The trend of explaining away our conditions

[helen2010]

It's interesting to read that, as a non-binary trans* person, because my experience is exactly that - but in the opposite direction, from binary trans* people instead. What this suggests to me is that there are some trans* people with big emotional investments in wanting others to be like them, and they tend to be the ones doing all the... well, to paraphrase a saying: the trans* community is like a swimming pool - all the noise is at the shallow end. So the end result is both non-binary and binary folk feeling browbeaten, because we've all got some people yelling at us for being who we are, even within the trans* community.

To be honest, this was one of the reasons why I had to step away from Susan's for a long time - just too many people eager to force their own experiences into others, and especially a lot of demonising of non-binary folk (or even just less gender-conforming folk) for "making us look bad" (yes, I had that said to me several times, for example for saying I didn't intend to change my voice).

Padma

Ditto.  As a non binary I seek to respect another TG person's narrative and identity.  However I don't react well to the TG binary police who often project their world view on to the entire TG community.  In addition to being disrespectful it can be quite inappropriate.  The journey towards understanding, accepting, expressing and celebrating our TG identity is challenging enough without us turning on each other.

Aisla