Quote from: Stochastic on December 08, 2013, 08:02:11 PM
Hope you can find a positives as well.
This has been a most provocative comment, Julia. I have been mulling it over for days. 'Positives!?!?' I ask myself. 'In being trans?!?!'
Personally, I am still struggling with full acceptance of this situation and many days are spent in an alternating hurricane of panic and despair. In the midst of this, positives are hard to see. It is not that they don't exist, but it is difficult for me to see them.
This where your comment comes in. It feels like you are inviting me to consider the question, 'What
are the positives in being trans for me?' Empathy, sensitivity, an ability to see many sides / possibilities - these and more come up, which is helpful in a 'whew it's not all horrible' kind of way.
What is striking me as even more interesting, however, is the space in which I am able to experience and note these positives. I cannot access any of these when I consider myself as either 'male' or 'female'. When residing in these extremes, I end up whirling about in the hurricane mentioned above - my mind is racing, my body on fire, my ability to see or feel or sense near wholly consumed by these.
On the other hand, when I am able to rest between these two extremes - letting my body appear as it appears ('male', by the way), my internal experience arise as it arises (typically 'female', sometimes 'neutral') - the hurricane subsides and the positives already mentioned become much, much more accessible to me. It is literally as if I am another person. It actually feels okay.
Which makes me wonder: I have read a great deal about the spiritual potency of transgender folk in traditional cultures. In most of this reading, this power is affirmed but never explained or exemplified.
Might this potency arise, in part, out of the sort of 'in between' state some us us find ourselves in? In shamanic - and other spiritual - work, 'in between' is a place of great uncertainty and, consequently, great promise and power. Might this be what your question has allowed me to touch here today?