Quote from: kelly_1979 on December 03, 2015, 12:19:18 PM
Yeah, I'll try the first but I probably couldn't keep it from my parents since currently I don't have any extra money. Anyway, I'll try.
It's just that I feel I'm being pushed closer and closer to completely breaking down. I almost cried at work but managed to hide it. I know I can probably (can I?) just push my way through but my emotional status is almost completely unpredictable. I just feel so fake putting up this persona, I make cruel jokes and keep trying to "hide" until I feel it's "safe"....
edit: yeah...so much for trying...even trying to mention the facts that I need to take some drugs for my hair loss they started saying drugs can cause cancer (that I should see how so many patients are suffering from cancer) that they can cause permanent effects etc...
No matter how many times I try to elaborate how much I'm suffering they're just saying I shouldn't damage my health.
I don't get how they can be so stubborn....don't they understand how serious the situation is?
edit2: My mother just told me Dad took some Bromazepam to relax because he felt his heart. (Well they do care about me, but they are very afraid and still can't accept/ understand (?)) Really don't know what to believe...
Hi Kelly,
Your parents know that HRT isn't dangerous (risky, sure, but thousands take it without issues). Your parents knew long ago that you were not going to have a 'normal' career -- what percentage of people even attempt a PhD?
The fact is, your parents are scared. Your mother has cancer. They are both getting older. No doubt, they are feeling that they are not totally in control of their lives, and in a society predicated on the belief that we are creators of our own destiny, this can be a shocking, depressing reminder of how ephemeral our lives really are. Of course, your potential for transition is undoubtedly contributing to their anxiety.
But there are no threats. There is no violence. Your parents are scared, yes. But they know that in life, things do not always work out as planned. They may not want you to transition, but they unquestionably support your right to be happy, and to live your life as you wish... why else would they financially support you when they wish you had a 'normal' job, family, etc.?
The thing is, we're not actually afraid of what things that we cannot change. Your mother's illness is no doubt a great cause of stress for her, but once you are sick, it is pointless being afraid of it -- you just have to accept it, try and treat it as best you can, and do your best to not to let it drag you down and stop you living your life the way you want to.
The same goes with your dysphoria. Trust me, nobody wants it! But it is pointless being afraid of things you cannot change. You just have to accept it, treat it as best you can, and do your best to not let it drag you down and stop you living your life the way you want to.
Once you decide to do that, based on what you have told us, I have no doubt that your parents will be right there beside you