Words I hate!

[aleon515]

Ma'am and worse madam, ladies (or lady).....

--Jay Jay

[~RoadToTrista~]

Ughh I know! I don't even know any ciswomen who like that stuff.

Hey! I'm not cis but I love being called lady. But not ma'am, makes me sound like I'm 40 lolz.

[suzifrommd]

Manly or unmanly

[Kinkly]

I hate sir and Mister but put up with them all the time if I'm in the right mood when somebody calls me sir I ask if that is spelt with a C or an S with standard response for the C being at least you didn't miss gender me C would mean they said Cur normally I don't say anything. 

[peky]

trans, transsexual, cis, transwoman, passing, life style,

[Devlyn ✅]

"I didn't make gravy."

[Taka]

all those words meant as compliments but only make it sound like they want to force me to be someone else

my body is great for a woman, but generally wasted on me. i rarely feel womanly enough to want to show it off

[Metroland]

Suit and tie.

[Edge]

One of my friends once called me "ma'am." After looking up the etymology and finding that it is used by servants towards bosses, I told him that he is not my servant, but that could change.
I despise the word "victim" when it is used in reference to myself.

[Ash]

I went to a convention and some guy called me sweetheart. It made me cringe. DO I LOOK LIKE A SWEETHEART?! NO!

[Brooke777]

handicapped.  I am not handicapped.  I may not be able to perform the same physical functions as everyone else, but I am not handicapped.

[Mx.Fox]

If there's a reason i hate male pronouns more than female ones it's being called sir.

[aleon515]

One of my friends once called me "ma'am." After looking up the etymology and finding that it is used by servants towards bosses, I told him that he is not my servant, but that could change.

I'm guessing most of these "polite" terms (ma'am, sir, madam, etc.) were used for servant (even slave) to boss (or master) relationships. I think they retain the connotation of lesser to greater in some situations. In others, it's just considered polite address. I notice some (more casual) restaurants never use these as they are run with younger staff, where I am thinking they might seem archaic.

--Jay Jay

[Ariel]

I also hate "sweetheart" or any of those overly familiar terms. Or "chick"... what does that even mean?

I have a tendency to call everyone "dude" regardless of gender, though. I blame 80's television.

[LordKAT]

I think the bank with its repeatedly saying "Insufficient funds" has earned being words I hate.

[Sephirah]

I don't particularly hate any words. However one that often makes me uncomfortable is 'passing'. Probably for two reasons: firstly it evokes images of some sort of clandestine operation (I suppose 'stealth' could also apply to that image), sneaking around in a chameleonic fashion so as to avoid rousing suspicion, using clothing and makeup as camouflage. Secondly the word 'passing' illicits a test of 'realness'. One which must be passed in order to be legitimate in one's identity. Since I don't see people in that way, the word doesn't sit well with me.

[Ariel]

I agree with you there Sephira. And in different groups "passing" can be seen as positive or negative... in some discussions about autism I see "passing" being made to be a negative thing as if it means you're not "really" autistic or a positive thing as if the entire goal in life is to look/act like everyone else.

I take people as they say they are regardless of how they look... but then again I can understand the desire to fit in, I have that a lot.

[Jamie D]

I find "can't" to be very limiting.
I find "won't" to be depressing.

[Taka]

I don't particularly hate any words. However one that often makes me uncomfortable is 'passing'. Probably for two reasons: firstly it evokes images of some sort of clandestine operation (I suppose 'stealth' could also apply to that image), sneaking around in a chameleonic fashion so as to avoid rousing suspicion, using clothing and makeup as camouflage. Secondly the word 'passing' illicits a test of 'realness'. One which must be passed in order to be legitimate in one's identity. Since I don't see people in that way, the word doesn't sit well with me.

i don't like the word too much either
where's the point in passing as something i am? i'd get it if it were passing as someone i'm not, but...
i don't have any desire to "pass" as anything. i only hope to be seen as me

[DrillQuip]

"Proper"

I can't stand that word. Feels like its always used in a condescending way. As in "Your doing it wrong." or "I know what's best." "In my society this is how we do things."