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Robbyv213

So I decided to take my measurements since I haven't done so since Jan.

Over all I'm down 1-2 inches all over. Weight in Jan was 190, weight yesterday was 181 (in the am fastest). Waist was 34 now it's 33. Quads were 23.5 now they're 22. Neck was 16 now it's 15. Forearms were 13 now they're 12. Bicep was 16 now 15. Shoulders (the same way you measure for a suit jacket) was 49 now 48. Bust was 46, now 45. Under bust was 39-40 now 37-38.

So I am moving in the right direction. I'm sure over time and the longer I'm on HRT the more I'll revert back to my body figure before I ever used steroid (to an extent obviously since I'm older, and there will be more fat stores in different areas than previously)
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Such great questions! May you be patient and curious as you explore possible answers about your priorities and how straight or winding you want your path to be.
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Robbyv213

Weekends are tough....
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Quote from: Robbyv213 on April 18, 2026, 10:55:30 PMWeekends are tough....
Why is that Robby? Too much time to think? I find keeping busy is the key, distract the mind. When you are single, hobbies and interests do become more important. Maybe try some new things you haven't done before, pop to the Gym too.
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Robbyv213

Yes too much time on my hands. Weekends are usually rest days from training, but also trying to save money and not waste gas. So hobbies and going out and about costs money.

I feel like I start off ok. Then something will come up or trigger me and I'll get all in my emotions .

This past weekend on Saturday we had to finish getting the last bit of stuff out of the old house, patch some walls from TV mount screws etc. So my wife brought over the one dog that she did keep so that all the dogs could have a play date at my new home while we went to the old house to finish up.

Once my wife left and took the other dog, one of the two that I kept started crying, and howling trying to call out to his friend. He would howl and then wait and listen for a response. It was heart breaking.

All I could think about was that I caused this. That I broke up our family. And there was nothing I could do to console him. Eventually he stopped but it was heart breaking.

And then Sunday I had absolutely nothing to do. So just too much time on my hands. Sunday wasn't bad emotionally speaking.

I think the dogs will do better with consistent play dates so they know what happens at the end of them.


Robbyv213

Today I put my hair in a small ponytail, and it actually stayed in the hair tie. It made me so happy to be able to do this. I feel my hair pulled back and having my ponytail gives me the most natural feminine look I've seen this far (even without makeup.

I never thought I could achieve this with my own hair, especially with how long I was on some powerful steroids. I thought the amount of DHT had caused me to be beyond salvation for my hair. Thought I was one step away from being bald.

But today my hair has grown long enough after one year to put it in a ponytail. Crazy how something so small and simple produces so much joy. This has probably been the one that has hit the hardest so far (in a good way).

Stottie Girl

Quote from: Robbyv213 on April 20, 2026, 02:54:51 PMYes too much time on my hands. Weekends are usually rest days from training, but also trying to save money and not waste gas. So hobbies and going out and about costs money.

I feel like I start off ok. Then something will come up or trigger me and I'll get all in my emotions .

This past weekend on Saturday we had to finish getting the last bit of stuff out of the old house, patch some walls from TV mount screws etc. So my wife brought over the one dog that she did keep so that all the dogs could have a play date at my new home while we went to the old house to finish up.

Once my wife left and took the other dog, one of the two that I kept started crying, and howling trying to call out to his friend. He would howl and then wait and listen for a response. It was heart breaking.

All I could think about was that I caused this. That I broke up our family. And there was nothing I could do to console him. Eventually he stopped but it was heart breaking.

And then Sunday I had absolutely nothing to do. So just too much time on my hands. Sunday wasn't bad emotionally speaking.

I think the dogs will do better with consistent play dates so they know what happens at the end of them.


Does walking the dogs or taking them to a beach or something not clear your head? That doesn't have to cost anything. There are low cost hobbies out there if you look. Why not try something new if you've got time on your hands? If you don't give your mind time to dwell on things it can help.
A wise man once said don't judge a man until you've walked a mile in his shoes, that way when you judge him you're a mile away and you have his shoes!

Never trust a man who, when left alone in a room with a tea cozy, doesn't try it on - Billy Connolley

Robbyv213

So since my wife and I split up. I only have the vehicles I had before we married. Which both are old, glass guzzling and not really something I would trust other than having to get back and forth from work or necessary appointments.

The one is a 2006 Dodge charger 6.1 hemi (the biggest engine and performance package they off for that year) and even though it does run and drive it has 270k miles on it and goes through gas like it's nothing.

My other vehicle is a 1972 Camaro, which tech I'm not supposed to use as a daily driver, and also has a crap ton of miles, but the odometer is broken so it just constantly roles the miles as if they're feet. No something I would ever drive unless it's an emergency, or that random day I take it to work or a car show.

