"Relevant" depth, can one ask THAT question?

[AbraCadabra]

to check for actual opening and depth of natural vaginas you could go look at some porn but only if you can stand being triply depressed if you can't achieve either the sex or depth or find porn nasty.

I guess "relevant "depths (and width) for some porn stars be measured by 1 ltr plastic Coke bottle 1/2 way in?!

I see when you mention NOT to get depressed. THAT... way out of league...

So maybe it's find your poison (man?) - and start practicing before we become bloody (pun intended) virgins once again?



Axélle

[Beth Andrea]

I'm wondering (without getting graphic or moaning, etc)...instead of using a hard dialator, has anyone tried using a "realistic" dildo of the appropriate size? That's a bit softer to the touch, but still rigid enough to enter. I'm just curious, I'd think it'd be more comfortable.

[AbraCadabra]

I'm wondering (without getting graphic or moaning, etc)...instead of using a hard dialator, has anyone tried using a "realistic" dildo of the appropriate size? That's a bit softer to the touch, but still rigid enough to enter. I'm just curious, I'd think it'd be more comfortable.

My experience is that lubrication with the softer ones is a bit of an issue. The harder the surface, the easier to lube the dang thing.
The one I mentioned is semi-firm of firm foam covered with a thick-ish layer of latex. It already is less 'slippy' than the standard type acrylic dilator.
I think a real 'Long John Silver' with a regular and good dynamic action to show his affection can't be beat 

Now to find one of 'em...

Axélle

[lilacwoman]

I guess "relevant "depths (and width) for some porn stars be measured by 1 ltr plastic Coke bottle 1/2 way in?!

I see when you mention NOT to get depressed. THAT... way out of league...

So maybe it's find your poison (man?) - and start practicing before we become bloody (pun intended) virgins once again?



Axélle

I've not seen any coke bottle porn as I never looked at porn until just a few months ago when I was off dilating with pain and had a look at some hetero porn to see what size of men were out there and what depth they seemed to be getting with different size women and like folks say the natural vagina does seem able to take any size and any length.

It would cost too much to try all the dilators on the market but I found a DrJohnson soft one that is about 6.5 long and about 1.2 diameter with a round end about 1.5dia.   
The plain end had a sharp edge that I snipped smoother and now its fine to use for long periods.

I also bought a realistic one of slightly bendy rubber and its also about 6.5 inches to the big scrotum shape.

so basically I still have almost the 7 inches but any loss is due to external shrinkage/bruise reduction.

I don't think straight hard dilators are ideal for us and maybe the banana ones arent either.
I think the surface should be grooved or have dimples to help spread the lube.

[AbraCadabra]

Thinking just of yesterday's dilating session, it also (obviously?) has to do with what was mentioned earlier on... one's MIND SET.

If not in the 'mood' at all, the whole exercise becomes one unpleasant chore, dishwashing seems fun by comparison. It takes ages to get to any sort of depth, "relevant" or otherwise.
So, yes, even a neo-vj is prone to a noticeable amount of variation in these circumstances - I don't even want to mention numbers as it feels no good.

Just reflecting on all that was said this far... and thank you for all your inputs 
Axélle

[Julie Wilson]

To some degree you can control the position of your pelvis so as to moderate the penetration during sexual intercourse.  You can also do this with positions.  If you are in a missionary position a male will be able to get a certain amount of depth but if you put your legs around him and tilt your pelvis forward he will be able to get more depth.  If you want to limit depth tilt pelvis to the rear during missionary.  Essentially tilt pelvis away from partner to avoid deeper penetration.

Women tend to complain more about partners being too big rather than being too small.  I am referring to women who were born with all the right bits, not just women like us.

You can make a nice sticky lube that has staying power by mixing equal parts AstroLube and K-Y Jelly and you can buy a vaginal syringe from this website http://www.abundanthealth4u.com/Vaginal_Syringe_p/9259.htm  May come in handy for women who prefer to maintain control of their lives when possible.  1cc tends to be plenty.

[AbraCadabra]

Thanks again for the detail

Axx

[Beth Andrea]

btw, I really like your new pic/avatar, Axélle!

[AbraCadabra]

btw, I really like your new pic/avatar, Axélle!

Thanks sweetie, I'd decided to go 'Foxy' as it's so cold here still.

Though it's a 'faux fox' body warmer (and cowl-neck knit-dress), "relevant" to mention...

Axx

[Beth Andrea]

Thanks sweetie, I'd decided to go 'Foxy' as it's so cold here still.

Though it's a 'faux fox' body warmer (and cowl-neck knit-dress), "relevant" to mention...

Axx

That is odd! I understand "south of the equator" and all, but August is our "hot" month (middle of summer). Today it's expected to be about 90^F (33 C)...Same during Christmas, it's winter, lots of snow, cold, etc...The Earth seems to be quite a big place, what with different seasons at the same time...

[AbraCadabra]

That is odd! I understand "south of the equator" and all, but August is our "hot" month (middle of summer). Today it's expected to be about 90^F (33 C)...Same during Christmas, it's winter, lots of snow, cold, etc...The Earth seems to be quite a big place, what with different seasons at the same time...

We had chilly polar winds from South-West and it reduced my "relevant" depth even further, and my chipmunk face to boot! 

Today we actually had the first break! Temperatures jumped by about 20 deg C!
"Relevant" depth though still frozen... - such a pain!

Axx
PS: did anyone take notice... we had not a single FAAB chipping in, just as I had mentioned in my OP. It IS taboo, eh?

[Beth Andrea]

We had chilly polar winds from South-West and it reduced my "relevant" depth even further, and my chipmunk face to boot! 

Today we actually had the first break! Temperatures jumped by about 20 deg C!
"Relevant" depth though still frozen... - such a pain!

Axx
PS: did anyone take notice... we had not a single FAAB chipping in, just as I had mentioned in my OP. It IS taboo, eh?

You mean you STILL get ball sack shrinkage with cold? LOL!

As to FAAB, I don't know...with guys (or even former guys), boasting about size is relatively common...with girlz, "size" isn't something to brag about ("hotdog in a hallway" comes to mind). Smaller is better! Plus, by not talking about it, they keep some of the "mystique" about that very personal anatomical par-ar-ar-art. (Sorry, had a bit of an echo in there... )

I don't know tho, because it's never come up in conversation before...

[AbraCadabra]

You funny Beth 

But all you say rings true ... including the "shrinkage" ! Would an FAAB have such an effect? I mean actually why not?
Have a cold sitz-bath and become a virgin - just for while?

Oh dear, now I get ideas on being even more mysterious, he-he 

Axélle