Thank you everyone for your time and thoughts, I appreciate this 💜🙏🏻
Quote from: KristaFairchild on Yesterday at 06:13:12 PMInteresting and I see that point of view, but don't feel it. Maybe because I've always connected with all ages? And young people are less likely to be bigoted toward trans women? And I have no hope of liking young and pretty.
Dear Krista, it is not that I don't connect to all ages. Like you I am not, nor was I ever afraid or felt threatened by women but men. But because of that, since I am at the very start of my journey, I am well aware of my quite manly exterior. So I feel I am invading their space, making *them* uncomfortable. But as usual I am probably just overthinking. The story about the gay couple is terrible. We have our fair share of bigots here, I personally know a few dudes in town that are going to give me a very hard time, but that's a different topic...
Quote from: Charlotte Kitty on Yesterday at 05:48:24 PMI just put my shoulders up and a little smile. But relaxed at the same time. Breathe out to release. Know that you're amazing being where you are now in life and holding your own amongst the younger ones.
That sounds good, I shall try that, thx dear Charlotte!
Quote from: Northern Star Girl on Yesterday at 06:01:10 PMMy thoughts are that many cis-women and trans gals have moments and thoughts like you had mentioned.
Each of us need to be thankful with whatever we have and do what what we can to work with
the "canvas" that we have been given and work toward improving our appearance and our presentation.
Confidence and self-assurance are important personal attributes. A happy attitude and a
friendly and bright smile will go a long way to assist in that effort.
Dear Danielle, thank you, this resonates very well with me!!! Indeed, so many people look or act so confident, and if you get to know them they're all full of doubts and fears. And I am very well aware that especially the young women are under a lot of pressure about what society expects from them.
Quote from: Lori Dee on Yesterday at 08:16:46 PMI just remember that I am older and wiser. Who knows, maybe they think, "I hope I look like her when I get that age!"
Dear Lori Dee, I hope I'll get there in a year or two, that would be lovely! For now, my shell is still kinda middle aged dude in girly shirts and makeup. 🙈
Quote from: Alana Ashleigh on Yesterday at 09:01:12 PMI was absolutely petrified going into Ulta or Sephora to get makeup at the beginning. One thing that REALLY helped my anxiety was buying online, and pickup in store.
Dear Alana Ashleigh, thank you. It's good to know I am not the only one experiencing this. And yah indeed online shopping helps! Still, I'm such a chicken and I need to girl-up and face my fears.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on Yesterday at 09:26:57 PMBuying cosmetics in a big grocery store's less busy cosmetics aisle or at a dollar store is less "obvious" I think than a cosmetics store. I used to do that, and actually I still buy my LA brand lipstick at a dollar store.
If you need guidance with cosmetics do go to a cosmetics store though. Thy want to make sales.
Also lots of beautiful women, some with great curves, are all over the place! Do not think you have to measure up to them. You may wish to look like them but try to not let their looks bug you. There will always be some people prettier, smarter, richer, etc. than you. So what. Try not to compare yourself to them in a way that will get you down in the dumps.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom dear
@ChrissyRyan , yea you're totally right regarding comparison. Comparison is the killer of joy. However I don't trust people who want to make sales to give me the best style guide though - I think they'll sell me all kinds of things I don't really need. 😅
Hugs to all
xoxo Val
