LostWriter,
If you did want to think about the subject, here are some points to dwell on: Most, although not all of the norms, standards, and behaviors traditionally associated with gender are not innate. They are the product of our culture, upbringing, and the conditioning that starts on the day we are born, and placed into either a blue or pink bassinet on account of a relatively arbitrary physical trait-our assigned sex. There are some traits that are most certainly at least partially biological-increased aggression and muscular growth in males, for example, is caused by the effects of testosterone. But nowhere in our genes is there a code that says "dresses=XX and Pants=XY", or that the way you sit has anything to do with gender, or what turns you on-visuals or words. All of these things are the result of a culture that places people into one of two categories. My advice? Accept that you are going to transcend some of these arbitrary standards, and take pride in it. Not everyone out there consciously does the same. You're a girl. it doesn't really matter how you sit or even what you look like. iIf you say you are female and feel yourself to be female-you are. It's your identity and you get to play by your own rules, not society's. It's up to you to decide what being female means, and how you want to express that identity. Some people don't disrupt gender norms even a little bit-and that's their choice to make. Some people like myself really love disrupting the system. That doesn't make me any more or less of what I identify as. And if you want to be someone who bends those norms, that's perfectly ok. It doesn't mean you aren't transgender, it just means you don't buy into this idiotic system we have in place. And that liberation is something to be celebrated.
Best,
Sasha
