guy who wanted sex with me because I was post op, 99% of my friends don't even know (moved when I first came out). Unless the guy has something for just post op women, they want you for you.

[NYCTSGirl01]

I'm gonna chop your post up to reply if thats ok?


I really want SRS to feel comfortable with myself.

SRS is a bit more than that, but if its right for you (want/need) you'll not only be happy, you'll feel right

But, I can't understand how I will deal with men. I'm so used to dealing with men who like the pre-op transsexual.
I think you're meeting the wrong type of guys, these sound more like "chasers" than men.
All of the men I've been with since my SRS are like every other men who want to treat you right.

Most men assume a TS is pre-op when they see one.
See above, I think you're meeting the wrong type of guy, ARe you going to straight bars? are you "playing the role" of female or male in a dress?

I hate having a penis and **having anal sex**. But, it seems like that what guys want.
Then DON'T!
I couldn't care what a single guy wants, if I don't want it I won't do it!

I always felt pressure to stay pre-op.
From who? if its from your mind, then maybe SRS isn't the right thing for you, if its from someone else, tell them they don't make your choices.

I wonder what type of guy wants a post-op.
I've never met a guy who wanted sex with me because I was post op, 99% of my friends don't even know (moved when I first came out). Unless the guy has something for just post op women, they want you for you.

Thanks, Nicole!

[calico]

What kind of guy wants a post op?  who said you had to tell? I sure as heck didn't, and I may never for that fact, and so far my relationship is awesome!!!  definitely sounds like the wrong kind of relationships, and girl I understand feeling lonely and lowering the standard, but realize you are so much better than that, 1st and foremost is yourself, you gotta watch out for #1, to hell with the others. you cant please everyone all the time why not focus on the one that matters

[Vicky]

i do not want the type of guy who wants a post op transsexual for a sex partner.  One who does is not on my longest list.  I went through too much to get to where i am, which is to be a happy, cuddly and caring woman who wants a companion and soul mate, even if it is only for a season or for long term trusting fun.  I do not want sex just as sex, but intimacy of thought and trust that will open up my entire body for use of what it now is.  I am proudy and comfortably post op, as well as having a mildly dirty mind with fun issue.  I have guys that flirt with me, and at my age that is quite a bit to ask for, but I can hope, 

Set your sights on something other than TG admirers, you are better, nicer and sweeter than they deserve.

[MariaMx]

The good thing about being post-op is that the chasers lose interest. The guys who are interested in me now are great. Well, usually anyway.

Dating as pre-op was a terrible experience for me.

[NYCTSGirl01]

The good thing about being post-op is that the chasers lose interest. The guys who are interested in me now are great. Well, usually anyway.

Dating as pre-op was a terrible experience for me.

I don't get chaser. Why would a guy want to be with a woman with a penis yet not want to be intimate with a man. They're so creepy.

[noleen111]

I can relate..

I am still pre-op, but I going for Srs in January. When I announced this exciting news to my now Ex-boyfriend, he did not want me to go through with it.. he liked me having a penis.. so i was pressured into staying Pre-op..

yes, we did have anal sex and I do actually enjoy it... but staying like I am was not the plan.. i would like to experience vaginal sex and complete my transition.

If a man challenges this your life decisions, you should not be with him

[Evolving Beauty]

I don't get chaser. Why would a guy want to be with a woman with a penis yet not want to be intimate with a man. They're so creepy.

A chaser or also known as ->-bleeped-<--chaser are types of guys who are in fact gays and think they are straights who are attracted only with women with PENIS cos they are attracted and want a PENIS in their mouth and majority like to be topped by non-ops & pre-ops.

What type of guy you tend to attract post-op? Hopefully REAL straight guys but I advise you before going for SRS, be 100% sure your Facial Feminization Surgery is 100% a success cos if you look 'trans' and have SRS, both sides(REAL straights & ->-bleeped-<--chasers) are gonna baulk off. Chasers hate trans who chop off their hated parts where as real straight guys don't like a trans who looks obviously trans, and you need to be in stealth unless for serious relationship cos they always get shocked and traumatized by that 'You were born a man' thing. Things get tough and complicated when you start saying, it's better you need to keep your mouth shut once operated.

