I wish I was a girl.

[kallaran]

Then maybe my dysphoria could end and "dressing up" wouldn't really be a thing. I don't really even indulge in "dressing up" but it's hard to not want to feel pretty in a way. But I am the most hideous thing on the planet. I wish that I could have an ideal body and not the one that I have now. ;(

[Dani]

kallaran,

You are NOT hideous in any way. You may need improvement as many of us have experience in that area. We need to take control of our life and identify the things we would like to change and just change them. Take a look at the before and after pictures posted here and elsewhere on the internet. One of those ladies could be you.

[Raell]

Most transgender people think they look hideous at first. Since puberty, I thought I was deformed and could barely bring myself to look in a mirror or look at old photos.

Now I look at old photos of me and realize I was a beautiful woman, but my feeling of horror came from expecting to see a MALE.

[Julia1996]

Then maybe my dysphoria could end and "dressing up" wouldn't really be a thing. I don't really even indulge in "dressing up" but it's hard to not want to feel pretty in a way. But I am the most hideous thing on the planet. I wish that I could have an ideal body and not the one that I have now. ;(

I'm sure you aren't hideous. Trans people are overly hard on themselves. Me included. And keep in mind that HRT will soften your features and make you look feminine.

[Crush935]

I'm a big dude.  I want to shed weight and be ripped and walk around shirtless.  So I remember feeling the way you do now. 

It isn't easy, but you have to say "f*** what everyone else thinks of me.  I am strong and I am awesome".  It took me a hot minute and a lot of work to get that way, but I have been so much happier since I reached an inner peace.  I may not be a super model and my bits may not be quite the way I'd like them, but I'm awesome.  And I rock it with confidence.

And let me tell you what.  People rarely question confidence.  You be confident in yourself and you'll find that other people will start to see you I'm that same light. 

Rock yourself.  Because you're awesome!


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[MissKairi]

I do feel the same.
I see my huge head, big nose, small lips, flippimg beard hair, well hair everywhere, no hips and I think yuck.
I dont like what I see either.

so you're not alone

[toxicketchup]

Then maybe my dysphoria could end and "dressing up" wouldn't really be a thing. I don't really even indulge in "dressing up" but it's hard to not want to feel pretty in a way. But I am the most hideous thing on the planet. I wish that I could have an ideal body and not the one that I have now. ;(

Nobody has an ideal body, that's why it's called "ideal". You're not hideous. There's such a broad spectrum of things that people find attractive, and preferences all vary from person to person. Looks are such a subjective thing that there's really no sense in worrying about them. Beauty standards are BS. But if you really must, focus on what you like about yourself. Your favorite features. Work on emphasizing those, while downplaying the ones you don't like. Use makeup, wigs, hair extensions, shaping garments and corsets, etc. There are so many tricks you can use to change up your look.

[karenk1959]

The idea of what is beautiful is created by our culture and society. There are so many people out there that you might consider "beautiful" that when you get to know them are ugly.

[LizK]

I'm a big dude.  I want to shed weight and be ripped and walk around shirtless.  So I remember feeling the way you do now. 

It isn't easy, but you have to say "f*** what everyone else thinks of me.  I am strong and I am awesome".  It took me a hot minute and a lot of work to get that way, but I have been so much happier since I reached an inner peace.  I may not be a super model and my bits may not be quite the way I'd like them, but I'm awesome.  And I rock it with confidence.

And let me tell you what.  People rarely question confidence.  You be confident in yourself and you'll find that other people will start to see you I'm that same light. 

Rock yourself.  Because you're awesome!


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+1

Self acceptance is such an important part of transition and probably one of the hardest to achieve for most people and I am no exception 

[Natalia]

Self image issues... we all have them in diferent degrees... you are not alone.

I still struggle sometimes with my image at the mirror. It is mainy lack of self steem, confidence and it is also about letting our fears take over.

We fear we will never be beautiful, or that we will never be happy... but that is not true!

We all are beautiful... but sometimes that beauty is hidden... and we have to work out how to let it out.

For some (like me) letting that ineer me out implied in transitioning. But not everyone needs to transition to feel good with themselves.

Sometimes losing a bit of weight, changing something about yourself, clothes, hair... or just learning how to see the world with a diferente perspective... sometimes we need to change our mind, learn how to be happy with the life we have... and then we realize that sometimes we have a good life that just needs some minor adjustments here and there.

I am sure you are not hideous!!! And if there is something you don't like about yourself... you can always try improving, changing (but only if you want that change to happen!)

[bree_davis01]

I was that way for years. As I started to come out to close friends my self esteem went way up! Just be positive! Your not alone... and one thing I can tell ya sister, a nice pair of jeans or yoga pants make get a very very very positive boost! Lol

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[toxicketchup]

I was that way for years. As I started to come out to close friends my self esteem went way up! Just be positive! Your not alone... and one thing I can tell ya sister, a nice pair of jeans or yoga pants make get a very very very positive boost! Lol

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I second this. I remember the first time I tried on a pair of women's jeans. The way they fit my hips and waist,  it made me feel so feminine. I still have that very same pair.

[NancyBalik]

Kellaran,  Me too.  I wish I was a woman--but I'm not going to be.  I have the body that I have--you probably do, too.  Unless you have plans to transition, and even then, there are only some parts that can change.  I am trying to work on accepting the parts of myself that can be feminine even though I have some very male parts--including that I am 6'2, have big feet, broad shoulders, and male anatomy that I don't like.  But, I can wear pretty things and think feminine thoughts, do feminine things, and inside I do my best to be the gender I think that I really, really am.  I am a woman inside!  Nancy

[karenk1959]

I wish I was a girl, too, so I wouldn't have to think about it every day.

[NancyBalik]

I wish I was a girl, too, so I wouldn't have to think about it every day.

Love this!  This is exactly how I feel (would only substitute the word woman for girl--being that I am in my 60's).  Nancy

[Karrie]

This has been my wish for over 40 yrs.  But due to life , learned to deal with the cards I chose to play the game.
My inner girl understands to accept what I can offer at the moment.

Karrie

[LifeasMakamae]

In a decent looking guy but a terrible looking woman but that's just reality. I dare say that that truth will never stop me from being the true beauty I know is there.
Beauty is everywhere it just take time to find it..
Hang in there hun.

[Sarah-Jayne]

i hate myself too. Until i got help, today, actually, I have taken a Knife to myself 3 times and an overdose. All that has done is leave me with hideous scars and no help. You are you. You are not horrendous, you are not ugly. You are a beautiful person. We Trans have to stand up to the bullies and the haters, but remember, you have a right to be who you are. Everyone else who disagrees sucks.

Many Hugs

SJ

[coldHeart]

No way can you be ugly, there can't be two of us on here