I've been trying to convince myself for a while to go back to church. I've told myself that my bad experience was selective to my first two churches, and that people are different everwhere I go, that they can be individuals, and not drones. I've been working up the courage, or rather the words, to ask my dad if I could come to a Men's Group meeting with him at his church; they have stuff like miniature golf and other like events to reach out to people, but he suprised me the other day as I was helping him in the garage, by starting a conversation about his group leader.
He's been told specifically, that I can never come to a Men's Group meeting. This honestly broke my agnostic heart, and now I feel as though all the hope I worked myself up to was just shot to pieces, and it was laying at my feet for everyone to walk over. The group leader has never even met me. He only knows me through my dad seeking council for our difficulties concerning the situation. He doesn't even know me and he's judging me!
Here's what my dad said on the matter. How can we reach out to people if we're pushing them away? Isn't Jesus' message to love everyone, and accept them? He doesn't say that this or this person can't be Christian, or love God. No, he says that everyone is welcome, and his group leader retorted with a question: If we let them participate doesn't that mean we are condoning their lifestlye? That hurt me so much, and just left my dad dumbfounded. He doesn't believe that, but is there anything I can say to the guy? I don't know what to do, and this is affecting me more than I want it to. Currently, my dad and brother are boycotting the group on my behalf, though I never asked them to. It's our mutual goal to find a church in our area that we can all go to as a family, that can accept me for who I am, without trying to change me, or without expecting me to change down the road, or be cured by God. There's no curing that's going to go on here. It just leaves me more and more drained when every chance I think I might have leaves me more amd more hopeless.