I'd like to open up a discussion about perspective in relation to being/discovering/living as a person whose is trans and/or their gender differs from the "normal people" (sorry, had no other quick way to put that but I'm sure everyone knows what I mean by the normal people).
Tanya brought up in another post that in other cultures, people between genders held a certain power. I kind of connected to that. It kind of gives me that tingly rush feeling when something really deep and crazy happens. Without taking up a whole post just on that, the gist of it is that I've always felt like I had power that many people don't. Perhaps other cultures knew this eons ago ... that people who were "born different" in the gender department were, indeed, special.
I'm a total sci-fi/horror nerd and I remember seeing two old Twilight Zone episodes that seriously had an effect on me when I was a child. One was where a "homely" looking girl is fighting against choosing a model of a body to turn into so that she could be "just like everyone else" in society. She fights all the way till the end and has some great lines about the importance of individuality, but they catch her and she ends up in a debutant body just like everyone else. The other is this one where this women is undergoing plastic surgery because she is so hideous that everyone can barely stand to look at her. The big revel when the bandages are off is that she's basically the 50's American beauty, however everyone else in this realm is this horribly disfigured pig-nosed person - but they are, in fact, beautiful and it's the American beauty who's the ugly one.
Perspective, to me, is such an important thing in life. What if there was an alternate reality where being trans was normal and for everyone else, the tables would be turned? What if 5 years from now, because of the LGBT movement, people are approving of being trans like they're starting to approve gay marriage? What if gender expression wasn't stifled, but encouraged? Yes, these are all hypothetical, big, broad things, but we can micronize little bits and apply them to our own lives. What if we just started to let our inner selves out to the world, regardless of HRT therapy, counseling, or anything else. What if we felt OK just to be ourselves?
Granted, a perspective change doesn't work in all scenarios. If you have really bad dysphoria for instance, it's hard enough just to deal with that, let alone to try and change your mind about it. But small pebbles create big waves. What is the smallest, tiniest thing you could think about differently about your own body. Is there any, small, positive thing you can think of? Start there, and explore that. Take your time. Don't force it, it's not a race.