[NYCTSGirl01]

I can relate..

I am still pre-op, but I going for Srs in January. When I announced this exciting news to my now Ex-boyfriend, he did not want me to go through with it.. he liked me having a penis.. so i was pressured into staying Pre-op..

yes, we did have anal sex and I do actually enjoy it... but staying like I am was not the plan.. i would like to experience vaginal sex and complete my transition.

If a man challenges this your life decisions, you should not be with him

I decided not to date until I have had SRS. The problem is that I don't know when I can afford to get it. My transition took so long because I was always trying to hold on to relationship with people who wanted to stay the way I was even if It made me unhappy.

[NYCTSGirl01]

A chaser or also known as ->-bleeped-<--chaser are types of guys who are in fact gays and think they are straights who are attracted only with women with PENIS cos they are attracted and want a PENIS in their mouth and majority like to be topped by non-ops & pre-ops.

What type of guy you tend to attract post-op? Hopefully REAL straight guys but I advise you before going for SRS, be 100% sure your Facial Feminization Surgery is 100% a success cos if you look 'trans' and have SRS, both sides(REAL straights & ->-bleeped-<--chasers) are gonna baulk off. Chasers hate trans who chop off their hated parts where as real straight guys don't like a trans who looks obviously trans, and you need to be in stealth unless for serious relationship cos they always get shocked and traumatized by that 'You were born a man' thing. Things get tough and complicated when you start saying, it's better you need to keep your mouth shut once operated.

My problem is I'm very slim and if I'm not dressed very feminine I look androgenous and if I'm dressed very feminine I attract creeps.

[Athena]

My problem is I'm very slim and if I'm not dressed very feminine I look androgenous and if I'm dressed very feminine I attract creeps.

Most women do attract creeps . Do what you want for you not for anyone who sees you as a sperm bank. If they are interested in you then they won't care what is between your legs, if they care what's between your legs then they aren't interested in you (as a person).

[NYCTSGirl01]

Most women do attract creeps . Do what you want for you not for anyone who sees you as a sperm bank. If they are interested in you then they won't care what is between your legs, if they care what's between your legs then they aren't interested in you (as a person).

I don't like whats between my legs now. But, when I get it fixed I want them to like me AND what between my legs. lol

[Kate G]

I really want SRS to feel comfortable with myself. But, I can't understand how I will deal with men. I'm so used to dealing with men who like the pre-op transsexual. Most men assume a TS is pre-op when they see one. I hate having a penis and having anal sex. But, it seems like that what guys want. I always felt pressure to stay pre-op. I wonder what type of guy wants a post-op.

I used to only know guys who knew me as trans or as a pre-op transsexual.  It was like my own little sexual ghetto and I felt stuck there.  Fortune and hard work plus a ton of debt helped me to move out of my sexual ghetto.  Now I know some guys who were attracted to me because they thought I was a woman they liked.  Surprise, they are right and I'm not the one to tell them they made a mistake because they haven't.  We all live in our own little world, it's where we are at, right now.  But there are other worlds and with a little luck, a lot of work and thousands of dollars of debt I managed to find another world.  When someone seeks to take that world away from me... well I wish a similar evil will befall them.

[NYCTSGirl01]

I used to only know guys who knew me as trans or as a pre-op transsexual.  It was like my own little sexual ghetto and I felt stuck there.  Fortune and hard work plus a ton of debt helped me to move out of my sexual ghetto.  Now I know some guys who were attracted to me because they thought I was a woman they liked.  Surprise, they are right and I'm not the one to tell them they made a mistake because they haven't.  We all live in our own little world, it's where we are at, right now.  But there are other worlds and with a little luck, a lot of work and thousands of dollars of debt I managed to find another world.  When someone seeks to take that world away from me... well I wish a similar evil will befall them.

Congratulations! i can't wait for my turn to come.