Cici, I have been searching for answers like you to find the root on my obsessions sensual in nature and one I came across with a SARA test.  Then for a fee I took a SAST Sexual Addition Screening Test and found it very informative for me.  It was after this I decided to pursue gender counseling to see what part of my obsession was gender related.  You might want to see if it may help.  From what I know now, I am somewhere on the scale between M and F.  I am very fortunate I am working with a gender specialist and meeting with a group of trans folks regularly.  After doing endless searches on the net I dont think there is a "test".  Perhaps you could find an therapist who will do Skype?  Mine offers all methods but I prefer in person.