Avoiding arousal?

warlockmaker · June 18, 2013, 10:08:06 PM

I was an exceptionally active male with a really high T count - I loved sex. I'm on HRT and I still love sex, but the spontaneous erections have gone. It require a more focused mental motivation to get one - but OMG its so much more intense.

Olivia-Anne · June 18, 2013, 10:25:10 PM

Well, I wasn't talking about repressing sexuality or anything. What I was refering to in my post was that I heard or read somewhere, that some doctors believe that it is easier to get orgasms post op if you keep the connection in your mind with orgasms. Almost like if you stop having them it will be harder because you are rusty at it and now you have new genitals. Personally it is my belief that the mind is the main sex organ, and I just want to keep the use of it. Granted a little less now then before. Also, getting erections will help keep the bits from shrikining which normally means more depth? Honestly I have no claims to back any of this up. But, its what im practicing.

<3 Liv

A · June 18, 2013, 11:45:27 PM

Quote from: sam79 on June 18, 2013, 07:46:35 PM
Thank you all for the responses and help. I've taken up solving math problems in my head when I notice any amount of arousal. Works pretty well. Can't believe I didn't think of that before.

On a somewhat related note, I understood that it can be helpful to occasionally let the dangler get erect so as to avoid unnecessary material shortages with SRS. Is that the case? I'm not the largest in that department to begin with, so I'd rather not have any shortage of material for surgeons. Is my understanding correct?

I did notice a certain amount of temporary shrinkage for a while while it was out of action due to a bout of depression. As a side note, that also made tucking more difficult as there was little to tuck if that makes any sense.

If you want to keep having erections, then yes, you must "practice", because the erectile tissue will be quite unused if you don't, and the more I think about it, the more I think it's the combination of not being used and tucking that causes that pain I felt when I got an erection. But for surgery material, such things matter little if not not at all. Almost all of the erectile tissue is removed during SRS. Only the tiniest bit is kept for the clitoris. The rest is thrown away. What's important is the skin. and if you're anything like me, tucking implies quite a sufficient amount of stretching that skin. That's just what you need. Sure, you can try erections. I'm sure they do the job too. But I have a feeling they're actually less effective regarding length. As for width, I just stretch it a bit once in a while.

Quote from: Olivia-Anne on June 18, 2013, 10:25:10 PM
Well, I wasn't talking about repressing sexuality or anything. What I was refering to in my post was that I heard or read somewhere, that some doctors believe that it is easier to get orgasms post op if you keep the connection in your mind with orgasms. Almost like if you stop having them it will be harder because you are rusty at it and now you have new genitals. Personally it is my belief that the mind is the main sex organ, and I just want to keep the use of it. Granted a little less now then before. Also, getting erections will help keep the bits from shrikining which normally means more depth? Honestly I have no claims to back any of this up. But, its what im practicing.

<3 Liv

Oh, I see. It's mental then. Well, in that case, I can only say it probably varies even more. But for me, even assuming I didn't have the pain and could masturbate, it would only increase trauma. Masturbation was never a remotely pleasant experience to me, and I'm glad I'm free from it.

A · June 18, 2013, 11:55:10 PM

Oh, but I'm open to sex later in my life. Just not with this organ. Anyway SRS is most likely next summer or so. I can wait. Anyway all of the people I've fallen in love with recently were both trans and very far away. :p

Nicole · June 19, 2013, 12:04:50 AM

I hope for your sake that there isn't a hang up later.

I think you need to romance yourself a little, you might just like it, btw, you don't have to touch "it" to have a great time

A · June 19, 2013, 07:39:14 AM

That vastly depends on the person. Some people (me included) don't feel anything good with other "spots".

Bookworm · June 19, 2013, 08:35:43 AM

I know I tuck and then grind my pillow

omg I cant believe i just said that

Nicole · June 20, 2013, 11:31:17 PM

wouldn't it hurt bending it the other way and getting hard?

its been so long since I had one....

A · June 25, 2013, 08:29:40 AM

Eh, it can't get very hard if it's tucked. The half-erection that happens when the penis is tucked doesn't hurt. What does is if you bring it forward and it tries to achieve a full erection in its intended direction. At that point it's not used to being being that way or being fully erected anymore. Then it hurts, especially if you try to manipulate it in any way.

Bookworm · June 25, 2013, 12:35:39 PM

all the nerve and the rubbing of the glands are what feels good.

there is a topic at the moment on masturbation and this topic

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,143395.0/topicseen.html

lorena · July 07, 2013, 02:05:19 AM

I am pre-hormones (and working on seen an therapies, hopefully soon). For me arousal, at least the way it almost always happens, is just a reminder of how uncomfortable I feel with myself. It is usually associated with anxiety and guilt. On of the reasons I would like to start treatment is so I can get rid of it (male arousal). On the other hand, there are times (unfortunately not as often as I wish), when my arousal is not associated with what is between my legs, but to something else. Those are the times when I can close my eyes and feel as if my entire body were involved...Who knows, maybe down the road, with treatment, I will be able to harness them;and if not, get to the point where the male-type arousal is no longer a problem.

FrancisAnn · July 07, 2013, 06:39:39 AM

My HRT is going great however I sometimes do have things happen. I normally just tuck everything away with tight panties & forget it. Then I paint my nails or wash dishes or pluck my eyebrows. I will be so happy on the day of my surgery to have all these extra appendages used to create a nice vagina & begin dilation.

xchristine · July 07, 2013, 10:48:10 AM

Okay now I'm thouroughly confused ...

So I have to masturbate myself to completion regularly??

Coz I'm on a high dose of Spiro...its almost impossible
Unless I get laid...which I don't sleep around much

I'm worried now I might be missing or not unsestanfing
Something

Riley Skye · July 07, 2013, 10:53:19 AM

For me 6 months on hormones and all of my libido has disappeared. When in the past it was a daily occurrence it is now not even once a week occurrence and only when I really feel like it. I do say it is the weirdest feeling having none at all. Well that was a surprising amount I revealed since sex is my biggest trigger unfortunately

A · July 07, 2013, 04:35:08 PM

Quote from: xchristine on July 07, 2013, 10:48:10 AM
Okay now I'm thouroughly confused ...

So I have to masturbate myself to completion regularly??

Coz I'm on a high dose of Spiro...its almost impossible
Unless I get laid...which I don't sleep around much

I'm worried now I might be missing or not unsestanfing
Something

No, you don't. Don't worry about that kind of thing. Optimally just stretch the skin once in a while and you'll be fine.

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xchristine