So doing anything that requires me to drive costs money, especially right now with the war and the price of oil.

I have to budget and plan all my expenses like anyone else, but in order to start walking the dogs I need to get them dog shoes since I live in the desert and it's getting hot out, which can burn animals paw pads. Just imagine you walking on the side walk in the middle of summer. It might be 90 outside but the concrete is easily 120+.

Unfortunately I rely on video games or things I can at home to pas the time which usually works, and most of the times keeps me from going out and spending money. But sometimes I have no interest in anything. And that's what the past weekend was. Depressed and had no interest in anything.

But that has passed. And I feel I'm back to my normal self, I was just triggered by visiting with my wife and having the dogs get together.
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Robbyv213

So I finally got an interview with REI Co op here in az for a warehouse position. The interview is Monday.

I want to show up day one as me, not my male alter ego. In the applicants portal I have myself listed as trans. So I would assume they already know to an extent and it's not a surprise.

I have a few questions.

What to wear? I just want to keep it simple and not spend a ton of money. I don't have the body to really present super feminine, and I don't have any clothes that scream feminine either.

I was just thinking simple dress pants and a polo shirt (even if their women's slacks and polo).

Should I try to get my hair cut or anything else done?

Ive been growing my hair out for a year and I don't really want to cut it and lose length since I've only recently been able to put it in a ponytail.

If I just do my normal hairstyle it just looks like a masculine comb over and needing a hair cut since the sides and back are long and just curl on their own.

Pony tail gives my hair a clean look and takes it off my neck, but then my neck needs to be trimmed up.

Should I try to get my brows done or like go to Ulta and try to have them work a miracle on me. Lol

I want to try to keep it super basic, I want to go into being open that I'm trans and I am transitioning, I don't want to try to get all super feminine when that's not really me or anything I can actually pull off right now. But I want it to be enough to give off the impression that yes im trans and I'm starting out and figuring it out. So that I have room to grow and evolve vs them having some fake idea of me from an interview

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Quote from: Robbyv213 on April 23, 2026, 03:36:10 PMI want to try to keep it super basic, I want to go into being open that I'm trans and I am transitioning, I don't want to try to get all super feminine when that's not really me or anything I can actually pull off right now. But I want it to be enough to give off the impression that yes im trans and I'm starting out and figuring it out. So that I have room to grow and evolve vs them having some fake idea of me from an interview

This is your answer right there. If you go in all dolled up for a warehouse job, you are sending the wrong signal unless that is how you will look at work every day. Yes, you want to look nice for the interview, but that doesn't mean doing anything special. You will be nervous anyway, so try to be comfortable in your clothing choice. You stated you are trans, but that doesn't mean you need makeup, hairstyling, and a flowing skirt.

If you will wear pants to work, then wear pants and a nice shirt. If you prefer your hair pulled back, then do that. The purpose of the interview is to determine whether you can do the job, not how far along you are in transitioning. Keep it simple, but professional.

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Quote from: Robbyv213 on April 23, 2026, 03:36:10 PMSo I finally got an interview with REI Co op here in az for a warehouse position. The interview is Monday.

I want to show up day one as me...

I have a few questions.

What to wear?

Woohoo! Yeah! Great! Wow! How exciting! You are doing great visualizing and accepting what you want! Congratulations on connecting with where your life is taking you!

I say, wear whatever supports your confidence and self expression. If you want to work as a glamorous receptionist, go to Ulta and put on the frilliest dress that you enjoy. But since you're interviewing for a REI warehouse position, wear clean, neat clothes and groom yourself accordingly. Show them that you fit the job.

Wear what supports your confidence as you focus their attention (and yours) on how well you will meet their needs.

Looking forward to hearing how it goes!
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1999 we met and married :icon_archery:
Fall 2018 The woman hiding behind my husband's facade is coming out full time! :icon_female:
She began MTF HRT but had adverse reactions, so gave up on transitioning medically.
Summer 2022 I went through gender confirmation surgery as a result of cancer.
2024 my wife submitted letters approving of medically transitioning, she's legally changing her name and gender on all of her and our documents and accounts.
January 2025!  SURGERY!
March 2026  Moved from U.S. to Uruguay.

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Robbyv213

Ok thanks. That's basically what I was thinking. I just didn't want to wear my normal boy mode clothing for this interview, but I don't have any non binary or feminine equivalents of what I would wear as a guy.

Ultimately I will most likely just end up wearing my guy clothes. Dress slacks, polo or button up shirt (no tie), nice shoes. Prob pull my hair back, necklace, ring and some bracelets.
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