On the Androgyne question, I'm one of those folks Bishounen referred to. To me, 'sex' and gender are intertwined but separate. It's been clear to me from the start that I'm supposed to have a female body, and that's been at the root of my dysphoria. That's what's been missing, and so surgery has always been the number one thing I wanted.
But from the gender identity point of view, I'm way more androgyne than just 'woman' - I'm not having surgery in order to stop being genderqueer
. I'm not 'fully androgyne' in the sense that I think of myself as both/neither - which is why I refer to myself sometimes as womandrogyne. But androgyne covers a pretty broad spectrum, I think, and I'm somewhere in there.
I really dislike the term 'transsexual', but it looks like we're stuck with it as distinguishing people for whom addressing their gender dysphoria involves making some changes to their body. So to me, that includes anyone who does hormones (and/or FFS), whether or not any surgery is involved. But I know many people out there reserve TS as a label for people who have, or want/plan to have, some kind of surgery to change their primary sexual characteristics (boobs, genitalia).
This is why labels cause controversy - because different people always mean different things by them.
