Faced someone last night

nicolef · July 26, 2016, 10:26:41 AM

I faced someone last night,my ex wife Kristy.We were married for 2 years and divorced 14 years ago,we did fight a lot and had marital problems.The divorce was on good terms as wellI never told Kristy about this secret of mine before we divorced.She came to my place to see me for the first time and was shocked a little bit that I changed now a woman.It was good after that and Kristy said she would of been open about it if I did come out to her about it.I told her I go by Nicole now and did go through the transition making the decision not to have the GRS.Kristy saw I have a much better quality of life now and she knew I was not happy about something in my life.We are staying as friends and glad we got back together talking in good terms

Dani · July 27, 2016, 07:08:02 PM

You are so fortunate to have an understanding friend, even if she was your ex-partner.

Openness and honesty always overcome fear and denial.

nicolef · July 28, 2016, 11:01:17 AM

I was being honest to her about it and saw that.We even have a son together and he has not seen me as Nicole yet.He is 15 now and she said he will be seeing me sometime.She admits I am still a great dad paying child support and send him birthday cards on his birthday.Even talk on the phone.

Paige · July 28, 2016, 12:48:57 PM

Hi Nicole,

Thanks for posting that. It's always nice to hear positive stories.

Just curious, did she make any comments about your appearance.

Take care,
Paige

nicolef · July 28, 2016, 03:26:14 PM

Said I looked gorgeous.Even said I have a better life now and told her that is true.Kristy is remarried and revealed to me that she was going tell me something before we divorced too.Was going to reveal she is a lesbian to me.Married to her partner Alexi for a year now

HappyMoni · July 28, 2016, 04:29:17 PM

So at one point you both were sitting there, with the biggest secrets of your lives. Ever had any thoughts of "what if?" Thanks for sharing your story.
Moni

Elis · July 28, 2016, 05:20:24 PM

Interesting. Reminds me of this Oprah Winfrey talk show clip on YouTube were you had a story of an ex husband and wife who both realised they were actually gay.

nicolef · July 28, 2016, 10:13:35 PM

Our marriage was a wreck and the fights were bad.There were times the cops came out and did separate after that.Krisy and I knew we should of told each other before the divorce happened

Dena · July 28, 2016, 10:27:05 PM

Sadly this reminds me of another post on the site. A MTF was having difficulty coming out to her wife when her wife in tears said she was lesbian. The MTF said she could work with that.

Daria67 · August 01, 2016, 08:57:49 PM

Coming out to my wife seemed to go OK at first but has since become disastrous. She is demanding that I don't start HRT

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kellykh · August 03, 2016, 12:14:00 PM

That's how my wife is too. She's ok with me dressing, and even encouraging with that. But no HRT or any medical transition. It's a sad place to be stuck, but I still want to stay together.