Heyo, I was hoping I could get some advice from y'all on this.
I've been coming out to my family and friends since mid february, roughly, but I've intentionally saved two folks for last: my mum and dad. Might sound a little weird, going from strangers and working inwards, but there it is ^^"
I've been thinking a lot about when I want to tell them, but it's a bit difficult... I have an opportunity to tell my mum this summer, as I'll be visiting with her for a week, but I'm not exactly sure the best way to tell her, or the exact timing. I've been thinking that writing a letter would be best for her, something solid, with a lot of facts and resources for her along with explaining my personal feelings. But the thing that gets me is the timing... I have a feeling that her reaction will not be the greatest, just based off of some stuff she's said in the past, but I'm uncertain of just how badly it will go[then again, she could surprise me, but...].
Which do you guys think would be best?
-tell her towards the beginning, so we have time to talk..? [the potential problem with this one is if it goes really badly, I'm stuck till the end of the week]
-Tell her towards the end of the week, so there's time to talk but maybe only a day or so [this way if it did go badly, it's at most 24 hours till the plane]
-Give her the letter at the airport, which gives her the time that I'm flying to read and react to it[but the problem with this is that we won't see each other face-to-face again for a while]
-Mail her the letter after I come home[this would mean it's safe to be there, with no risk, but I'd have to deal with her wanting to buy/give me feminine things, have her call me by my birth name, female pronouns, etc.]
Or if any of you have dealt with this[which I'm sure this isn't something new], how did y'all do it, if I may ask?
Thank you for any help you can offer..
--Lukas