So many times I do sooooo want to transition and be female. Many times I've felt like be a super feminine woman (in terms of clothes and demeanor) and even more felt like having sex as a woman. But there are many times where I'm just stopped in my tracks (in planning transitioning) because I'm "too guyish", because I feel too aggressive and masculine, or attracted to a woman in a "romantic gentleman way", only for awhile, but enough to throw doubt on me and mess me up. Not only do I deal with dysphoria, I deal with situations which make me feel like my desires are stupid and irrealistic and at times even that I'm a fool that deluded myself into the idea that I could be a woman and transition.
And then I wear women's clothes and then I feel like a woman. I feel soooo aggravated and confused.
It's like I'm tri-gendered but with a desire to have a female body and be female, but I feel like I can't deny that I'm tri-gendered.
I had dreams of being a business leader and an organization leader. In that context, being male would have helped me a lot, but I didn't want to deny my female feelings, and crush my dreams of being a feminine woman. I feel like if I built a life as male, it'd be a life built on sand. But on the other hand I don't feel female enough to reliably transition. I'm stuck in a world that, even though is more friendly to LGBT people now, still is full of people who don't understand and don't tolerate LGBT people, and my gender issues would be a liability to any mainstream organization (especially if I took a leadership position.) I mean, you can't be seen as a freak and easily get a job, let alone a leadership position (of course its hard enough for anyone to get a job nowadays.) Unfortunately I am not a highly talented musician or someone else who can successfully make money while being able to be very idiosyncratic.
I don't want my gender issues to be an anchor or dead weight to my future. I don't want people to see me as a freak and that it'd be a liability. I can't be a damn loner and cutoff my relations with cisgendered people.
I feel like my future is evaporating and I dunno if it was worth it. I don't want to have a failed life, dammit!