I figure I'll bump this as I'm new to the game and have a hobby... ham radio. ham is not HAM.
Right?
I have an Extra class license and live in 7-land. I do mostly local vhf, I'm a repeater trustee, club secretary, webmaster, Volunteer Examiner, Net Control Coordinator, somebody please tell me I'm taking on too many activities...! I am thinking of joining ARES to get a head start on the local disaster scene. Never can have enough coverage!
On the topic of getting a license, the best answer is studying as much as you can, and passing the online practice tests consistently. I used the practice exams at qrz dot com and hamstudy dot org. also, look for the grotesque antennas on a neighbors rooftop, walk up to the door and ask if he can help. I know that may be contrary to some people's instincts, but it works. Politeness and curiosity are the best clothes you could wear that day.
On the topic of joining a club, a club is nice and we do hold social activities monthly not related to the General Meeting. A holdover from years past (I mean long ago past) is the "YL" Luncheon. The men (expected only men to be hams) sit in one section, and their wives (YL is Young Lady, abbreviation is easier for Morse Code, which some folks still use) get a different section.
I'm not out to the world yet, but I think the club now would have a collective cow if they knew. Once the Old Guard has left it should be a different matter. The club I came from had a nice lady, but she left the club; another member there misgendered her and words were said. So, I'm a little reluctant to say anything just yet. I konw it's a tough road, but hopefully the experiences of others will help smooth it out.