Quote from: Dennis on May 29, 2005, 02:10:11 PMWhen I told her that I was seeing a therapist about transitioning, she dumped me within 15 minutes and refused to spend another night in the same house as me.
i can't imagine quite that reaction in anybody who didn't have their own issues with the subject beforehand. it has to make me wonder possibly if she's "in the closet" about that... or perhaps took a dim view to or had a bad experience with somebody else she knew going through something that was or seemed to her like a transition. unfortunately, some people who are mentally unstable seem to latch on to transition as a possible "way out", as it were. perhaps she knew one such person before.
she seemed to have no qualms whatsoever about shaking your confidence deeply. either she doesn't care about you, she has a talent in not noticing when she's being blunt or she has a strange way of expressing things (either or any is possible).
again... the sudden reaction "i don't... you do
(have issues with this)" seems very defensive. maybe she needs some help getting over some things herself.
talking to you like that, she shouldn't expect any sort of help back, of course. then again, one of the most rewarding things to do in life is to exceed such expectations. although you might just be pushing against a brick wall... i can't tell from here. up to you if you think it's pointless or not.
as for you, there doesn't seem like anything whatsoever up with you, from where i sit. and in my opinion, don't even bother about fretting over whether or not it's easier or more difficult for an FtoM to pass or not pass, or any such thing like that. pass or no, you're a man, and that's who you are, so you've got to live for yourself. of course, many of life's complications hold up such ideals... just make sure that's where you're ultimately headed - towards living as you truly are, over a not unreasonable length of time.
i don't know how different it is for us MtoFs compared with you FtoMs, but i know that i don't pass, and i never pretend to be a bloke. so neither aught you pretend to be a bird, unless circumstance truly forces it of you (ie. death threats).